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What Not to Wear?

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Thursday, March 21, 2013

Today is day 30 of my current streak!

My first streak started on March 1, 2012 and lasted for quite a long time..290 days! When it ended, I was disappointed, of course. I was really trying to keep that streak going for a solid year, but I fell short. I wasn't TOO disappointed, though. After all, staying on track for 290 days is a pretty big accomplishment, so I was really proud of myself for that. More importantly, I was proud of myself for getting myself right back on track and starting a new streak. My next streak only lasted 13 days, but once again when I got off track, I picked myself up and started over again right away. I kept reminding myself that its not a failure to get off track...but it WOULD be a failure to STAY off track.



Anyway, when I started my streak last year, I also started saving change in a coffee can. Its my new wardrobe fund! When I reach my goal size, I am going to do some shopping. Right now, I only own 2 pairs of jeans, lots of workout t shirts and a few pairs of workout pants. I'm fine with that, because other than going to the grocery store, I am pretty much a homebody.



But for the past year, I've been dreaming of the perfect wardrobe. Funny thing is, as the weight came off, my fantasy of the perfect wardrobe has really changed. For instance, when I first started streaking last year, I imagined that when I reached my goal, I would wear hoodies and jeans and loose tunic shirts. I even bought an "inspiration hoodie" in a smaller size. I thought it was so pretty....it was long and had a peony print on it. And it looked so good in the catalog that I ordered it from! I really looked forward to the day when it would fit me.

I would try that hoodie on from time to time but the closer it got to fitting me, the more I realized that I didn't like it anymore! It just wasn't my taste, after all. And it just seemed "too young" for me. I'll be 52 next month, and that hoodie seemed more appropriate for someone 20 years younger.



So what kind of clothing SHOULD I wear? What clothing would be age appropriate, and what is my taste in clothes now? I had no idea! Even though I'm not close to my goal size yet, I know that the day is coming when I WILL be there, and when that day arrives I want to be able to buy myself a new wardrobe that flatters me. So to get some tips and advice on clothes, I have started to watch the show on TLC, "What Not To Wear." They seem to mostly have women under the age of 35 on that show, but sometimes they do have women my age. I really STUDIED those episodes to see how to dress for my age, and I think I have learned a lot.

Well, this week I decided that even though I'm not at my goal size yet, I would buy myself one new item of clothing....a cardigan sweater! From watching What Not to Wear, I've learned that I need to buy a "basic" like that, and then jazz it up with a pretty print shirt under it. So off to the mall I went, planning to buy myself a pretty cardigan...maybe in teal or robins egg blue. Something not "plain", but still "basic."

The first store I went to was JC Penny's, and that was not a fun experience. It has been a long time since I've shopped at Penny's, but they have certainly changed a lot! The loud music they now play was just really off putting to me. I like a much quieter shopping experience! And wow....I'd forgotten how many clothes they have, lol. It was really overwhelming! I didn't know which direction to look in first. And I'm at that awkward size now. You know, the size thats in between plus and misses. And my upper arms are my trouble zone. Even in the past when I've been smaller, my upper arms were always big.



I headed to the plus size section first, and the only cardigans I could find there were horrible. Or at least not what I was looking for. Like the music, they were just too loud for me! Not basic at all. I did try a couple on, and they were too big. So then I headed to the misses section and a strange thing happened. I suddenly became very intimidated. I just stood there and looked at everything without actually picking anything up. I didn't try anything on. I guess this will sound strange but I was afraid someone would tell me "You don't belong in this section! Nothing here is going to be big enough for you!"



So I left Penny's without a cardigan. I went to Kohl's, and thankfully they didn't have music blasting so loud that I couldn't even think. I again went to the plus section to look at cardigans. They had some pretty ones in the right color, but they were too big and too expensive. I also looked in the Misses section and I managed to try on a few things. And it was so weird...some cardigans fit me, and some were too small....even though they were the exact same size! But you know what was sad? Instead of being proud of myself for fitting into some of those cardigans, I instead berated myself for the ones that DIDN'T fit. I felt bad about myself, and had to really give myself a talking to in order to snap out of it.



I ended up getting a black cardigan that had been marked down to 12 dollars. It wasn't exactly what I wanted, but it fit and it will be a good basic to go with anything. Its one of those cardigans that don't button or zip. I think it will fit me for a long time as I continue to lose weight and go down in sizes.

For my birthday next month, my mother in law will give me a $20 Kohl's gift card, as she always does. So I will use it to look for a shirt to wear under my cardigan! But I have to tell you, I'm not sure I'm looking forward to shopping again. If I had so much trouble just buying a cardigan, whats it going to be like to buy a shirt? Or for that matter, whats it going to be like when I reach my goal size and cash in the can of coins so I can go buy a whole bunch of new clothes? Where are Stacy and Clinton from What Not to Wear when you need them?



