I had to go buy some food for the house today, and get "THE HOBBIT", and take back some stuff that I didn't need for my project. The sun is shining, it's a semi warmish day (50's), I'm sore, but happy. So I'm just getting started on the food shopping when I see this guy that I used to work with 18 years ago. When we run into each other we chit chat, then move on.
Well I really didn't want to talk to him (Mr. D.), Mr. D can be a downer and usually talks about the people that we worked with. During that time I had a affair. Hubby and I was having problems, he was choosing to ignore it and spend all of his non working hours playing video games and ignoring me .... completely. ... To the point of yelling at me when I bothered him while he was playing. So I had a non sexual affair. I call it an affair because I was spending time with this coworker (Mr. J.) and everybody at the plant knew it.
Well I finally told hubby after a couple of months. He forgave me and we started working really hard at saving our marriage. I moved to a different shift to get away from Mr. J. Hubby and I got pregnant, I stayed till baby was born and then quit working there. I have not seen Mr. J. again ... even in passing.
So Mr. D is telling me about his bad divorce and his bedroom life with his female friends, not that I care, but didn't want to be rude and just walk away. .... I wish I had. He talked for about 10 minutes then started walking away. (guess my non comments was finally sinking in.) And as he is walking away he says over his shoulder that he sees Mr. J. and then turns to face me and tells me how many times he has been married in the past 18 years, and what he is doing. Where he is ...... stuff that I don't care about.
Why tell me about him? Why bring that up? Was he just wanting me to remember him? Was he hoping that I would ask him for Mr. J's number or something? Or tell him to tell Mr. J that I asked about him?
It's not my fault that Mr. D is unhappy. Is it my fault that Mr. J has been married twice now since I knew him? Mr. J chased me, I didn't chase him. So having affairs was probably a normal thing for him. Does the fact that hubby and I went through a patch that would make most couples divorce and we are still together after 18 years really bother him? Did he really think that I would care what Mr. J is doing?
So why do I feel the need to vent? ...... .............. Because Mr. D is a big fat jerk and I really wanted to smack him!! Cause I really wanted to tell him off for being so rude and inconsiderate. Because I really wanted to laugh in his pathetic sad face for trying to stir up trouble for me and my hubby. *sigh* ........ All I did was say that I wasn't surprised and walked away. ...... And sent hubby a text telling him the whole thing.
Hubby said that he was probably trying to just get a reaction from me or that he was just trying to pull me down to his level.
Small talk would have been so much nicer. "Isn't the weather lovely today?" "Have you seen the trees blooming?" "How are you and your family?"
I told hubby that he probably brought Mr. J up cause I prayed this morning. I mean a real prayer, not just a Lord please be with so and so. But a real one. ...... Devil trying to knock me back off the fence.
Ok I'm done venting. Time to go finish my project .... or in this case, clean up my mess, start laundry, do the dishes. Get the pork roast started for supper ...... Take some Ibuprofen .....
Hope you guys are having a wonderful day!!