Today I salute all the women AND men with the courage to be themselves.
A comment on my blog Saturday prompted today’s thoughts. When she mentioned “womanly pursuits,” we all pretty much understood which activities she meant, even before she listed her favorites.
I’m good at some traditional things. I’m a great and very creative seamstress, with or without a pattern. Look, I was once a mermaid
I made a set of these for a community theater production.
They looked really good from the audience with stage lighting.
Unfortunately, I didn’t have a lot of talent in the kitchen and cleaning was just a necessity. The Board of Health would never come calling, but neither would House Beautiful magazine either.
During my years as a SAHM, I was determined to learn the other womanly arts, usually from printed instructions. I learned to knit and crochet, do needlepoint and even crewel. Here’s a coat and hat I knitted for my daughter.
I had a lot of company in these traditional activities and I did enjoy them. We even had a club. But when I registered for a local Labor Day bike race, I realized that it was for men only. They let me enter and I didn’t do very well, but it was a start. Within a few years there were events for both men and women.
Both women and men have a stake in combating stereotypes. There’s nothing wrong with being a SAHM or pursuing traditional womanly activities. Unfortunately, stay at home Dads don’t even get their own acronym. It was quite a shock when NFL star Rosey Greir admitted to doing needlepoint. Of course he was big enough that no one was likely to laugh at him.
I really appreciate the men who when spending time at home with their own children realize that they are not “babysitting.”
I wonder how long it will take for society to give both men and women the freedom to be themselves.
Since I was going through old photos anyway, I decided to include these results of my sewing activities
I could be a “woman of the evening” or a proper Amish mother. I may have been following a traditional path in my real life, but onstage many extremes were possible.
I understand StoneCot’s comment and agree that women can be harsh critics of those who haven’t chosen the same path as they have. However, my concern here is with a society that once separated jobs in want ads by gender and officially excluded women from activities deemed too physically demanding – like the marathon. I assume that men who wanted to pursue a Nursing career would have and perhaps still face the same type of obstacles.