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Update on Mamma

Saturday, March 23, 2013

My mother was unable to return to her home. She needs help with her new walker, and is in a rehab center for probably a week. Boy, is she mad!

She thinks of a nursing home as an "old age prison". It is so sad. For years, she has said that she never wanted to end up in a rehab center, and now she is here. Hopefully, we can help her change her attitude.

The sayins is so true: "Whan Mamma ain't happy, ain't no one happy!"
Please pray for my Mamma.

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    emoticon I will keep your Mom in my thoughts and prayers.

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68ANNE 3/24/2013 5:57PM

    Thinking of you!

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MJ7DM33 3/23/2013 9:21PM

  Prayers are on the way! emoticon

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    I am glad your momma is acting the idea of being in the rehab unit to get stronger and more independent.

I work in a rehab/nursing home. There are good things and bad things about them. Rehab is a wonderful thing if used properly. It can help those with weakness after surgery or a stroke or other health problems to get stronger and return home or an assisted living facility. Nursing homes also do this with older patients that need more time to recovery from illnesses or surgery. Nursing homes also care for those suffering from alzheimers or dementia or just old age. The level of care varies from nursing home to nursing home. I would recommend that if you must put your loved one in a nursing home for short or long care look for one with a five star rating. This means that they excel in all area of care and meet all regulations, with no tags for being unsatisfactory in any area.

Sometimes older residents feel as if their family just drops them off and desserts them. That they don't want to be bothered with them. I have seen many a resident sit waiting for a loved one to call or come for a visit all evening only to go to bed with tears in their eyes. A nursing home is not the end of the line. We do provide care for those that have terminal or end stage health conditions.It is a home for those who need one. For the most part the nurse's and caregivers are as attached to the resident as they are their own parents or grandparents. They share laughs and good times and give support and hugs freely. Nursing home staff are the residents advocate, ensuring safe and excellent health care. Pat

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CAPECODLIGHT 3/23/2013 5:53PM

    Glad to hear she is no longer madder than a wet hen. The rehab side of things are usually much more pleasant. My sister had to stay in a rehab facility when she had her knee replacement. She's a young 67. So, it is not the end of the line as so many fear. Keep her focused on getting well and getting out of there; and we'll all be praying for Mamma and you!

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AUNTIEANNE22 3/23/2013 4:59PM

  Rehab should be different from a nursing home. Usually the care is better because the person is expected to go home at the end of a specified time. Nursing homes are long term and, in general, people don't do well in them. The care is often more lax. I have worked in a nursing home and I would never do it again. I now work in home care so my clients don't have to go to nursing homes.

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EJOY-EVELYN 3/23/2013 3:01PM

    My mama resisted nursing homes, too, and knew that she would simply give up living if life came to this. So unfortunate. She's been gone 11 years but she's with her Lord and no longer in chronic pain. My Dad is living yet, but spend a couple months in rehab and ended up having to call 911 after 30 minutes and no one would come to his aid to go to the bathroom. So Sad. He got the nursing home in trouble, but I sincerely believe he was in the right to call. So many people in nursing homes get neglected, so visit her often if this is her course in life . . . even the staff tend to take better care when regular visitors are around (my apologies if you happen to read this and are a health-care provider who excels at their job in a great or Godly way -- if so, we need more of you!). Hug, hug -- Evelyn

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SUSIEPH1 3/23/2013 12:36PM

    Glad your Mamma is responding to rehab .. I am sure she e
Will realise it is the best place for her right now xxxHugs xx emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JSTETSER 3/23/2013 11:30AM

    Thank you everyone for your love and prayers.
I just got back from my visit with Mamma. She is starting to adjust to the fact that she is there, and has to work well with PT in order to get out quickly.

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ANJAYS-JOURNEY 3/23/2013 10:36AM

  praying that she will get home soon!!

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LOOKINGUP2012 3/23/2013 10:27AM

    Praying she will learn her exercises and continue them at home. emoticon

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RD03875 3/23/2013 9:24AM

    Continued prayers for your mom!

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PUDLECRAZY 3/23/2013 8:47AM

    I agree with Mama, nursing homes are old age prisons. Sending her love and prayers and energy so she can rehab and go home. Help her remember this is rehab center and she's there to recover.

Love to you both.

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PYNETREE 3/23/2013 8:32AM

    Went through the same thing with my Mom..who always said the same thing!

Prayers for your Momma..and for you. It is not easy!

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1CRAZYDOG 3/23/2013 8:29AM

    Awwwww, sorry your Mom requires the rehab facility services, but hopefully it won't be long. HUGS and prayers for sure.

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MSLZZY 3/23/2013 7:48AM

    No one likes to lose their independence but if it is just for a week, she may find it is not so bad. Stay positive! HUGS!

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TORTISE110 3/23/2013 7:46AM

    As bad as care centers can be, they can also motivate a patient to get home by doing the PT necessary. (I'll do anything to get out of here!!) Having done this drill with my own parents and others, I suggest that you make sure she is getting enough PT. THAT is the ticket out.

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DJ4HEALTH 3/23/2013 7:20AM

    I know that when my husband had to stay there he was not happy there either and the diet was so bad and it was only about 1500 calories a day and it seemed like they did not know how to feed the people there and it was keeping them is a calorie deficient state. He only stayed a week and checked himself out and I got him home and feed him some good food to build up his strength. He passed away on Feb 11 after battling cancer and the last treatment is what killed him.

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SANDRALEET 3/23/2013 7:15AM

    I Pray that trough God she will find peace no matter were she is,

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ERIN1957 3/23/2013 7:05AM

    I will :(
My father hates being there. He has been there now four years and is miserable. If we would have had a choice we sure would have found a solution outside of there. It is difficult for the ones with sound minds, but with physical issues and require special care. The physical care for our parents is sometimes beyond our abilities. It is a very heart breaking process for all.

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MARINEMAMA 3/23/2013 7:01AM

    Hugs! I will send up prayers!

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MARYJOANNA 3/23/2013 5:37AM

  Perhaps if you reminded her that this a place where they will rehabilitate her and help her she wouldn't be so mad. I will pray for you,

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