It would be so easy to just keep wearing workout pants and t shirts. But I'm not going to let myself do that. When I reach my goal size, I am going to reward myself with REAL clothes! I just wish I had a shopping buddy to help me out.




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  • v CORNERKICK
    Thanks for sharing a great blog
    1219 days ago
  • v STAREYES723
    Thanks for sharing an awesome story.
    1219 days ago
  • v CYPATAYLOR2
    Nice blog! You are always so inspirational! Next month when you get your gift certificate why don't you ask her to go with you to help pick out a shirt. I am sure she would love to do it and she will probably give you the encouragement and help you need. Good luck and keep on going! You are doing great.
    1219 days ago
  • v TOKIEMOON
    I applaud your resolution to keep getting back on track. That's an important life lesson I need to perfect - not trying to be perfect, just keep getting it done!
    1219 days ago
  • v JERICHO1991
    Good attitude. Thanks.
    1219 days ago
  • v ROCKYCPA
    Great blog - thanks for sharing!
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  • v MANDAROSE80
    For your next trip: Before going to the store to try on clothes, browse their websites to scope out styles and prices (look for the coupons and upcoming sales). Identify one or two stores that have clothes that appeal to you. Be prepared to try on lots and lots of stuff and possibly leave with nothing. Look for a sales associate (possibly wearing something that appeals to you) and ask for help (some stores are more helpful than others). Don't be afraid to say that's not really what I'm looking for. Keep gathering information on styles and what looks best on you. Don't be discouraged by sizes. From what I can tell, different manufacturers have different standards for sizes. And well some things look fantastic on the hanger or mannequin, you can put it on and discover that it really doesn't work on a real person.

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  • v DANIE0677
    I hope this helps to encourage you and others. I work in retail. What customers and I have found is much of the clothing lately or very differently made. They may all say size xl or16 but they all fit differently. It's not you or me, it's the people who made them. emoticon
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  • v FRANCES-AGAPE
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    WONDERFUL, inspiring photos


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    Have a Wonderful Weekend !

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    LOVE and BLESSINGS !

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  • v BESTSUSIEYET
    Fun blog! I, too, wish they'd have some Waht Not to Wear shows with older women. But I remember a show with key things to ask... Is this 1. something that fits my body? 2. age-appropriate? and 3. appropriate for the type of function I'm going to? (don't remember what #4 was...) Those help me a lot! I have found Dress Barn & Christopher & Banks are my favorite stores. I don't wander around feeling overwhelmed or OLD! I'm 61, and can dress attractively! Have fun with it ... And be glad you don't have to do a whole new wardrobe in 1 week like on the show! (though the $5,000 credit card would be nice!)
    1220 days ago
  • v SUNNYARIZONA
    FUNNY BLOG!
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  • v BLPRETTYGIRL1
    emoticon great job!
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  • v BONIFIANT
    First, many congratulations on the weight loss to this point and to all that you have learned and shared with others along this journey.

    I hate shopping, have never felt that I had much dress sense, but am ready for a new wardrobe at 75. Think I really like your idea of some help. My daughters have volunteered - why does that embarrass and intimidate me?
    1220 days ago
  • v GINIEMIE
    I agree about the music, if it's too loud or obnoxious I leave. I think finding a shopping buddy is a great idea. I'd love to shop with my youngest sister, but she's in Ohio and I'm in GA. My DIL goes with me sometimes.
    You'll get there, and I'm sure you'll find your style.
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  • v ANYVAR54
    I have an older friend who has already offered to help me go shopping when I get ready to buy new clothes. Having a buddy is a good idea. I hope you find someone.
    1220 days ago
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  • v TAWANDA_IS_BACK
    I can so relate!!!
    1220 days ago
  • v KHALIA2
    Beauty is on the inside. You are beautiful!
    1220 days ago
  • v GRGAP86
    It shouldn't matter what others "think" about you. You're not out to please them, you're there to reward yourself for making progress on your journey. Remember that on your next shopping trip and you'll be fine.
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  • v AUNTIE2TOO
    When I needed to shop, I went up to a woman that went to the same church as I do, introduceded myself and told her how much I like her style. We went shopping together, and now once a year we go shooping again. She took me through six stores in about two hours, She knew when I could not try on another thing, she knew what each store would have in my "style " range and Prices were close, but more than I was used too. It is a surprise after several years in ten year old jeans and 5 year old sweats. It is fabulous knowing you can grab something nice in your own closet and look "really nice" for any day you want. Kitty
    1220 days ago
  • v GIGGIDY2
    Great Post! I wish I could go with you and cheer you on. Next time imagine all of us behind you telling you how great you look!
    1220 days ago
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  • v JOANPHIL1
    A great blog that we can all relate to. Keep going on your journey and may you achieve your goal. Wear those cardigans with pride as a reminder of how far you have come.

