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Thursday, March 21, 2013

Today is day 30 of my current streak!

My first streak started on March 1, 2012 and lasted for quite a long time..290 days! When it ended, I was disappointed, of course. I was really trying to keep that streak going for a solid year, but I fell short. I wasn't TOO disappointed, though. After all, staying on track for 290 days is a pretty big accomplishment, so I was really proud of myself for that. More importantly, I was proud of myself for getting myself right back on track and starting a new streak. My next streak only lasted 13 days, but once again when I got off track, I picked myself up and started over again right away. I kept reminding myself that its not a failure to get off track...but it WOULD be a failure to STAY off track.

Anyway, when I started my streak last year, I also started saving change in a coffee can. Its my new wardrobe fund! When I reach my goal size, I am going to do some shopping. Right now, I only own 2 pairs of jeans, lots of workout t shirts and a few pairs of workout pants. I'm fine with that, because other than going to the grocery store, I am pretty much a homebody.

But for the past year, I've been dreaming of the perfect wardrobe. Funny thing is, as the weight came off, my fantasy of the perfect wardrobe has really changed. For instance, when I first started streaking last year, I imagined that when I reached my goal, I would wear hoodies and jeans and loose tunic shirts. I even bought an "inspiration hoodie" in a smaller size. I thought it was so pretty....it was long and had a peony print on it. And it looked so good in the catalog that I ordered it from! I really looked forward to the day when it would fit me.

I would try that hoodie on from time to time but the closer it got to fitting me, the more I realized that I didn't like it anymore! It just wasn't my taste, after all. And it just seemed "too young" for me. I'll be 52 next month, and that hoodie seemed more appropriate for someone 20 years younger.

So what kind of clothing SHOULD I wear? What clothing would be age appropriate, and what is my taste in clothes now? I had no idea! Even though I'm not close to my goal size yet, I know that the day is coming when I WILL be there, and when that day arrives I want to be able to buy myself a new wardrobe that flatters me. So to get some tips and advice on clothes, I have started to watch the show on TLC, "What Not To Wear." They seem to mostly have women under the age of 35 on that show, but sometimes they do have women my age. I really STUDIED those episodes to see how to dress for my age, and I think I have learned a lot.

Well, this week I decided that even though I'm not at my goal size yet, I would buy myself one new item of clothing....a cardigan sweater! From watching What Not to Wear, I've learned that I need to buy a "basic" like that, and then jazz it up with a pretty print shirt under it. So off to the mall I went, planning to buy myself a pretty cardigan...maybe in teal or robins egg blue. Something not "plain", but still "basic."

The first store I went to was JC Penny's, and that was not a fun experience. It has been a long time since I've shopped at Penny's, but they have certainly changed a lot! The loud music they now play was just really off putting to me. I like a much quieter shopping experience! And wow....I'd forgotten how many clothes they have, lol. It was really overwhelming! I didn't know which direction to look in first. And I'm at that awkward size now. You know, the size thats in between plus and misses. And my upper arms are my trouble zone. Even in the past when I've been smaller, my upper arms were always big.

I headed to the plus size section first, and the only cardigans I could find there were horrible. Or at least not what I was looking for. Like the music, they were just too loud for me! Not basic at all. I did try a couple on, and they were too big. So then I headed to the misses section and a strange thing happened. I suddenly became very intimidated. I just stood there and looked at everything without actually picking anything up. I didn't try anything on. I guess this will sound strange but I was afraid someone would tell me "You don't belong in this section! Nothing here is going to be big enough for you!"

So I left Penny's without a cardigan. I went to Kohl's, and thankfully they didn't have music blasting so loud that I couldn't even think. I again went to the plus section to look at cardigans. They had some pretty ones in the right color, but they were too big and too expensive. I also looked in the Misses section and I managed to try on a few things. And it was so weird...some cardigans fit me, and some were too small....even though they were the exact same size! But you know what was sad? Instead of being proud of myself for fitting into some of those cardigans, I instead berated myself for the ones that DIDN'T fit. I felt bad about myself, and had to really give myself a talking to in order to snap out of it.

I ended up getting a black cardigan that had been marked down to 12 dollars. It wasn't exactly what I wanted, but it fit and it will be a good basic to go with anything. Its one of those cardigans that don't button or zip. I think it will fit me for a long time as I continue to lose weight and go down in sizes.

