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Non diet venting!!

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

I had to go buy some food for the house today, and get "THE HOBBIT", and take back some stuff that I didn't need for my project. The sun is shining, it's a semi warmish day (50's), I'm sore, but happy. So I'm just getting started on the food shopping when I see this guy that I used to work with 18 years ago. When we run into each other we chit chat, then move on.

Well I really didn't want to talk to him (Mr. D.), Mr. D can be a downer and usually talks about the people that we worked with. During that time I had a affair. Hubby and I was having problems, he was choosing to ignore it and spend all of his non working hours playing video games and ignoring me .... completely. ... To the point of yelling at me when I bothered him while he was playing. So I had a non sexual affair. I call it an affair because I was spending time with this coworker (Mr. J.) and everybody at the plant knew it.

Well I finally told hubby after a couple of months. He forgave me and we started working really hard at saving our marriage. I moved to a different shift to get away from Mr. J. Hubby and I got pregnant, I stayed till baby was born and then quit working there. I have not seen Mr. J. again ... even in passing.

So Mr. D is telling me about his bad divorce and his bedroom life with his female friends, not that I care, but didn't want to be rude and just walk away. .... I wish I had. He talked for about 10 minutes then started walking away. (guess my non comments was finally sinking in.) And as he is walking away he says over his shoulder that he sees Mr. J. and then turns to face me and tells me how many times he has been married in the past 18 years, and what he is doing. Where he is ...... stuff that I don't care about.

Why tell me about him? Why bring that up? Was he just wanting me to remember him? Was he hoping that I would ask him for Mr. J's number or something? Or tell him to tell Mr. J that I asked about him?

It's not my fault that Mr. D is unhappy. Is it my fault that Mr. J has been married twice now since I knew him? Mr. J chased me, I didn't chase him. So having affairs was probably a normal thing for him. Does the fact that hubby and I went through a patch that would make most couples divorce and we are still together after 18 years really bother him? Did he really think that I would care what Mr. J is doing?

So why do I feel the need to vent? ...... .............. Because Mr. D is a big fat jerk and I really wanted to smack him!! Cause I really wanted to tell him off for being so rude and inconsiderate. Because I really wanted to laugh in his pathetic sad face for trying to stir up trouble for me and my hubby. *sigh* ........ All I did was say that I wasn't surprised and walked away. ...... And sent hubby a text telling him the whole thing.
Hubby said that he was probably trying to just get a reaction from me or that he was just trying to pull me down to his level.

Small talk would have been so much nicer. "Isn't the weather lovely today?" "Have you seen the trees blooming?" "How are you and your family?"

I told hubby that he probably brought Mr. J up cause I prayed this morning. I mean a real prayer, not just a Lord please be with so and so. But a real one. ...... Devil trying to knock me back off the fence.

Ok I'm done venting. Time to go finish my project .... or in this case, clean up my mess, start laundry, do the dishes. Get the pork roast started for supper ...... Take some Ibuprofen .....

Hope you guys are having a wonderful day!!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
DWEXCEL 3/24/2013 8:59AM

    Good Morning Becky,

Yes, some people are just jerks! I agree with your husband, and your other friends on here. You don't need that kindda crap in your life, and good for you for not letting it in. You listened, which is what a good person would do. But you recognized it for what it was, and didn't let him suck you in!!!!! I'm proud of you that you shared that with your husband, and I'm happy that he recognized it for what it was, and loves you and supports you!

Take care,

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KICKINGKILOS 3/20/2013 2:25PM

    Some people just like to put others downn so they can feel good.
YOU stayed quiet and thats great.
Not sure if its right to say but offlate hubby is playing ipad and we are really fighting.

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DIETSAFARI 3/20/2013 12:31PM

    Sometimes you just have to duck behind something and let the Mr D's of the world pass by you without inflicting any damage.
You did the right thing. Focus on the Lord, and the good things in your life. The past is GONE.

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GABIBEAR 3/20/2013 12:29AM

    Hi Becky,

Sorry about the guy's bad manors. Even though you were not trying to be rude, I guess in the future it would be better for you just to tell him that he has no right delving into your personal life and that you are uncomfortable with it - and don't worry about being 'rude'. After all his behavior was rude and WAY too personal. If you ever see him again and he starts to talk in the same manner, just tell him that you are not interested in that kind of talk and that you have to be going. Why should you have to feel uncomfortable or be bought down? Telling your hubby and going on with your day was the best thing you could have done.

I too believe that the devil likes to jump on us when we show more love to God! Hope tomorrow brings you much happiness.

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KARIEWILLIS 3/19/2013 11:38PM

    Sometimes emotional affairs are the worst ones. I applaud you and your husband for working things out! That's wonderful.

As for the jerk... well, I think your husband is right. This guy was going on and on about his bedroom life, and wanted to make sure that you weren't better than him. I mean, in his mind.

Good job not punching him! emoticon

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DARLENEK04 3/19/2013 10:17PM

    Well some people are just never happy or content and want everyone to
commiserate and whine at their level. The fact that you did not want to
gossip makes you the better person. I am glad your husband was quite
supportive, and that you have this whipped.

Take care,

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BEEJAY49 3/19/2013 4:29PM

    I know that many unhappy people drag others down because if they're not happy, they don't want anyone else to be either. I would have said, who the he** cares, have a good day and walked away. Hehe! HUGS!

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HEALTHY-SPARK 3/19/2013 4:12PM

    That's tough. I've come to believe that there are some people who just thrive on drama and creating chaos. And my experience with those people is that they want you to share in their little world drama -- and when it doesn't they will sink to a new low to try and get a rise out of you. It's hard to stay above all that, and I can see how you would be irritated at the insensitivity of this guy to bring up something that he should have obviously known would have been a painful part of your past. I just came across this great quote yesterday -- seems fitting here.
'Wherever you go, no matter the weather, always bring your own sunshine." A. D'Angelo
Some people are just unhappy, it doesn't mean they get to drag you into their own unhappy cramped little world.

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LOOKINGUP2012 3/19/2013 3:59PM

    Good for you for having a down to business prayer this morning. You're right, things can seem crazy. Tell both those Mr.s Jesus Christ is Lord and see which direction they run : )

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HFAYE81 3/19/2013 3:33PM

    It's beautiful here, about upper 50s to low 60s. It sounds like either Mr. D is just one of those people who bring up anything you have in common whether its appropriate or not...I have a relative like that and she doesn't mean anything by it, she is just socially awkward at times.

OR it could be that he likes to stir the pot. Luckily for you there's nothing to stir, so he just wasted time. Don't waste your energy on that loser! emoticon

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CAGEDBIRDSONG 3/19/2013 3:31PM

    The proof is in the pudding. 18 years is no easy task. You and hubby have truly put the work into making your marriage work. Sounds like Mr D is just a D____. Actually, he sounds like a gossipmonger. Shame on him. You just go on about your happy life and don't think about Mr. and Mister any more.

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