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Thursday, March 21, 2013

"The measure of a man's real character is what he would do if he knew he would never be found out." Thomas B. Macaulay

" yourself because you have a body and it's worth loving and it is perfect. Be healthy, which is perfect at whatever size healthy is and at whatever size happy is." Jen Larsen

I've been thinking a lot lately about how impatient I was for the past 5 months to dissolve the weight I had gained in an instant. And every time I got on the scale, my entire day could be uplifted or ruined based on the number I saw. I had absorbed, once again, the very limiting belief that my life would only be OK when I was at my goal weight, and that until then, I had to live in Hell.

But I've been realizing lately that I'm already there! Right now I can have all the goodness I thought was waiting for me at that magic date of getting to goal. Right now I can enjoy life, I can be present, I can focus, I can laugh with my daughter, I can see the goodness in my students, I can enjoy the flowers starting to bud.

And the more days I take care of myself (today is day 6!! Whoohoo!!), the easier it becomes. Not because the scale is going down (it keeps going up and down), but because I feel so much better when I take care of myself. And I have more energy, patience, I get better sleep, I enjoy my meals because I'm hungry before eating, my digestion is better, and so on and so on.

So though everyone has been saying this to me for a long time, I think the real trick to all of this is to realize that once we've made a decision to live better, we are there! Because I'm eating and exercising and sleeping the way I will for the rest of my life. So when I get to that goal weight, I'll have already been there anyway!

"Freshness, aliveness, and the sweetness of every single day are available to you--are you willing to make the effort to do what it takes to bring yourself here?" Geneen Roth
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

KRISKECK 3/27/2013 6:19AM

    What a great blog! It is so true and I am so happy for you that you are in this happy space. We only need to acknowledge it.

Keep being good to yourself, through those times when things are going well and as well when they are not going quite so well. You have an internal compass and you will always swing back to true north!


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EJOY-EVELYN 3/24/2013 8:51PM

    Great blog! One of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite ministers, Joyce Meyer, is, "Every time you feel like doing the wrong thing and you choose to do the right thing you are growing and God is smiling!"

This truly holds me accountable when no one is looking. At the same time, I can totally understand the power I can give my scale when it's about both the scale and non-scale victories. My brain has a hard time deciphering this one in the right direction. Guess that continues to make me a work in progress. (smile, smile)

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NEEDBU66 3/24/2013 6:25PM

    Once you've made the decision to eat better and exercise more you are already there.

Magnificent statement. That needs embroidered on a pillow, that's for sure.

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 3/24/2013 6:13PM

    Wow! i just read this and it segues so nicely with the blog I wrote today!

Glad to be on the same wavelength and congrats on realization that like Dorothy - we have always had the power!

oh and Thanks so much for the supportive comments on my SP blogs!!!
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WILSONWR 3/21/2013 11:54PM

    Sometimes the journey is more fun than the destination. You're right -- we need to live for today!

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DAYSPRING-STAR 3/21/2013 9:09PM

    Julie, you have provided me with food for thought. I've made this decision, so am I already there? And is "there," here? Do I already have it? And is "it," this? I want to say yes. I will say yes. I am saying yes! And I will keep doing this until it sticks 24/7. Thank you, you truly are an inspiration.

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WATERMELLEN 3/21/2013 8:55PM

    You are indeed "there" because you have changed your attitude! Great blog, terrific insight. Just what we all needed to read!

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GLORIAMAJDI 3/21/2013 8:09PM

    Yes yes yes! Because when you are taking care of yourself, it is so much easier to deal with the stress and take care of the others who need you.


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MINIUM 3/21/2013 5:46PM

    Brilliant! Well done!
I love this tense you're using in the very last sentence!
Take good care of yourself because you're utterly worth it.

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ANNIEONLI 3/21/2013 4:22PM

    emoticon You've had an "AHA!" moment!!!! I LOVE those!!!!
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TINAJANE76 3/21/2013 3:59PM

    Sometimes everything just finally clicks and comes together. Sounds like you're experiencing that now and I'm so happy for you. You've worked hard to get here and I know that you can keep this up because you ARE already there!

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CAREN_BLUEJEANS 3/21/2013 12:54PM

    Love the quotes! You have such a positive attitude. I needed a dose of that from you today (bad weigh in). Thank you!

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LJCANNON 3/21/2013 11:29AM

    emoticon What an Awesome Thought to start the day!! Living Like You're Already Thee is Profound AND Simple!
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CAKEMAKERMOM 3/21/2013 10:56AM

    The end number is just a number, but the outlook of life is the real goal we need to meet!

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AKATHLEEN54 3/21/2013 9:58AM

    So true. So many of us are waiting for "that day" and in the meantime we are missing our own lives! It's great to be working toward a goal that will keep us happier and healthier longer, but if we don't stop to smell the roses along the way, we will have missed the whole journey. Thanks for reminding us to life life now and not to wait until "that day" emoticon

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MISSIFISH 3/21/2013 9:57AM

    Great plan! I like the idea of being happy and proud every day regardless of what the scale says. You are so right - the change is being made, and that is something worth celebrating!

Hope today is a wonderful one for you.

And... I wanted to comment on what you said on my page - I do have some great local friends, but I am so busy I don't see them often. My very best friends are, like yours, far away, and so we are very much in the same boat. I am just really working hard to juggle it all, just like everyone! ;)

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    I needed this today, Julie, thank you so much. I've been struggling lately too. If the scale goes up or stays the same for a few days I'm ok, but if it stays up for a week or so (which it has done lately) I end up going off the deep end thinking, "it doesn't matter anyway." As if the scale were the only reason I'm trying to eat healthier and exercise! Thanks for the reminder that right now I can live like I'm already there.

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SUNSHINE99999 3/21/2013 9:53AM

  Enjoy life indeed. Thanks for sharing! emoticon emoticon

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