I've noticed quite a few thought-provoking blogs over the last few days. One was by PIXIE-LICIOUS ("Success is not just reaching the goal")
This one really jumped out at me. Don't we all do this? We set a goal in life and we think life will be different/better/more exciting/perfect when we get to that goal. Maybe the goal is graduating college. Or perhaps it's getting married. Or, for most of us here, maybe it's that goal weight we're thinking of.
Have you thought about what happens when you reach that goal? DOES life really suddenly become perfect? Do all of your problems in life melt away because you reached that goal? Are you now officially happy and will never be miserable again?
Of course not! Life continues like a roller coaster even if you're married. Or a college graduate. Or wearing a size 6.
Life will never be perfect. Life will never be fair. Life will never stop being difficult. Life goes on after all these goals have been met.
It's a huge letdown, isn't it? You reach that goal and then it's like...meh, now what? You kind of flounder around a bit, because it wasn't the end-all, be-all you expected. Life didn't suddenly become easier because you reached that goal. You don't automatically stop disagreeing with your spouse because you two are now married. You don't wind up with that perfect job right out of college. You may be at your goal weight, but you still look in the mirror and think insecure, ugly thoughts about yourself.
Here's the key to this. You can't find happiness only in meeting goals in your life. You can't solve all your problems by reaching those goals. You have to realize that life requires hard work. Just like weight loss. You have to get up every day and find happiness and success in that day or that moment.
You can be happy you packed your lunch and ate exactly what you had planned. You are successful if you breeze by the cookie aisle at the store and don't give it a second glance. You are also successful if you have to pause and think about it for a few minutes, but then continue on. Or maybe it's not stopping at fast-food places on the way home. Those are moments to celebrate.
You know what else is success? Maybe you decide to nom on some Cadbury Mini-Eggs your boyfriend has. Not really a great choice. BUT you fight the cheeseburger craving during your 2-hour drive home and wind up making a healthy meal instead. You had the calories to cover the cheeseburger. But you wanted to do something healthy instead. You wanted to wait and indulge in that cheeseburger on a day you could really enjoy it and plan for it, instead of just grabbing something at McD's because it's Sunday, you don't want to go to work tomorrow, and you are already missing your boyfriend.
THAT is success. You are a success each time you make a choice or an effort that leads to a better you. Working on your relationship with your spouse will lead to a happy marriage. Not the actual wedding day itself. Networking, interviewing, learning all you can from your classes will get you the job you want. Not the graduation itself.
Finding the joy in those successes and continuing to work hard at those choices every single day is going to help you find the happiness, self-confidence and satisfaction you crave.
Next thing you know, you'll reach your goal and all you'll want to do is set a new goal for yourself and see what challenges you can take on next.