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I guess I'm just old fashioned...

Thursday, March 21, 2013

Okay, so for about 3 years now, I've had profiles on both POF and OkCupid (dating sites). I don't really pay much attention to them, every once in a while, I'll respond to a message. But that is far and few in between because now a days, a message consists of either "hey"' "ur hot lol", "hey cutie wazzup how u doin" and after reading them, I just want to b*tch slap them all with a dictionary. Seriously, learn proper grammar and spelling, you look retarded. Smartness is attractive, purpose stupidity is not. Anyway, dating is one of the reasons I feel like I should've been born a long time ago. I'm tired of guys now a days. All they want is either to get you in bed, to get a favor from you, get money from you, or something equally lame. Patience doesn't happen anymore. On first dates instead of trying to get to know you over a nice wine and dine dinner, they are in a movie theater with you, trying to get a hand down your shirt. What are we, 15 again? Sometimes I think it must be too much to ask, to be found by someone who is respectable. Someone who has a job, and a plan for their lives. And a car, and a place to live. That doesn't all seem so impossible does it? Apparently it is because I have yet to date anyone who has those things. Any of those things actually. I'm tired of meeting someone that is trying to hold your hand and snuggle with you after 5 minutes of knowing you, and trying to kiss you after 10. Whatever happened to picking a girl up and taking her on a date, sitting there, talking and getting to know each other? Where sex definitely wasnt expected from you on the first date. I guess I'm holding onto a fairy tale, because I'm fairly certain nothing like that exists anymore. And if it does, it's staying as far away from me as possible. I guess I should change my mindset, because if not, I'll probably end up single for the rest of my life.

On another note, I snuck a peek at the scale this morning, and it's back to where I was when I started in 2011. Not great by any means, but I feel pretty good about that. 36 more pounds to go until I reach 184, which is where I was at the beginning of 2012 before I gave up and gained 53 pounds back. Fingers crossed that I get there soon, because I feel like that is when the real journey will begin. The gym was hard today though, my legs were super sore from yesterday's leg strength training, so they kept wanting to give out on me while I was doing the elliptical. I was tired, and also felt pretty sick. Oh, and top all that off with allergies. But, soreness and complaints or not, I did my entire workout. I might not have pushed as hard as normal, but I still did 40 minutes of cardio and did my strength training.

I guess I should get off of here and go shower and get dressed and eat dinner. One of my best friends' boyfriend has a movie screening tonight that I am going to. It's a Star Wars inspired film that they made for one of their classes. Pretty excited to see it. Hope everyone is having a good week.
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_JULEE_ 3/22/2013 1:12PM

    I found my Mr. in a personal ad in the weekly here in town. He placed the ad and was very specific about what he was seeking. I used to pick up the weekly and read those wacky personal ads to my office mate while she ate lunch (I'm not a lunch person). It became a Thursday ritual for us and we had so much fun.

Because some of the ads were so funny, sometimes I would wait til she had a big bite before reading them to her. She'd get aggravated at me, but we had a good time. Then I happened across his ad. I didn't read that one aloud.

From that point on every time I so much as touched a weekly (used the old ones to do my nails on), it would happen to fall open to his ad. Finally after two weeks, I answered his ad one Wednesday while everyone in the office was away for lunch. I didn't hear from him all day and thought that maybe I wouldn't. Later that night he did call and we gabbed for FOUR hours.

After talking on the phone for a week, I suggested that we meet. We went to dinner, then walked across the street to the toy store and played with toys for an hour. I was 28, he was 32. It's been nearly 20 years now and we're still together and always will be.
If he hadn't placed that ad, we never would have met.

Your guy is out there and from the sound of it, the places you're looking may not be places he'd think to be.

Best of luck to you!

emoticon on your pounds lost! emoticon

Comment edited on: 3/22/2013 1:39:42 PM

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STEPH-KNEE 3/22/2013 4:44AM

    I completely agree! I find POF to be far more filled with creepers than Okcupid but okcupid has it share! I hate that no one can be bothered to actually chat with me first. Like can't we do the back and forth, and then maybe talk on the phone and then work on meeting? I am meeting a guy tomorrow that had followed that way or doing things and I dont' write back most of the people but he seems nice, but I'm still not excited. Sometimes I think I'm just meant to be alone LOL.

That is so great you are getting that scale back down, I am so proud of you! :D

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NYARAMULA 3/22/2013 1:27AM

    I am old fashioned like you, and I totally understand your frustrations. Fortunately for me, the only man I have to date is my DH and he is also quite old fashioned. Sometimes I think I got the last good guy available. I watch my younger sisters trying to date and I feel really sorry for them. I'm sure there is someone out there for you though.

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ISAVEDME80 3/21/2013 11:39PM

    this makes me laugh I have a POF I actually made an account awhile back because my brother met his GF off there and being we live in a SMALL town its the only way to meet people.
the people on there are crazy but my brother met his GF on there so i guess i have hopes in it.
i get 4-5 messages a day and thats with no photos. i had them up when i first join and i got bombed by retarded army guys wanting a booty call.
im like you old fashioned whatever happened to morals in todays society

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BAILEYC87 3/21/2013 8:57PM

    Ahhh I have had the same experiences on those websites, too! Don't lower your standards, lady, you will find some classy fella to sweep you off your feet :) You may have to wait awhile, but it will be worth it!

Keep up the good work!

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BIZZ27 3/21/2013 8:12PM

    Oh they do still exist hun... I found one like that! He is 5 years younger than me but knew exactly what he wanted and what the plan was. He is great! It might sound really rude, but the way I found him was just to be extremely brutal as soon as we met.
As soon as I felt something might start going on, I laid all my cards on the table. IE: I have 3 kids and I don't plan on having some dude on the side hidden away from my kids. i want a man involved in my life, and someone who is willing to be a great stepdad. I want to get married one day, and I can't have any more children, so if any of this feels like it's way too much right now, then we should back off and let you think this through. If you can't handle it, I would completely understand, but I will always be honest with you and I think this could work. -- That is pretty much exactly what I told him when I met him 3 years ago! lol... But it worked like a charm! Men love honest women too...
Don't lose hope, there is someone out there! :)

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MARIANNE9855 3/21/2013 7:17PM

    There are lots of males who are old- fashioned but I think they are shy. My two sons would never think of doing that on a date but in their case all the girls they know are quite forward. And much as I like rap and hip hop and R and B- they do give the message that all girls should be dressed in skimpy clothes and ready to give b--- j---- or have sex all night whenever the guy calls them on the phone emoticon emoticon

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MARIANNE9855 3/21/2013 7:17PM

    There are lots of males who are old- fashioned but I think they are shy. My two sons would never think of doing that on a date but in their case all the girls they know are quite forward. And much as I like rap and hip hop and R and B- they do give the message that all girls should be dressed in skimpy clothes and ready to give b--- j---- or have sex all night whenever the guy calls them on the phone emoticon emoticon

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