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Acts of Gym Kindness

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

So since the ballerina comment from my last blog post, things haven't necessarily gotten much better. I've still been feeling remarkably unwelcome in "boys club". In fact, when doing an upper body circuit last week, some guy came over and took the bench I was using. I had just stood up from it, was doing curls with my legs still touching the bench and the rest of my weights all around it, and he sat down and took it without even asking me. I was sad.

We've changed the time when we visit, going a little later when it's less crowded. All that seems to have done is make our evenings very very busy. I can accept that.

I'll admit that I'm not enjoying the gym like I used to but I still love working hard and I've still been pushing myself hard.

And I look for ways to be happy at the gym. Like last night.

Last night I needed to do lat pulldowns but the wrong bar was attached to the cable machine. I knew that I couldn't attach the long lat pull bar I needed without help. It's too unwieldy while also holding the cable down. I scanned the room to see who I could ask. There were a lot of very large men around, most of whom had headphones on. And then I spotted him.

I've seen this young chap before. He comes to the gym with his dad. He's an adorable little weed, maybe twelve. Glasses. Sweetest face. His father was using a machine and he was standing next to him looking a little lost, waiting for his dad to finish. This was my guy.

I went up to him and touched his arm and said, "Hey, do you think you could help me out for a second?" His eyes got a little round, like maybe he was afraid I was going to ask for help with a weight he couldn't manage. But he nodded and said yes. I walked back to the cable machine and said, "Can you hold this down for me so I can attach the bar to it?" He smiled and nodded and held it down while I clipped the bar on to it. I smiled at him and said, "I can never do this by myself and I always look like such an idiot." He chuckled. It was adorable. I said, "Thanks man!" and he walked away.

But he was smiling.

It's nothing. It didn't mean much. But we both got a smile out of it. And that is all that matters.
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    Yay! Smiles are great things! You made that little fella's day! And got the help you needed! Good for you! Keep up the good work! I hope the atmosphere at the gym gets better. Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon emoticon
    1666 days ago
    Loved this story
    1676 days ago
    It's too bad that some Neanderthal's are making your life difficult at the gym. Too bad there isn't anything the gym can do to rein in their bad behavior. Having that kid help you may help change the next generation of young men in the gym. Hopefully as he gets older and perhaps helps you from time to time in the gym he'll remember that cool gal who treated him well and made him feel important. I hope things get better in the gym.
    1677 days ago
    That is so sweet! You made that little boys night I'm sure!

    It breaks my heart to hear that you are having such a hard at the gym. I know around here they have "girl gyms", is that an option that they have out there? I hope what ever you find that it works out for you and that you become super happy again at the gym. You are working hard and bottom line is to not let the scared little men at your gym take that away from you!
    1677 days ago
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    cute emoticon
    1677 days ago
    Gosh, I just love reading about your gym adventures. So glad that this was a positive one for you (minus the dingdong who stole your bench).
    1677 days ago
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