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Thursday, March 21, 2013

Today is day 30 of my current streak!

My first streak started on March 1, 2012 and lasted for quite a long time..290 days! When it ended, I was disappointed, of course. I was really trying to keep that streak going for a solid year, but I fell short. I wasn't TOO disappointed, though. After all, staying on track for 290 days is a pretty big accomplishment, so I was really proud of myself for that. More importantly, I was proud of myself for getting myself right back on track and starting a new streak. My next streak only lasted 13 days, but once again when I got off track, I picked myself up and started over again right away. I kept reminding myself that its not a failure to get off track...but it WOULD be a failure to STAY off track.

Anyway, when I started my streak last year, I also started saving change in a coffee can. Its my new wardrobe fund! When I reach my goal size, I am going to do some shopping. Right now, I only own 2 pairs of jeans, lots of workout t shirts and a few pairs of workout pants. I'm fine with that, because other than going to the grocery store, I am pretty much a homebody.

But for the past year, I've been dreaming of the perfect wardrobe. Funny thing is, as the weight came off, my fantasy of the perfect wardrobe has really changed. For instance, when I first started streaking last year, I imagined that when I reached my goal, I would wear hoodies and jeans and loose tunic shirts. I even bought an "inspiration hoodie" in a smaller size. I thought it was so pretty....it was long and had a peony print on it. And it looked so good in the catalog that I ordered it from! I really looked forward to the day when it would fit me.

I would try that hoodie on from time to time but the closer it got to fitting me, the more I realized that I didn't like it anymore! It just wasn't my taste, after all. And it just seemed "too young" for me. I'll be 52 next month, and that hoodie seemed more appropriate for someone 20 years younger.

So what kind of clothing SHOULD I wear? What clothing would be age appropriate, and what is my taste in clothes now? I had no idea! Even though I'm not close to my goal size yet, I know that the day is coming when I WILL be there, and when that day arrives I want to be able to buy myself a new wardrobe that flatters me. So to get some tips and advice on clothes, I have started to watch the show on TLC, "What Not To Wear." They seem to mostly have women under the age of 35 on that show, but sometimes they do have women my age. I really STUDIED those episodes to see how to dress for my age, and I think I have learned a lot.

Well, this week I decided that even though I'm not at my goal size yet, I would buy myself one new item of clothing....a cardigan sweater! From watching What Not to Wear, I've learned that I need to buy a "basic" like that, and then jazz it up with a pretty print shirt under it. So off to the mall I went, planning to buy myself a pretty cardigan...maybe in teal or robins egg blue. Something not "plain", but still "basic."

The first store I went to was JC Penny's, and that was not a fun experience. It has been a long time since I've shopped at Penny's, but they have certainly changed a lot! The loud music they now play was just really off putting to me. I like a much quieter shopping experience! And wow....I'd forgotten how many clothes they have, lol. It was really overwhelming! I didn't know which direction to look in first. And I'm at that awkward size now. You know, the size thats in between plus and misses. And my upper arms are my trouble zone. Even in the past when I've been smaller, my upper arms were always big.

I headed to the plus size section first, and the only cardigans I could find there were horrible. Or at least not what I was looking for. Like the music, they were just too loud for me! Not basic at all. I did try a couple on, and they were too big. So then I headed to the misses section and a strange thing happened. I suddenly became very intimidated. I just stood there and looked at everything without actually picking anything up. I didn't try anything on. I guess this will sound strange but I was afraid someone would tell me "You don't belong in this section! Nothing here is going to be big enough for you!"

So I left Penny's without a cardigan. I went to Kohl's, and thankfully they didn't have music blasting so loud that I couldn't even think. I again went to the plus section to look at cardigans. They had some pretty ones in the right color, but they were too big and too expensive. I also looked in the Misses section and I managed to try on a few things. And it was so weird...some cardigans fit me, and some were too small....even though they were the exact same size! But you know what was sad? Instead of being proud of myself for fitting into some of those cardigans, I instead berated myself for the ones that DIDN'T fit. I felt bad about myself, and had to really give myself a talking to in order to snap out of it.

I ended up getting a black cardigan that had been marked down to 12 dollars. It wasn't exactly what I wanted, but it fit and it will be a good basic to go with anything. Its one of those cardigans that don't button or zip. I think it will fit me for a long time as I continue to lose weight and go down in sizes.

For my birthday next month, my mother in law will give me a $20 Kohl's gift card, as she always does. So I will use it to look for a shirt to wear under my cardigan! But I have to tell you, I'm not sure I'm looking forward to shopping again. If I had so much trouble just buying a cardigan, whats it going to be like to buy a shirt? Or for that matter, whats it going to be like when I reach my goal size and cash in the can of coins so I can go buy a whole bunch of new clothes? Where are Stacy and Clinton from What Not to Wear when you need them?

It would be so easy to just keep wearing workout pants and t shirts. But I'm not going to let myself do that. When I reach my goal size, I am going to reward myself with REAL clothes! I just wish I had a shopping buddy to help me out.