For my birthday next month, my mother in law will give me a $20 Kohl's gift card, as she always does. So I will use it to look for a shirt to wear under my cardigan! But I have to tell you, I'm not sure I'm looking forward to shopping again. If I had so much trouble just buying a cardigan, whats it going to be like to buy a shirt? Or for that matter, whats it going to be like when I reach my goal size and cash in the can of coins so I can go buy a whole bunch of new clothes? Where are Stacy and Clinton from What Not to Wear when you need them?

It would be so easy to just keep wearing workout pants and t shirts. But I'm not going to let myself do that. When I reach my goal size, I am going to reward myself with REAL clothes! I just wish I had a shopping buddy to help me out.

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  • SAMANTHA1965
    i can def. relate . i hope your next shopping experience is better. i always look forward to reading your blogs.
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  • THEIS58
    1729 days ago
    I loved this entry! I just had wondered into goodwill a few hours ago and tried some clothes on, you know, hoping that I was a smaller size. I was.....ALMOST....
    But I found myself thinking exactly what you are experiencing. I don't know what I want to wear when I am at my goal weight, (when I grow up) I've been overweight since my first child was born, that was in 1991. There is a website you might want to play with that my daughter showed me it is called polyvore. You can go to Kohls pick out a shirt, save it on this site and then put it together with other things you like. It is kinda like playing barbies for somewhat grownups. emoticon
    1729 days ago
    Awesome commentary.
    1729 days ago
    I have clothes is 4 different sizes that all fit! The size of clothing has nothing to do with how much body it will cover these days. :)

    I've always said I am ME SIZED and I just have to find things that fit that.

    Congrats on the first piece of your new style!
    1729 days ago
    Soo well written. Thank you for sharing this. It is like you picked my brain!
    1729 days ago
    I tend to wear what makes me feel good vs. what others tell me is appropriate. This retired gal earned it! Why should we be boring just because we are not younger? However, I do like to have those basics. I tend to buy clothes for the part of my body that is the slimmest...and am waiting for my bottom half to size down a bit. At home I look in the mirror and think I am looking better but at the store all my lumps and bumps show. It is a bummer. I love Stein Mart because of their fun collection but am holding off like you. Enjoy your success. You look great.
    1729 days ago
    Oh, it's so good to know I'm not alone! My mom is my shopping buddy but has never been seriously overweight. She used to get completely confused when I would get upset and leave stores after trying on only a few things - she can shop all day and try everything in the place.

    As I got older we started talking more about deeper topics, and one day got on the topic of self-image.

    My self-image has always been great - in my head, I look like my niece - 5 feet six, muscular and slender, beautiful long auburn hair, able to wear a bikini without a thought... a body I have never actually inhabited. Strangely, my mother's self-image is my real size - about 80 lbs overweight.

    When she shops the mirror gives wonderful news.

    When I shop, it tells me horrible things!

    Now that we understand each others' perspectives better, we can shop with much less pain. She is my mirror, I don't even look until she tells me something looks good on me!

    1729 days ago
  • CYND59
    Good for you for going shopping. I do not like to shop for myself. I think people are watching me. I know I should not care what they think.

    I have watched "What Not To Wear" several times and wonder what the hosts would say about my wardrobe. LOL!
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  • TEIGH45
    I was so encouraged by this blog. It was encouraging, funny and I believe all readers could relate to it. What a streak, I am on day three :o). emoticon
    1729 days ago
    Great blog! Putting into words what so many of us think and feel. Someone on here mentioned Christopher and Banks. For plus sizes I shop at CJ Banks and love the sales people there and the styles. I can't wait to go down in size to Christopher & Banks. Prices can be a little scary if you're on a budget, but they always have great sales. And they are so honest about helping you find something that's just right for you. If you have one in your area, check it out. Or go online to see what they have to offer before you go to the store. I agree with someone else's suggestion to shop a little for a piece here and there on your way down to your goal weight so it's not so intimidating when you're there. Take time to browse and get a feel for what's in the store. And definitely don't let a size tag dictate your feelings. They are all different. In fact, you will find the more expensive the clothes, the smaller the size. What might be a size 12 in JCP or Kohls would be an 8 or 6 in a really high end store. So the size tag has nothing to do with it.
    I love your blogs! And wouldn't miss a one! You keep so many of us going!

