What if you had never been overweight?
Thursday, March 21, 2013
I was sitting back the other day pondering what or who I would be like if I had never been overweight…
I know a lot of people here were not always over weight they gained weight over time, have you sat back and wondered what if you hadn’t?
For those of us that have always fought being overweight, have you imagined what if you were always skinny, who you would be? Would you be so kind and understanding?
Would you be the same without the powerful lessons that had to be learned through this journey, perhaps something worse than being overweight would have happen to strengthen you.
Would you trade all the sweat, tears, friends, connections, support, victories, smiles, lessons, and persistence (just to name a few) that it took to get where you are now in order to be thin to start with.
For those of you who have lost it all just to gain it all back and are on your second round, know this if you can be a success story you can also be strong enough to be a starting over story.
As I read all the amazing comments my spark family left on my last blog for me I couldn’t help an overwhelming feeling of love and relation, here were many people from all walks of life reaching out to me, identifying with my struggles and encouraging me to push on. Every time I come to a victory over myself I can’t describe the feelings inside, it’s a way better feeling than giving in or giving up, I wouldn’t have learned the things I have now without having gained the weight and having to learn how to lose it, I wouldn’t have been introduced to a family that so much love and support is given to strangers with similar goals, heart aches and accomplishments. So I have to say as much as I would love to put on a way small size of clothing and I will someday I wouldn’t trade what I have been given for what could have been. I wouldn’t trade the strong confident person this journey is molding me into for a pair of size 6 jeans to fit from the get go. I didn’t always feel this way of course at the beginning I would have said I would totally rather been skinny all my life and not dealt with the heart aches and my inner demons I have had to overcome and still have to fight.
Maybe it’s a weird way of thinking but many people who often have something traumatic like a near death experience makes them appreciate living more, just like people who have lost a loved one tend to not take their remaining loved ones for granted, I sit here feeling like this has been hard probably the hardest battle I will fight in my life but every week I am finding victory in loss, I’m learning I will fall but I also will always get up and try again and just keep moving forward. I’ve learned I am not alone in my food addiction which has allowed me to push past it so many times so far and to learn I need to eat to live not live to eat.
Just some “food” for thought ;0)
You all are my heroes!
Member Comments About This Blog Post
I wouldn't trade any of my hardships for anything including being overweight most my life because I wouldn't be who I am. i love who I have become. i love the people and friends I have met along the way. It makes life that much sweeter. Glad you feel the same way and know that is not a strange way to feel. Overcoming odds and obstacles is where we see the strength we truly have inside. It gives of the confidence to know we can overcome and be a success story!
1166 days ago
life is what we make it . we just are . dreams are nice and they push us toward the goals we set but once in awhile if we just dream nothing gets done . we have to put the work into the dream . I can sit here and think i want to be thin and if i dont move toward that goal i am going no where and are just spinning my wheels and burning rubber on my mental wheels . action is needed on our parts .
1166 days ago
What an excellent question!!
I have always daydreamed about waking up and being skinny; for a long time, I figured I would just be fat, might as well live with it (and then my health slapped me in the head with a brick and told me to shapen up!). But what if I hadn't struggled with weight since childhood? What if I were skinny as a child, a teen, and a young adult, who only gained recently?
Maybe I would not have let myself go so far without trying to change. Maybe I wouldn't have despaired and given up. Maybe I wouldn't have given up seeing the doctor because I was tired of hearing endless harangues about my weight.
But then I also have this excitement, this anticipation of finding the skinny body that has been hiding all these years under the fat. I don't know what I'll look like skinny, since I've never been below 185 pounds as an adult. As the pounds come off and my jeans get looser, I get more and more excited to see who is staring back at me in the mirror.
Being fat has taught me a lot of things that I don't think I would have learned if I were naturally skinny. I understand the struggle others have to lose weight; it's not easy! So when other people also have that struggle, I understand and can sympathize, instead of snarking, "You brought this on yourself, you lazy, over-eating slob!" I understand that everything I put into my mouth does something to my body, whether it is good (fruits and veggies) or bad (chips and cookies). I understand that exercise can help lose weight and build muscles, that it can be fun and not just a chore.
And then there's the people. I remember the woman who gave me her Weight Watchers material which helped me lose about 50 pounds the last time. She was such an encouragement and a pillar; I looked up to her and she never judged me, just told me I could do it. And I did. And there's another friend who's vegan and is encouraging me to follow in that path when I am at goal weight. Her healthy tips and delicious vegan recipes are great - sure, I could surf the web or hunt bookstores for vegan cookbooks, but I wouldn't know if the recipes were good nor would I have someone who could help me with veganism.
And then there's the greatest motivation: I have been overweight all my life and am sick and tired of it. I'm tired of being the "fat friend". I'm tired of purchasing clothes in the Plus Sizes. I'm tired of having food run my life.
So yeah, not a fan of the flab, but the lessons I've learned are priceless!
Thank you for another excellent blog post!
1166 days ago
Well written thoughts expressed...
I guess the whole idea of life being a journey is that each of us take a different path with all the varied parts that add (or subtract) to that.
I haven't always been overweight, but the issues that I deal with now have always been there. I still need to work through those things that cause me to habitually turn to food for comfort. And yes, I was just thinking this AM that if the "bad-for-me" food is around me, I behave like an addict and can not seem to leave it alone.
Good luck as you continue to learn, grow, and become the healthy person that you desire to be!
1166 days ago
I had a similar discussion with my boyfriend the other day. I have been overweight my whole life but it didn't get problematic until after I was diagnosed with arthritis when I was 11. I had just started getting into sports, particularly volleyball, and had I not been forced to give it up because of pain and stiffness, I wondered if I would still be overweight today. If I had stuck with volleyball, which I really loved to play (more than any other sport I had tried) maybe I would have gotten fit and formed a different relationship with food and exercise than I have now. This would also have left to different friends and a whole different adolescence. However there are a lot of things that I did instead that I am proud of, so luckily I can't go back in time so I don't have to choose between the two possibilities.
1166 days ago
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