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Far to much stress!

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

I've known for the past seven weeks that I've been under far to much stress. Each week, I've hoped it would get better. It hasn't. But a few weeks ago, I started doing something that has made life so much better. I clicked on a link and then a button that read "Join This Team". What a blessing! What a gift to myself!

I joined the Official Stress Busting Challenge. Here's a link if you want to check it out ... and if you're stressed, YOU WANT TO CHECK IT OUT!

Yesterday, all the events of the last seven weeks culminated in the straw that broke the camel's back. That straw came in the form of one small email. Any other day, that email would have hit my Inbox and I would have been just fine with it. This day, it brought me to tears. I fought them for an hour, then walked into my supervisor's office and explained that the event could not happen the way it was planned ... I realized it was a compliment for me to be volunteered, but I simply could not participate and stated my reasons. With one exception, my stress is all work related. My supervisor understood. The event was removed from my plate. Apologies were soon forthcoming from my supervisor and from our director. It was humbling.

I took myself for a walk outside in the fresh air. A storm was brewing ... not a regular storm but a tornado. It was eerily refreshing. I came home and journaled my feelings. I took a nice soaking bath. I talked with a friend. I did most all the things that are on my "to-do list" when stress becomes over-whelming. Interestingly, it took me working through a good bit of that list before I began to feel calm again. But that's OK. That's what the list is for. To get me back in control again. To let go of the stress and regain some semblance of peace.

Now, I know that when I walk back in the office today, stress is going to be right there waiting on me. I know that I didn't wipe it out for good. But, I did get rid of the stress that was tipping the balance. And that was a necessity. Balance is a requirement. I'm worth the price it takes to regain the balance that my world requires. I'm not certain that I'm fully back in balance again, but I'm headed there ... and I didn't get there through a plate of food. For that, I'm ever so grateful!

And to all of my friends who listened to me through all the stressful days of late, I owe you a debt of gratitude! I promise I'll be here for you as you go through your stressful days. I encourage you to take the Official Stress Busting Challenge and learn to manage your stress better. I hope you'll feel as relieved as I do!!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
JULIERAE41 3/22/2013 12:58AM

    You have simply had one thing after another for quite some time now, cathy. i am so glad you put on the brakes. The tornado brewing was finally on the outside. What a beautiful thing to witness the inner turmoil literally moving on. I picture it all blowing away from you and leaving you standing in the sunshine. You are an amazing woman!

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NEEDTOLOOSE1 3/19/2013 10:18PM

    Great Blog - I understand stress, I like everyone else is letting it go until it's too far gone and I am in up to my head and sinking. But if I journal and evaluate honestly each day, I can see it coming and say something ahead. It's a pride thing with me. It's like I told the dr. on Friday, I am just do proud to admit I need help. I can't admit that I am weak. But you know I am learning that's ok. I am learning this from friends like you on SparkPeople who are willing to help emoticon emoticon e out.

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LINDAMARIEZ1 3/19/2013 8:33PM

    You have good tool and justed them! good for you! I am proud of you!
linda emoticon

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    Congratulations Cathy. I'm glad you're getting a handle on the stress. Work stress is really getting to me too. I'm just trying to hang on until Aug 1 (retirement) without blowing a gasket and telling someone off. It's led to mindless eating and I'm working to try to get back in control...yet again!

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KARENLEIGH32 3/19/2013 6:27PM

    Great blog, congrats on the way you handled the stress!

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LIVINGFREE19 3/19/2013 2:26PM

    That is wonderful, that you got the stress pretty much eliminated. It looks like your work life should be much easier. It is great that you spoke up about the issues with your supervisor and got the issues taken care of for the most part!

Big emoticon Cathy!

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GAILANN48 3/19/2013 9:09AM

    My heart goes out to you, Cathy. Stress at the level you've experienced recently isn't only physically unhealthy, but it takes all the joy from things other than food that normally feed us. It almost seems to make us someone else.

But YOU DID GREAT! You didn't turn to food, and you DID take steps to solve the problem. You DIDN'T just spin in the problem. What a win for you - an NSV of a wonderful sort!

I know you'll start fresh today - that's so you - and though it won't be a cake walk, you'll do it. Remember you're not alone, my friend - we're all here.

emoticon :) Gail

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MADAMES 3/19/2013 8:46AM

    Good for you! Happy you went to your supervisor on this one that pushed you past your limit. Happy that you didn't see eating as a solution!

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COCK-ROBIN 3/19/2013 8:45AM

    You're doing great!

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ITSMYTYME2SHYNE 3/19/2013 8:24AM

    Great blog on so many levels. Have an awesome day and remember, you got this!

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SHIRLA7 3/19/2013 8:00AM

    Love your post! Glad that you were able to deal with the stress without eating too! emoticon emoticon emoticon
Also, thanks for being there for me!

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SPARKLISE 3/19/2013 7:31AM

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NILLAPEPSI 3/19/2013 7:04AM

    Two things I am still learning with regard to stress. 1 - It's ok to say no. True, it's hard to say it at work, but you can do it -- exactly how you did it. 2 - It's ok to ask for help.

I don't generally ask for help, especially at work. I jump into the task with both feet & the next thing I know, I'm up to my eyeballs in junk. Finally, out of desperation, I told my boss I needed help. I told her the circumstances & she agreed -- I really did need help.

Now that I've had success saying no & asking for help, it's a little easier.

Praying for you!!! By the way, a massage is great for relieving some stress. I've been going to get one every 2 or 3 weeks. emoticon

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SPSPSP1 3/19/2013 4:44AM

    Looks like you are starting to learn that ONLY YOU are in charge of dealing with your stress levels. Good for you for taking control!

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