    1729 days ago
    yes, shopping buddies with a good eye for style and fashion are very helpful. as some others have said--keep trying till you get better at it--then it will be more natural...and maybe even fun!
    1730 days ago
    yes, shopping buddies with a good eye for style and fashion are very helpful. as some others have said--keep trying till you get better at it--then it will be more natural...and maybe even fun!
    1730 days ago
    I hate shopping and your blog is pretty much the reason for it. There have been many times I've left shopping in tears and discouraged. I'm looking forward to positive experiences in the near future.
    1730 days ago
    Got me thinking and was very encouraging
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  • STAY39
    Shopping is such a challenge! I always feel like someone is going to tell me I don't belong in a certain section. Such a stupid awful thing to feel because I don't think anyone would ever be rude or ballsy enough to do that. We are probably all traumatized by that scene in Pretty Woman! We are so hard on ourselves- our own worst critic! Here's to better shopping days ahead for all of us!
    1730 days ago
    Like your work. It is great as usual.

    As I age, I dress for comfort not the latest style. Right now, I need a lot of new clothes. Most of my shirts are 2X and 3X and I fit nicely in a regular or a medium in some manufacturers.

    I will also wear socks with my sandals if my feet feel the need.
    1730 days ago
    Shopping can be a challenge. I too run between misses and plus sized. My closet has size 16 thru 24! And that hoodie you thought you wanted, I did the same thing with a spring dress! When I got to that size, I thought nope won't do! I enjoy your blogs. You write things I say in my head!!! Enjoy successes, there will be many!
    1730 days ago
    Great blog. You said what a lot of us are thinking. Shopping is overwhelming.
    I am lucky I have a daughter who goes shopping with me (now that I don't have to buy out of a catalog)
    She challenges me to try new styles I NEVER would have tired on, and I love them.
    Keep going to the stores you will start to feel more comfortable.
    SInce I am still lossing weight I also go to resale shops. The prices are reasonalbe, so when you shrink out of them it is ok.
    I now get excited to buy somehting in a smaller size and it fits. Makes me feel good about myself.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts
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    You are beautiful, too. emoticon
    1730 days ago
    I'm starting sp again - tried other things - this plays keeps me more motivated than the others because of people like you! emoticon
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  • TREE57
    This blog is just what I needed! You are paving this Ricky road of weight loss for the rest of us, and we thank you.

    Congrats on being featured.

    1730 days ago
    Loved your blog, keep it up!!!! Moving from hoodies to cardigans is a definite style plus. Hoodies are so shapeless--I only wear them when I am heading to a workout or walking the dog=) I have about 6 cardigans, all in different print/color.In the summer I wear them over cami's, and my sleeveless dresses, and maxi dresses. I used to hate to shop, but now that I am a 16/18 I am enjoying it again. I love your idea about putting your change in a jar for your wardobe, I am going to start doing it-and include my $1 bills as well.

    As far as cost for wardobe, I have found that hitting my Goodwill quarter days has been very helpful. If you have a goodwill in your area, I would call them and see when their quarter days are, then get there 1st thing in the morning, as there is normally a line=) I always bring $5--that is 20 pieces of clothes!!!!!

    You are doing a great job, keep it up.


    1730 days ago
    Good for you! you did make the effort kinda like a trial shopping : )
    Keep up the streak emoticon
    1730 days ago
    I can see why this blog is a spark favourite of many. You are honest, open, and realistic. I wish you well finding a great top to wear under your new cardigan.

    I love the quotes - especially the one from Stacy London about taking a Sharpie. I'm gonna have to try that!

    All the best with the rest of your goals. One thing I found when I was on this journey before and lost a lot of weight, was that shopping was actually easier, and a much more pleasant experience. So many more things fit me, that I was able to pick and choose what I liked, instead of having to settle like I normally do.

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  • JIBBIE49
    emoticon Great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. emoticon
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    emoticon nice pictures and great blog
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    Oh, I can understand your wardrobe fears! I can remember having those same out-of-bound feelings when I was younger. That's why I like shopping on the internet!

