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Continuing saga of the patient lift, etc.


Friday, March 22, 2013

The new lift to transfer my husband is working out very well--after a week of asking professionals how to adjust it.

His physical therapist was delighted today because it will actually help his whole body stay stronger. She wants him to always attempt to draw himself up as much as possible when using it and even ( emoticon ) use it 2 extra times a day just to be in a standing position. (That means I am the one hooking him into it and maneuvering him).

He cannot hold his own weight at all. Like you in a chair , you can pull yourself up and be straighter even if the chair supports you.

We also had a doctor's appointment and the doctor is supportive of the things I needed 'prescriptions " for. He is a wonderful doctor. He just does not know what we need so I have to research that first--soon, hopefully, with the nurse that visits the house next week. I asked him for the nurse. Without me even knowing we need a nurse, all this would not be happening.

So, the saga continues. Yes, I am a bit sick of this taking up all my time--for years. But what-are-ya-gonna-do? having him in a 'home' would not be easier. Someone still has to monitor what the 'home' is doing. A friend had her husband there temporarily and his weight went down to 103 lbs. And he is tall.

Everyone says I should 'place' him. Really, that won't solves my problems.

I do love him. And he is funny. he sings me his invented songs, etc. etc. He often plays the songs of the 60's and that fills my day with music. I never seem to have the time to turn on the music.

through our marriage, I left his health habits up to him. Maybe that was not such a good idea.

chris
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STITCH4EVER 3/24/2013 1:23PM

    I DO KNOW SOMEONE PERSONALLY, THAT DID HAVE TO PUT HER HUSBAND IN A HOME. HE WAS NO UNHAPPY THERE, BUT THERE WAS THE COST AS WELL AS HER TRYING TO KEEP UP WITH THE NEEDS OF THE HOUSE THEY OWNED. REPAIRS AND THINGS LIKE THAT MOUNT UP AS WELL AS THE YARD WORK AND SNOW REMOVAL. SHE WORKS, TRIES TO TAKE CARE OF THE HOUSE AND DO HER OWN CHORES AND ALMOST NEVER HAS TIME TO VISIT HIM. THAT IS SAD FOR BOTH OF THEM. NOW SHE WISHES HE WAS BACK AT HOME, BUT HEALTH AND HUMAN SERVICES WILL NOT DO IT THAT WAY NOW. I DON'T KNOW WHAT THEIR RULES ARE IN THIS STATE. IF YOU CAN TOLERATE THE EXTRA WORK, AND HE OTHERWISE MAKES YOU HAPPY; I WOULD SAY KEEP HIM AT HOME. ARE YOU ABLE TO WORK OUTSIDE THE HOME AT ALL?
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TIME2BLOOM4ME 3/23/2013 12:48PM

    Hugs. You must do what is best for you. However, please be aware that nursing homes aren't always the best answers for his health. I used to work in one .

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GRAMMACATHY 3/23/2013 12:39PM

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GINA180847 3/23/2013 10:18AM

    My husband also has health concerns and his thoughts about his health occupy his mind a lot. He has stomach problems, lung problems, a bad shake, arthritis, and an a heart that will beat out of rhythme. He gets depressed from all this and that is the worst. We have to avoid smoke of every kind. But like you he has been so good to me and makes me feel good about myself. He considers me very intelligent (?????) and we pray together every day. I wouldn't trade him for the world but if he gets worse he may occupy all my time and that would not be good.

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ADAPTOR 3/23/2013 2:38AM

    I understand how much work you are putting into this. We had my mom at home for quite a while and her care really just became so overwhelming.You are a saint. emoticon

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123ELAINE456 3/23/2013 2:15AM

  I'm Glad that the New Lift is Working Out Well for You and that You are getting the needed support from His Doctor, PT and Nurse. Each of Us is Responsible for what we eat. Healthly or Unhealthy. The choice is Ours. So don't worry about what has happen in the past. Sounds like that Your Husband is very Entertaining with His Music and Singing. That is very Good for You. You are doing a fine job with Him at Home too. Keep It Up. God Blessings to You and Everyone. Have a Wonderful Weekend. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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1STATEOFDENIAL 3/23/2013 1:49AM

    So good that the new lift is working and you're figuring out how to use it best.

Instead of putting him in a home, have you really thought about finding a place where you can be together but get the help you need to take care of him? There are places that can help with stuff but where each person/couple has their own area. That way you can still be with him and be there for him, but with all the help you need to take care of him. You need to be able to give yourself breaks. If you really keep pushing yourself hard you could end up damaging your own health and then how will you take care of him?

Also, you should probably look into talking with a social worker. They know about so many programs and aid services that are nearly impossible for us to find on our own.

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EATVEGAN 3/23/2013 1:44AM

    I certainly have to admire your decision to take care of your hubby at home. That takes a lot of your time and it isn't easy physically or emotionally. I hope the lift and the nurse lighten your load a little. (WARNING: Now I'm going to meddle in what is none of my business) Be careful and don't let it ruin your health. You won't be any good to him or yourself if you do. My ex is about to have back surgery because he overdid taking care of his present wife. He finally had to put her in a nursing home because he just couldn't do it anymore. emoticon emoticon Two hugs, one for each of you.
Janet

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FRAN0426 3/23/2013 12:30AM

    Each adult is responsible for what me eat. You can only present healthy food, if they don't eat it ( or eat unhealthy away home home) it isn't your fault.
So glad the new lift is working for you now. Placing loved ones in care facilities is not the answer for everyone. Your doing it your way, no one has a right to say otherwise. Hope the nures visit goes well this next week and hopefully some more helps are availabe .

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WALLAHALLA 3/23/2013 12:24AM

    A man that can make you laugh is always a good thing.

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DJ4HEALTH 3/22/2013 11:44PM

    You can only tell him to eat healthy but can not make him I know I tried that with my husband and he would not listen and now he is gone.

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ALIHIKES 3/22/2013 11:18PM

    I am glad the lift is working better, and hope it continues to improve. You can't control anyone's health. My mom is officially on a "no salt" diet in her nursing home. But she just hides a salt shaker in her bedside drawer. If she doesn't have the salt, she won't eat and she cries. She's a grown-up and used to making her own decisions -- so is your husband. I'm not blaming anyone for their own choices -- but you also can't blame yourself for choices he made. emoticon

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THOMS1 3/22/2013 10:24PM

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CATHEMARIE 3/22/2013 10:00PM

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NDTEACHER1 3/22/2013 9:29PM

    Bless your heart.

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TONYTHETSANGEL 3/22/2013 9:24PM

    Don't blame yourself Chris for his eating habits. You can't force somebody to do what they do not want to do. My stepfather has diabetes and he knows he can't have cookies and soda. My parents live in a retirement community and every time my mom goes to yoga or class he sneaks & go eat cookies and soda from the sanck shop. He also has Alzheimer's. When my mom gets back from class there is soda cans everywhere and he says the maid took the soda. SMH! It's a never ending battle. All we can do is our best. I know how you feel about nursing homes! I've had two grandparents in and we constantly had to go by & check on them. I pray for strength for you and him. This is not a easy task! God Bless!

Glad the new lift is working out! emoticon emoticon

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LHLADY517 3/22/2013 8:15PM

    Here's a hug for you.

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