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On The Edge of Tears!

Friday, March 22, 2013

As I write this I am struggling emotionally.
It has been a busy week at - nothing new there then - and I have finished now for 10 days off. Not only did I get done but I finished with a flourish and left feeling proud of what I had got through.
This is not the source of my stress.
DH's ex is the stress factor.
A week ago it was announced that she was sending step son to stay with us! Agreed Sunday to Friday and because she will still not allow him to travel on the train (he's only 17!) we would meet half way - about a 2 hr drive up and then down again. Then she went silent and I knew what was coming. Arrangements had been made for our week off including a lovely dinner out tomorrow night for the two of us. Menu planned. Food order placed for delivery tomorrow. Then, this afternoon, oh, it'll have to be tomorrow as she has something she wants to do on Sunday now!
So, dinner out cancelled. Food order needs changing, instead of doing his rooms tomorrow I now need to do them tonight. Tomorrow was supposed to be a relaxing first day off and now I want to bury myself in the bottom of a bottle of vodka!

Sorry to bleat on. I've worked really hard for 3 weeks so that I could enjoy my break and now it is being dictated by another. It really ticks me off.
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CAKEMAKERMOM 3/25/2013 11:25AM

    Try to find the positives in every situation. I'm sorry you weren't able to see your step son, but you were able to have a nice day with your husband.

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LADYBUG1943 3/23/2013 3:36PM

    All of us hate to be seen as self-pitying, but sometimes you've just got to let it out, and SP is such a great place for doing it. We all have similar problems BESIDES trying to lose weight, so we're a sympathetic lot. What you're going through would stress anyone out.

I give myself what I call "thumb-sucking" days..... when I don't answer the door or the phone, I just feel sorry for myself and do whatever I please all day long (usually retreating into a book). Oddly enough, I always have a productive happy day the next day. I think it must be because I've allowed myself permission to wallow for a while, and it feels so unproductive I can hardly wait to start over the next day.

Hope things are going better for you now, and thanks for your story on the cat who knew when you were coming from work. Our younger one (better ears) meets us at the door, but I think he hears the garage door opening. Your cat didn't even have that clue.

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ALL-IS-AMAZING 3/23/2013 9:01AM

    It would tick me off to! emoticon Hang in there!

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DIANE7786 3/22/2013 8:37PM

    I understand your disappointment because lots of my friends had to deal with the whims of an ex-wife. You’re upset that she’s controlling you. Turn it around! Be at the meeting place early. Take time to refresh yourself and stretch your legs (look wonderful!). Greet them warmly. Mention how much fun you and your husband had during the two hour road trip. Tell them how happy you are that the boy is spending an extra day with you. The situation is not the boy’s fault. He needs a break from a mother who is so controlling that she can’t let him (her baby) ride a train alone for a few hours. Make spring break fun for him. You won’t get the “our time” you hoped for, but your husband and the boy will appreciate your good attitude. The boy is 17 so your husband is obligated to cater to his ex-wife’s whims for just one more year. You can handle that!

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STONECOT 3/22/2013 4:37PM

    Try to keep the smile glued in place! Remember she's the 'ex' for a very good reason!!

Nothing wrong with the vodka, but try to get the beds made first. I tell you this from bitter experience. emoticon

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TRUCKERWIFE2 3/22/2013 4:35PM

    Can't blame you for wanting to ring someone's neck. I would too. Hope you enjoy the boy's company. Feel bad for him not being treated as any 17 year old should be. My own son traveled alone on an airplane at age 7 1/2 when Grandma finished having him for the summer. He did great and had a good time. Oh well, I'm not living over there and have no idea what kind of things could befall a 17 year old boy. I just feel that at that close to being a man he should be allowed some responsibilities.

Sorry about your dinner plans. They sounded wonderful. Have a nice week off with your stepson. I'm sure he's a nice young man and appreciates having someone who wants him on holiday. Have a good time with your family. emoticon

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