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Friday, March 22, 2013

I am dealing with the remains of the day, for my sisters life. Due to good fortune of my life, (I almost died at 14, in fact, should have died) I have always seemed more comfortable with the idea that life and death are not very far apart on the continuum of existence. I have had a sense of my own mortality since my early teens and therefore a sense of everyone’s mortality.

It is sad to say farewell, but it is all part of the journey. I was able to help make Debi’s transition easier for her, and in some ways for her girls and my siblings and that is enough.

I wrote a blog, just before she died on Living and Dying. It was just a few thoughts on the experience of the last few months. I was greatly surprised by the response of my spark community. I was truly touched by the kindness of people I have interacted with directly and also people who were more remote, who somehow or other stumbled on to my blog and stopped by long enough to make a comment, say a prayer or whatever else fit into their experience with respect to bereavement.

I would love to thank each of you personally, but I know that I will be busy with closing up my sisters affairs and that this will likely involve me for a few months yet, and by the time it is all done and I have extra energy I may not get to a personal not to each of you. So I will say a general thank you, and will also tell the larger community what a fine community we have. Many who hardly know me took time to provide a gentle hug, to shed a tear, to say a prayer.

For me this community served as a reminder that there are many who we hardly know but who are there. Metaphorically this is a reminder that while my sister is not easily present it may well be she is still there, just waiting in the wings; not unlike many who took the time to touch me with their kindness over last few days. Our faith is for things hoped for, for things that we have only seen in part. The many sparks friends who stopped by and provided an act of kindness reminded me of the fact that there are so many support out there many of which we do not see, do not feel

Paul said, “I see through a mirror but darkly, then face to face.”

This has always been my consolation about right religion and faith, a mirror was a polished stone or bronze and did not cast an image like our modern mirrors do. It always reminds me when I think I am right about matters of the soul, that I only have a vague notion of what is there and what is important.

My sister is gone from me, but she no longer sees through the mirror, she sees face to face. I suspect she laughs had how much of it we got wrong, how much bigger, better and more godly God is; how little we truly understood the eternal from the mortal side of things.

Again, thank you one and all for your thoughts, prayers and kindness


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
RACEWELLWON 3/28/2013 3:03PM

    So very sorry for the loss of you Dear Sister Debi - Prayers and Good thoughts to you , she is still with you , always - Karen emoticon

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FRANCES-AGAPE 3/27/2013 11:48PM


Your posts are such a POSITIVE spin
on such a DIFFICULT situation

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for sharing with us

I have bookmarked your blogs
for future reference when
the time arrives for my
family and friends


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4RASCALS 3/23/2013 11:50AM

    Very touching. Debi was blessed to have you as a brother. I will continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts & prayers

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KAYSON25 3/22/2013 5:34PM

    I'll be thinking of you in the days to come, I know you still have much work to do. Some of it will be appreciated and some of it others will never know about. God bless you and your family. Kay

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HARROWJET 3/22/2013 3:02PM


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ARCHIMEDESII 3/22/2013 1:20PM

    I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your sister. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.


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JADOMB 3/22/2013 1:12PM

    Sorry to hear of her passing, but she most definitely is in a better place and without the pain and suffering she was going through here. My prayers are with you and all her other loved ones that will need strength to go through the healing process of losing a loved one.

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SOTIREDOFTHIS 3/22/2013 12:01PM

  Very are a great Uncle and Brother!

Again, sorry for your loss.

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NATPLUMMER 3/22/2013 10:38AM


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LYNCHD05 3/22/2013 10:01AM

    This is so touching. Thank you for sharing.

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BLUENOSE63 3/22/2013 7:14AM


We live in the same town but haven't met....I hope to one day! Your true acts of courage for Debi and the way you have honoured her make you my hero of the week.

Cheryl aka Bluenose63

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