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    Thanks for sharing this great blog!
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    I hate shopping also. So much that it gives me anxiety. I am trying to lose weight to fit into something I already have so that I can avoid buying something new. I am about to run out of clothes. I have one pair of jeans and I know they won't last long, because as embarrassing as it is to say.............they don't last as long as they should because my thighs rub together removing the fabric little by little right where I need fabric the most! I hope you find your style groove, I know I want to find mine when I earn what you have earned!
    1730 days ago
    I wish I could go shopping with you! I LOVE to shop!!!! And my clothes range from a S to XXL - just depends on the manufacturer. (I average a size 16, but I really do have clothes in the range from S to 2X.)

    Don't let the number affect how you feel about yourself - the clothing companies manipulate the numbers to make you want to buy new clothes all the time. Seriously.

    And that black sweater will go with everything - try a lacy blouse under it with dark jeans for a dressy look. Or a bright springtime color, like that blue you talked about, or a pink, with everyday jeans. Toss it on in the summer evenings over a sundress for a sophisticated look. Pair it with a black tank and tan pants for a brunch. I ALWAYS have a black cardi in my wardrobe (or these days, in my luggage) - goes with everything!
    1730 days ago
    If you like hoodies, wear 'em. I'm not going to be intimidated by age-appropriate, especially for casual clothes. For dress clothes, I'll be more restrained. I've never been slim and I may at first go a little crazy, but so what? That said, I think thrift stores and rummage sales are a good way to go as you are losing weight. Then if you make a mistake, it's not so costly. And you can try on all kinds of things and get a feel for what you like best without sometimes snooty sales people around. I've been wearing hand-me-downs from a friend who lost weight, and stuff that will cover me for a lot of years. So within a strict budget, I plan to go a little crazy. I have been going to rummage sales and occasionally buying something I really like that is WAY too small. So I have things waiting for me as I lose. I think the idea someone here had of finding someone who has a style you like go shopping with you or at least make recommendations is a good one. I'd better stop. This could have been a blog itself. Anyway, have fun with it. Don't turn what should be a reward into a needlessly stressful situation. emoticon
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  • DANIE0677
    "Don't be discouraged by sizes. From what I can tell, different manufacturers have different standards for sizes. And well some things look fantastic on the hanger or mannequin, you can put it on and discover that it really doesn't work on a real person."

    This is exactly what I was saying.
    1730 days ago
    I love WNTW and always find a tip in each show, it seems. I've also found that reading their books is very helpful (and Trinny and Susannah from the UK who started it). Check out your library and take the time to study and enjoy the advice.

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  • FISHER011
    emoticon Pixie-you are so awesome! Loved your blog! I loved shopping with you my friend! Woo Hoo! You got a cardigan! You didn't come home empty handed!
    1730 days ago
    I love that show!!! I used to watch it all the time, back a few years ago!!!! Maybe you should hint to your family, that they should nominate you for the show when you get close to your goal weight!!!

    1730 days ago
    Keep up the good work and keep a positive attitude.
    You will succeed if you keep moving forward even if you pause from time to time.
    God Bless
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    emoticon on your pounds lost so far emoticon emoticon

    I also watch WNTW and have found some very good advice on it - regardless of age. Meaning the "rules" stay the same if you are the same body shape as someone else and after that it just boils down to the pattern, color, etc. I think.

    I also find that I have become intimidated when it comes to shopping. When I was younger I'd go by whatever I liked. Now I hear other "voices" in my head and need to learn to shut most of them up! emoticon

    May I suggest the idea of buying a piece or two of clothing AS you go down in size rather than waiting to the end? If you feel comfortable doing that, it might be inspiring and motivational in the end. Just a thought! emoticon
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  • CICELY360
    good blog
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  • JAMER123
    Another great blog from you!! You can really focus in on people's feelings. I also have a major problem with the upper arm size. I still wear a 1X for arm comfort but the are looking a little big elsewhere. A lg is just too tight in the arms for me. Another reason I don't wear sleeveless.
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    1730 days ago
    Keep up the great work! Shopping is hard. I love What Not to Wear!

    You are size AWESOME! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1730 days ago
    i love reading ur blogs its like you are talking to me and yes i wish i was one those friends that could shop with you emoticon
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