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You don't look that big

Friday, March 15, 2013

That is a comment I've gotten for years. Not at my highest weight, I couldn't hide that, but when I'm under 185 I seem to look "normal". When someone finds out my actual weight, they always think I'm skinnier than their perspective on people that should be that weight.

I guess it's because I know what kind of clothes to wear and that I stand up straight when I move that I look skinnier than I am. I must be proportioned just right. Not everyone will look like I do at this weight simply because they are a different height.

This is an interesting gallery on what different women look like at the same weight:
I happen to have it set to 200 pounds as I thought that had the biggest difference in women, but you can search for different heights, body shapes and weight.

Everyone's "normal" looking weight will be different, but we all will find that people think we look "normal" at one point or another. I stopped being ignored under 200 by workers at the stores, so apparently I stopped looking repulsive to them. It was weird that I all of a sudden had more help than I knew what to do with at that point. Over 200 I was ignored and really didn't notice that until I was bombarded by people asking me if I needed help under 200.

So I am enjoying "normal". I will continue to look normal and enjoy the fact that I look skinnier than I really am.
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    At 5'10" with a strong frame I get that alot too.
    Thank you for sharing that site!
    I hope you do not mind if I use this as inspiration for a blog post of my own.
    1734 days ago
  • CAMAEL100
    Great site. I think it proves you just can't compare to others. Also pants size - people who looked similar sizes had a different pants size. I think it depends on the pants size you are fitting on and the style of it.

    I suppose we just have to get to a stage where we are happy with ourselves.

    1735 days ago
    Thanks for sharing, I loved the link to the images of women all weighing the same weight. Wow what a variation!
    1735 days ago
  • KAREN608
    People have said that to me for years, and for me, it is that I had remained very active. I didn't move like a big person. Now, out in the country, I find it much harder not being able to walk ......I must keep on moving no matter what.
    1737 days ago
  • TANYA602
    What an interesting website. It breaks my 5% Challenge goal of not comparing my body to others, though!
    I love your positive stance, fiery nature, and the way you look at things! You are doing great on this journey to better health!
    1737 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
    Skinny is relative. I don't actually want to look skinny because I like curves!
    You look great and you are doing fantastic. Keep up the great work!
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    1737 days ago
    This is such an interesting perspective -- thank you for sharing! And that website -- wow! I looked up people at my height/weight and think more or less, "yep, that's how I look too!" :)
    1737 days ago
  • DRB13_1
    thanks for sharing
    1738 days ago
    That is fascinating!!! I'm always told, "no way! You don't look that big" too! I was blessed with a great frame (which didn't matter at 240 because there comes a point where even a great frame won't help) and so hold my weight very well. I looked at that link you posted and was blown away. The girl in the black dress looks good at that weight. My profile picture is seriously me at 217! As far as people not helping you until a certain weight...thats just not right! I used to work at Cato's and half of the store was plus size and I helped plus sized women all of the time. I think those other people are just RUDE!!! Anyway, I think you do look really nice at the size you are now :) LOL. If you wanted to lose more, you'd still look great.
    1738 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    Thank You for sharing. I weighed more than what people would think too. Keep pushing forward. You are doing Great. God Blessings to Everyone. Have a Fantastic Day. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    1738 days ago
    Thanks for the site... Great link and one I needed to see. I'm getting people thinking I can "stop" now. I appreciate the link and the glimpse into other views of where I want to be.
    1738 days ago
  • SAMMI4444
    People say the same thing to me. I'm hoping one day I will actually be skinnier :)
    1738 days ago
    That's a great link. Thanks for sharing it.
    I too was always told I didn't have to worry about my weight because I could "carry it." Finally I asked myself why I would want to "carry it." It's heavy!
    1738 days ago
    I've come across the website in years past -- love how you can get a sense of other women's bodies at various weights, heights, and body shapes.

    I can relate to being treated differently when I dress "up" or "down". When I'm in baggy pants and an oversized t-shirt, I feel almost invisible in terms of how I'm treated at stores. When I take the time to dress my body properly (always a challenge since I'm apple-shaped), it amazes me the difference in how I'm given more positive attention... I grew up as a tomboy (still am, really) so taking time to spruce up my appearance has never come second nature to me.

    Hope you're having a great day emoticon
    1738 days ago
    Its interesting that you bring up being treated differently in stores at a higher weight. I noticed the same being considerably heavier after having my daughter ..and now I get more people asking do you need help? Etc. After getting back to my old pre pregnancy weight (tho I still have more to lose). I wondered if anyone else noticed this type of thing or if it was just me.
    1738 days ago
    Another quote I've gotten is "have you lost weight?" esp from people who haven't seen me for a little while. I answer with you remember me fatter than I was.
    1738 days ago
    I guess I'm starting to look normal now too (in clothes - haha! out of them, I'm still a huge jiggly mess for sure!). I was asked this week how I was maintaining my weight. They were surprised I wasn't done. Umm, I'm 5'4", 174 lb. I wear a 12 or 14. I'm about 43lb from a healthy BMI. I'm not done. I'm now almost comfortably distanced from plus size, but I'm not ready to say this is it. I think it's true that society's perception of what's normal is skewed. Also, those who are used to seeing me in a 1X/2X I supposed think I do look small in my size L. It's an interesting point.
    1738 days ago
    thanks for sharing- I really liked that link! I wish I could be that 6' girl in the

    I have heard that comment too but I would much rather hear....oh you are getting too I will kiss the first person that says that!
    Have a great weekend!!!!! emoticon
    1738 days ago
    I know what you mean. Until Spark, I rarely told people my weight, because they honestly wouldn't believe me. When I lost 30 pounds, they said, 'but you are not that overweight'. Yes, I am/was. I still have another 20 to lose (just to get to high-normal), and they say, but you are already thin. No, really I am not. I just carry it well.

    I think part of it is the way I carry it; I think the other part is that society's perception of weight and 'normal', just like their perception of portions, has grown out of control.
    1738 days ago
  • CC3833
    Congrats! People say that to me now but I just need to lose a little more before I feel the same...
    1738 days ago
    Very intriguing. Thanks for sharing! I get caught between what I think I look like (thin) and what I really look like (not-so-thin.)
    1738 days ago
    interesting observation.
    1738 days ago
  • SUNSHINE99999
    that is a sad commentary on society. whether we are over 200 or not we are still nice people. Keep the "good look" going. emoticon
    1738 days ago
    Thanks for sharing! Stay motivated.
    1738 days ago
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