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A Slave to the Scale

Saturday, March 16, 2013

I was reading someone else's Sparkpage and I noticed that she had all these wonderful goals. Really well defined weightloss goals right out to her ultimate goal weight. It got me to thinking - I haven't set any concrete goals as in a NUMBER that I'm striving for. I think I've been too afraid of getting back into that obsessive mentality.

When I have lost weight in the past (and at one point I lost 80lbs) - I got completely obsessed with the scale and reaching or not reaching a number on it. I would literally weigh myself 5 times a day. I'd be upset if I wasn't 2lbs down from the night before (because of course you weigh more in the evening than in the morning). I became so tied into this number that continued non-progress would put me in a slump for days and it probably was self manifesting because I was so obsessed with it!

Then of course there were the months that I wouldn't get on a scale at all - because I was so fearful of what it was going to say. How much I had gained since I let everything 'go to seed'.

When I started back with SP, I didn't get on a scale for a week. I couldn't face it. But then I told myself that I had to face it, I couldn't measure how far I had come if I didn't have a base point to measure from. While I certainly didn't like the number I had to face it and accept it and decide that it didn't define me.

But then when it comes to the goals I had to decide whether I wanted to set weightloss number goals - whether doing that would make me a slave to my scale again. Get me wrapped up in the numbers and obsess about their movement or non movement when what I really wanted was to get healthy and strong.

But I've decided that I do want some weight loss goals - something to strive towards but in conjunction with that, a commitment that I will NOT get on a scale more than once per week. And trust me, there have been mornings where I'm feeling 'trim' and think - ooh I'll just check. But I haven't done it. In fact, I think I'm going to put the scale in the closet as opposed to the bathroom floor just so I'm not tempted.

So while I have set weightloss goals now, with dates that I'd like to achieve them - I will not let myself get wrapped up in the numbers. They're just numbers. They do not define who I am or what my self worth is. They are milestones with which I can set my progress against, nothing more.

There are other non-weight related goals I want to achieve too. Like I want to be a runner, I want to climb a flight of stairs without breathing so heavily I can't talk, I want to fit into all the clothes in my closet that I've grown out of, I want to be happy with myself and love myself (I suffer from depression and had a really bad bout of it over the winter).

Have you set numbered weight loss goals? Why or why not?

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    1800 days ago
  • HEATHER1969
    I weigh in almost every day.... it helps me stay on track. I set exercise goals and food / calorie goals for myself and the rest follows.

    I love your goals of running and stair climbing. Work on those and your numbers on the scale will start dropping before you know it.

    Can't wait to hear how about your stair work!
    1800 days ago
    Love that you have started thinking about your goals. If you must focus on weight loss remember to focus on little numbers. One day, one meal, one pound at a time!
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    1801 days ago
  • MARIANNE9855
    I too get caught up in the scale very easily- I only get weighed once a week at WWs but this last week when I reported a small gain it really bugged me. I am the kind of person who if I happen to lose 4 pounds one week I expect it to be that good every week and get stressed if it isn't.
    I am trying to focus on nonscale achievements related to feeling healthy and how I feel in my clothes. Being unhealthy and unable to move was my main motivator for getting on sparkpeople so I am trying to keep that.

    I have started to make a list of NSV on my phone that I add to and read a couple times a week to keep me conscious of what I have achieved and don't want to lose this time. emoticon
    1801 days ago
    My current goal is to get my weight below 200. I haven't been working it much lately. I need to get recharged and rebooted regarding my health and fitness goals.
    1801 days ago
    I guess I have both I would like to hit the magic number and have the experiances to go along with the loss for learning or trying new things I don't have much for goals outside the numbers right now like
    take 1 more step today then yesterday
    try to take 10 percent increase a week while recovering..
    sit on the ball for half min this week up it 10 percent next week and see if i can get to a more active life again one day at a time.
    1801 days ago
    I weigh about every 2 weeks--that way I usually see at least 5 lbs down. But I set "6 week goals" and they aren't weights. Each 6 weeks I just make 5 little goals to work on for that six weeks, then track them daily--and most of them are goals that make weight loss more LIKELY, but none of them are specifically to lose weight. You know my 5 goals for this 6 weeks, cause you've seen them on my blogs. But when I make my new goals, I have to keep up the old ones, too =)
    1801 days ago
    I think it's great that you set a goal for yourself. I set a 50 lb summer goal for myself. I have over 100lbs to lose but I don't know how long it will take me to lose. I think setting small goals is doable and less overwhelming. Also I weigh n Saturday mornings, although it is tempting to get on that scale everyday. I'm proud of you for setting a goal!
    1801 days ago
  • AMY4593
    This is how I know we are gong to be good buddies...I just told my husband today that after I weigh myself Monday morning he needs to hide the scale from me until next Monday! I am weighing myself constantly and getting so frustrated...it's not that I'm desperate to get to a certain number I just want to see the number getting smaller!!!
    1802 days ago
    My goal is to get back to healthy on the BMI. I loved getting out of obese. I've been in overweight quite a while. I belong to a 5% challenge in 8 weeks team. That will take a miracle, but they know all of us can't do it for many reasons. Still it inspires me to be teaming with people who are faster achievers. I weigh in once a week and track it in Spark People. The record is very worthwhile.
    1802 days ago
    I have set a weight loss goal, however I am not letting it define me. Like you I can become obsessed with the numbers, the number on the scale, the number of calories I eat, the number of calories I burn etc. So I have an idea where i want to be and have set that as a goal, but am not letting the scale define my progress!

    Now if I jump on the scale and it is up I think about my sodium or how much water and don't take it too seriously!

    Good luck with your goals!
    1802 days ago
    I would like to lose 2 lbs a week this month. I only set goals for the month. If I would try to do it longer it would stress me out . So if I go little goals it's easier on me. If i don't hit my mark I will just keep pushing. And I'm like you i don't depend on the scale to see my accomplishment emoticon
    1802 days ago
    I think your mindset is right, it isn't healthy to depend on the scale.
    I just set myself the final weight loss goal, but I hope to loose about two pounds a week, and sometimes it's good because I lost more, but other times it takes a lot of my strength not to feel bad because the number wasn't what I expected.
    I do think that it would be good to set myself other goals like inches lost, exercise minutes, basal heart rate... So I won't give the scale the first place.
    1802 days ago
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