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  • v PATRICIAANN46
    Hi Pixie.........
    emoticon for a very insightful blog. I get very frustrated shopping no matter what size I happen to be at the time. There are so few styles and patterns that are truly flattering for any of us. I wish that there were more designers who turned out clothing that was well-made, well-designed, and done in colors and fabrics that look good on most everyone. Basics, basics, basics.........is that so difficult????
    1220 days ago
  • v ISABELLE31
    Again, love the images! You find the best stuff! Are you on Pinterest?
    1220 days ago
  • v BRITTANYS-FSAP
    i totally feel the same when i go shopping for clothes... when I buy food sometimes too. I wonder if people think I shouldn't be buying food because of my size :(
    1220 days ago
  • v TRISHMO1
    whatever makes you feel good
    1220 days ago
  • v NIKKIJ55
    Great blog! Thank you
    1220 days ago
  • v MAMAPITTSBURGH
    I'll never understand the concept of pluz size clothing. just because it's plus sized does not mean it needs to be ugly. Why can't the manufacturer just make the clothes in the misses section, just bigger? I can't wait til I can shop in the "normal" clothing sections again! I'll probably be just like you, standing there looking at everything and having no idea where to start!
    1220 days ago
  • v SEWISTLADY
    Great blog, Pixie! I really like the reminders that we should love our bodies and not be judged by our size. It's what is inside that matters. I love watching "What Not to Wear" and have learned a lot about how to dress your body no matter what size you are. I also love the transformation of people and the boost in their self-esteem when they look nice.

    You're a great blogger and a great ispiration. Please, please keep it up!
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  • v TLGRNT
    Great blog post
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  • v KACEYSW
    Thank you so much for the reminder!
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  • v PRESBESS
    Such a great blog! I love reading your heart. You are beautiful!
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  • v MARYJEANSL
    Maybe you could find a Spark friend who lives nearby to go shopping with. Or a friend you already have. I hate, hate, hate to shop alone. So I either go with a friend who likes to shop (that makes it fun for me, and the friend always gives me good advice), or I order online, usually basics, or I grab cheap stuff at Wal-Mart (capri pants in my size for $5).
    1220 days ago
  • v MOMOSG
    71 lbs is an amazing accomplishment! So glad you are rembering that number and trying your best to ignore the number on the clothes label. Keep it up.
    1220 days ago
  • v WINNIE-POOH
    What an inspiring blog! Thanks for sharing. emoticon
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  • v WINNIE-POOH
    What an inspiring blog! Thanks for sharing. emoticon
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  • v WRITERBOBBIE
    Just wanted to let you know that I find your blog post, and especially your determination, very inspiring. I too am in my 50's and struggle with getting to a wardrobe that I really like while getting to a more healthy weight.

    You might want to search for "the vivienne files" -- a blog that shows amazing and stylish grown-up wardrobe combos. The accessories are unrealistic for me, but it gives you an idea of what you could do with a basic wardrobe of affordable clothing pieces.

    Also search for project 333, where people choose 33 items including accessories to wear for 3 months.

    Your new black cardigan sounds great!
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    Comment edited on: 3/22/2013 12:50:01 PM
  • v BROOKLYN_BORN
    Additionally depressing to me is the sizing creep of the last 50 years.

    In 1960 the measurements for a size 6 were 30 ˝-23-321/2.
    Now the average size 6 measurements are 36-28-38.

    No wonder Marilyn Monroe wore a 12. Lucille Ball too – all 115 lbs of her.

    Simplicity patterns have held the line and resisted “vanity sizing.” If I make my own clothes I’ll need a size 14 pattern to match the off the rack size 6. In 1960 both matched.

    Companies know what they’re doing. We will buy and spend more if there’s a smaller size label attached.

    Also agree about the music. There are even some supermarkets that make me run for the exit.
    1220 days ago
  • v SHOYER
    You know, I almost laughed when I saw you mention Stacy and Clinton, because their show is what I had in my mind throughout your blog. When I watch that show, I usually think to myself that a) why don't the people they help know how drab, dreary, bad, etc. they look? b) how awesome it is for people to be "taken under the wings" of Stacy and Clinton and c) not that any of this matters because it won't happen to me anyway.

    Thanks for bringing some realness to my day!
    1220 days ago
  • v MARILYNROBERT
    I have no idea how to shop for clothes or what to get. I wear blue jeans, workout pants, t-shirts, mens shirts, sweat shirts, things I like to wear. Yikes...this all sounded scary!
    1220 days ago
  • v BRENDA_G50
    Lucky for me, this time when I lost some weight I hadn't given away ALL of my smaller clothes (like I had always done in the past). So instead of heading out to buy some new clothes, I got to go shopping in my OWN CLOSET!!! Saved time and money.

    emoticon for me!!!

    emoticon on how far you have came and enjoy you new sweater. emoticon
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    Comment edited on: 3/22/2013 12:32:30 PM
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