Wednesday, March 20, 2013
Something happened last night that I can't let go of, so let's see if I can let it go here?
While watching a video in class last night, a student in my class lost consciousness. It was scary. Here's my take on it. I was sitting in the back (I am the teacher of said class and we are talking college level here) watching and making sure no phones were out. A student a few feet in front of me raised her hand slowly (I am not sure she knew I was behind her?). I thought, that's weird, does she have a question, in the dark, during the middle of the video? She put her hand down casually and then 30 seconds later she made a weird breathing sound and slumped back in her chair. I went to immediately check on her, had one of the students turn the light on, her eyes were open but yet she wasn't 'there'. Went to call campus security and she regained consciousness. She was out of it for about 30 seconds.
Kind of scary (although I am not new at this, it has happened before). She was okay, she tells me and the Fire Department that she has fainting spells often. She waves off the FD, doesn't want to be checked because being checked may make her faint again. She regains her color (wasn't looking too good for a while) and tells everyone she is okay to drive home.
The mom in me wants to be sure she's okay. She's driving with a friend, but I still follow them home to be sure.
Here's the part that is bugging me. When we left for the night, the campus security officer (a friend and colleague of mine) says, "That girl is an idiot". She was referring to waving off the FD to check her, and her wanting to drive herself home. I was shocked at this statement! Where's the sensitivity? She knows nothing about this girl. I sat with my student during the rest of the night, was there when the FD showed up, I was able to see her lose consciousnesses, regain it, and to really 'see' her this whole time. Was I concerned, YOU BET! Was I comfortable with her waving off the FD, NO WAY. But it is her decision, she knows herself better than we do. We do not know other people's reasons for what they do? All we can do is show care and concern, be there if/when they need us and hope for the best. Leave judgement out of it! For this statement to come from a person who should show the utmost concern for our students blows my mind! I just can't understand it, but I guess it's not my place to understand it.
My student emailed me late last night apologizing. I told her there is no reason to apologize! She is doing good today :) I am glad I was there to help her! I am glad she is doing good. So friends, please keep those sensitivity hats close! When in doubt, put it on! We need more compassion!
Thanks for letting me vent!