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    Way to go! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1800 days ago
    If we were neighbors, we could shop together, my daughter shops with me and has always told me I buy my clothes too big - I don't like tight, clingy clothes no matter what size I am! emoticon
    Thanks for the blog Pixie!

    1800 days ago
    I wish we could all pitch in and send you to Clinton and Stacy for a "What not to Wear" makeover session. Clothes shopping is so hard. Like you said with all of the choices in stores ( not to mention the loud music - I hear you on that one) the experience usually becomes overwhelming and unproductive. My Mom took me to Khol's just last week to buy me a new spring outfit (although I may never need it because spring may never get here), but the store aisles were so stuffed with merchandise, so many different styles, colors, sizes, options for sporty, dressy, casual, it goes on and on. I ended up coming home with nothing,
    If I've learned anything from watching the show, you picked a great "staple" for your new wardrobe, now you just have to pick a top that will give it "a pop of color" Stacy is great for using those words!! I think that eventually you will find your comfort zone, and I'll bet you will come home with something that looks just gorgeous on you! Don't be afraid to step outside of the box and just try something that you never would have in the past.... you may surprise yourself!! emoticon
    1800 days ago
    Old navy had sundresses on sale, and last year I had a thing about a dress, and a spark friend said buy a dress. So i did and then this year said don't want to wait till summer, they are all gone. so dh adn dd went with me to old navy. Got a dress with stripes!!! OMG it is soft jersy and it falls at hips and the stripes are sort of diagonal so doesnt go across you. All 3 of us like it. and I got 2 henley tops too. all in large. So i was really pleased. but I too don't want to dress like an old lady but often feel that is too young for me.
    HUGS and size is a number, don't let it do a number on you! HUGS
    1800 days ago
    I am so glad to read this! I had a similar experience and I was "under the gun" to get clothes because I was leaving town the next day. I am 5 feet tall and almost always have to have hem my pants. I went to a department store that still has sales people and the great sales lady in the plus section went to another floor to get "normal" size pants for me. They are expensive, but in this case I needed to spend the money or I wouldn't have any clothes to wear in the sunny weather.
    I don't know if I have the courage to go into the "normal" misses yet. I was blown away because the clothes I bought for that trip were size XL -- Not a #X. When I went to Sears, I got the size 1X in the Lands End. I have 2 pair size 18 jeans now but when I tried on pants size 18 (same manufacturer) I thought they were too tight.
    I just came back from visiting my son and he urged me to throw away the pair of shorts I had. He said they looked like they were going to fall off. I did at the end of the trip to make room in my suitcase.
    I too have been reluctant to visit a misses section, fearing the same thing. And no way to visit misses petites yet. They usually end at a 14 or 16. Maybe I should practice walking through like I'm buying a gift for someone. Thanks for the inspiration, Pix, I will try to picture your success with the black cardi next time I'm shopping to give me courage.
    1800 days ago
    Great blog Pixie.

    I really hate shopping for clothes. I'm not sure where I belong in the store (plus or misses) I had some great luck in both departments this past Christmas, but I really don't want to have to shop again. We have a dressier event coming up and I really should start looking for something to wear, but the whole experience scares me. Basic black is always great for dressing up with and everything goes with black!

    Congratulations on your sweater purchase!

    Big Hugs,

    Jane emoticon

    1800 days ago
    Thanks and great blog! emoticon
    1800 days ago
    Oh, if I lived near you, I would so go shopping with you!!! The last time I went, I bought a pair of 18 regular jeans and I felt the same as you did. I kept thinking someone was going to come point me to the plus sizes where I belonged!!! That was my first time in the misses dept. since my 20's and I'm 43 now! I also found a "loud" dress that I didn't think I would like, but when I tried it on, it hung on me beautifully and actually made me look thinner than I was! So, don't limit yourself to what you "think" you can wear. You might actually be surprised!
    You are doing great!!!
    1800 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/21/2013 12:10:36 PM
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    Great blog! You really make me smile. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1800 days ago
    This is such a cute blog. I like watching that show too, and I just read that this is their final season. Too bad as I have learned a lot from it. I hope that as you continue to shop you get more used to it and can start enjoying the experience. emoticon
    1800 days ago
    Great blog. I'm going through something similar now. After years of wearing whatever fit, I've been shopping for fun and experimenting with new sizes and new looks. It can be intimidating, for sure. There's a sense of "Can I REALLY fit this? Will this REALLY look good on ME?" But once you get past that, it can be very empowering.
    1800 days ago
    Thank you for posting your experience. It is easy for us all to feel alone in our little corners of cyberspace so posts like yours let everyone know that we're not. I hate shopping for clothes since gaining weight so I can really identify with some of your experience. What impresses me most is that you just kept trying when it would have been easier to go home empty handed. Thanks for the inspiration. emoticon
    1800 days ago
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