Inspired by CAKEMAKERMOM’s blog “You don't look that big”
I started this as a comment on her blog and it grew into something more that I wanted to share on my own.
I am 5’10” I have a strong frame and an hourglass shape. Generous bosom and wide hips.
I know how to dress, and most of my remaining fat it is hiding around my middle. I told a woman at work who was 5'6" that I was 180lbs and she actually argued it with me until I stepped on the scale in front of her.
Even at my max weight, though visibly overweight, I could always trick the "Guess Your Weight" people at fairs/carnivals. (yes I did it a couple of times) They always under-guessed me. By a lot.
Good to know I can carry a little extra without people really knowing.
I do not LOOK as heavy as I am.
The downside it some many friends and family members think I should be done.
No, I am still overweight. I am tired of pulling up my shirt and showing the obvious stomach fat to prove it.
Even an older male co-worker said to me a couple of months ago when a few of my co-workers and I finished our weekly weigh-in together (a tradition that started during our weight loss and walking challenge last year and continue for a few of us as a means of group accountability), “Aren’t you done yet?”
When I said no he looked at me in disbelief and asked “why”
First of all I really find it a little annoying. Yes there is a flattering aspect but at the same time, it is none of their business. Still I explained to him politely about my goals and my body shape and yes that I was CLOSE to my goal.
I could see if I looked anorexic (and I REALLY don’t) people being concerned, but that is not the case.
I honestly think that Americans have really lost track of what “Healthy” looks like.
When it comes to some friends and family, and I hate to say it but I believe it to be true, there is some jealously and resentment mixed in with their hints that I should be “Done”. I have received far more positive reactions to my weight loss and general appearance, but I could write a whole seperate blog post (and might someday) about some of the negative/jealous reactions.
I feel resentful and sabotaged that even my sister, accuses me of being over zealous (actually I think she used the word obsessed) about the exercise. I have a compulsive personality, so I understand her concern but she really does not understand.
I am not over-doing it. I am not working out 2 hours a day very day and refusing to eat. I am eating plenty and trying (yet failing most weeks) to get 35 minutes in 4-5 times a week. Her concern over my obsession I think is fueled by the fact that I get very frustrated when life gets too busy for me to fit it in.
Believe it or not, I find myself wanting to “sneak in” my exercise when she is not home.
But I still know I am not 100% Healthy. Even now that I have lost the Obvious weight, I still have things I want to work on for the sake of my health, to feel good.
Even once I have lost the last 10-15 lbs I will not be done. This is a lifestyle change and if I am ever "DONE" I know I will gain again and be unhealthy again.
I will need to maintain. Continue to exercise and keep my metabolism awake. I have a desk job and only get exercise if I do it deliberately.
I also wish to share this link that CAKEMAKERMOM added to her blog.
I have set it to 180 (my weight)
People need to realize how vastly different those numbers look on different body types.
You cannot be 5’6 and wide framed compare & your weight to a 5’7 friend with narrow hips. It doesn’t work.