Tuesday, March 19, 2013
Sometimes I wish you could just pick your family instead of accepting the one given to you.
When my grandmother died my Aunt went through all of her things and took whatever she wanted to her kids and then left everything else for my brother and I to sift through.I was amazed at the things she was willing to toss (like my mother's and uncle's baby bracelets from the hospital). When we began to box up items we wanted to keep she got rather angry with us that we were "taking too much". Apparently she needed us to leave enough behind for her friends to go through as well. Um. Excuse me? Did they even KNOW my Grandmother?
Now we are planning my cousins bridal shower and I come to find out that she is at it again. She is using her mother's and my grandmother's tea sets as centerpieces and party favors!! She said no one would have wanted them anyway and they would never have gotten used. She never asked me. I would not only have loved to have them I would have used them often. So, I politely ask her if I could take one of each pattern and replace them with vintage tea cups I purchase so she will still have an equal number.
Do you mean to tell me that you don't have anything of Gramie's????????????
I do remember a certain Thanksgiving with a room filled with things of Grandma's plus furniture, etc. Surely you have things...............
I took a deep breath and replied with:
I offered to purchase tea cups to replace the ones I am taking. Is it so wrong to want to have keepsakes from those I love?
Just needed to vent. I can see this is going to be another uphill battle...