“Positive thinking has become the major buzzword for people looking to make changes to their lives by reprogramming their negative thoughts. But how well are women doing at accepting themselves as they are and learning to love themselves? Not that well according to a recent study in which one hundred women carried a clicker and measured how many times they felt anxious about their appearance.
In the study conducted over a seven day period, women aged 35 to 69 had to use the clicker every time they had a negative thought about their face, body, hair or overall image. The study showed that woman have an average of 36 negative thoughts about their appearance everyday.
One of the women in the experiment, Loose Women presenter Sherrie Hewson, 59, told the Daily Mail, “It brought to the fore how many women have issues.” Sherrie, who had a facelift ten years ago, clicked 1,400 times over seven days, experiencing a negative thought about herself approximately every three minutes.
“When I look in the mirror, my overriding thought is: “I don’t know this person.” I wake up to this face, and I feel as though it’s someone else’s. All I see in the mirror is age creeping up on me. The worst time for me in terms of clicking was the morning. Just getting up, I’d look in the mirror at my face and hair and think: “Oh dear, now that’s a worry.” I’d click as I put my make-up on, but the more make-up I applied, the less I clicked, and by the time my “face” was complete I’d have stopped clicking.”
It has been several weeks now that we have been working on getting rid of those negative thought patterns and the things that are holding us back so that we can begin to feel comfortable in our skin. We have been given a “tool kit” of techniques.
As we continue to work through this, it’s important to remember that everything you ask for is okay because that is what your very being is desiring and needing to help you grow in the moment, and that includes your negative thoughts. It is just the imaginary interpretation in your subconscious or consciousness that something about it isn’t okay and that causes you to think negatively about it and be confused about it. This is what we are working toward – the truth in the matter. That is what the suggested techniques are designed to help you to do. To help you actually sit down with a variety of tools to rationally and realistically evaluate the thought, and the validity of it in your belief system. I think that is what is meant by the saying, “the truth will set you free.” Only then do you truly become free to make the right choices that help you move closer to the finish line, knowing the truth without any confusion, and finally being able to let go of the thought and its attending feelings and emotions.
In the following weeks, we are going to be moving on now through the other declarations of the Body Pledge. Don’t believe for a moment that you will have “once and for all” conquered this aspect of yourself – it’s part of our human nature. But you can feel some satisfaction and accomplishment in the fact that you will now be more conscious of those new thoughts that might crop up, and be able to “nip them in the bud”. At the same time, you will be allowing more positive feeling and emotions in your life to move you toward a state of wellness and well-being.
On behalf of all of us that have been working through this process by reading these blogs, I‘d like to make a small request. In the comments section I’d like you to briefly write about and answer the following:
• What have you been doing?
• Which of the suggested techniques has worked for you?
• How do you measure your improvement in this process so far?
• What have you noticed that has been different in you or your life since you began to read these blogs?
I’m thinking and hoping a pattern might emerge from all of our answers as to what things are working best for the group as a whole, and that might help others to move themselves forward.
Thank you for taking the time to share what has been working for you with the rest of us!
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