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A funeral and a milestone today

Thursday, March 14, 2013

My mom and I went to a funeral today for a very dear lady. She lost her battle with cancer last week, her third time with dealing with this disease. She was a beloved member of our church, and before she retired in 1997, she was head librarian and a dean at the university in our town. We both saw the same oncologist; very often we shared a treatment room on chemo days. Her husband was always with her, and he is one of most kindest men I have ever known. He was so attentive to his wife; they were married 57 years when she passed away. You could tell when you saw them in public how very much they loved and cared for one another; one of the comments the pastor made in his eulogy was what a good example they were of what a marriage can be.

The church was crowded, and I had the feeling that people came not because of her position in the community and the university, but because they loved her. She was so very gracious and kind, and truly lived her faith. I am going to miss her so much; she always had a smile for me, and was always concerned with how I was feeling. She came from a big family also; she had 12 siblings, who all passed away before her, but left her with many nieces and nephews. She also had 4 children and 10 grandchildren.

We had to park quite a ways a way from the church. (It's a small congregation, so the parking lot was not built for such a large crowd). I was tired out from the walk to the car and back, but I am glad I went. I wanted to go to honor her memory, and for her family. There was a luncheon afterwards at the church, but we did not stay for that. There were just too many people and by then, my mom and I were both starting to feel worn out. I also figured it was better to let those who had to drive from out of town sit down and have a bite to eat before going back home.

I am glad I had this week off from chemo, that certainly made today easier for me.

To end on a happier note, I crossed 25,000 fitness minutes! The past 3 years it's been a struggle some of the time to find the energy and motivation, especially since I had to start chemo again in April 2010, and I'm still on it. Because of the damage the cancer and radiation did to my left hip, it's hard for me to exercise on my feet, so I had to find ways around that. I found that there was a lot I could still do within my limitations; there are chair aerobics, for example, and you can also do strength training while seated.

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KARENCRANER 3/18/2013 10:07AM

    Sweet eulogy for her. And, way to rock those fitness minutes!

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GEMLADYONE 3/15/2013 4:24PM

    So sorry for your loss of a beautiful friend. It sounds like the services were a good remembrance and homage to her life and the impact she had on so many people.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings on her passing. It reminds me of those who've passed from my life but who had a great impact.

All we can really leave behind is memories after all!

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NPA4LOSS 3/15/2013 10:36AM

    I have had the pleasure of knowing some very special people in life who showed us the way to show love. You were blessed to have known this special lady.
emoticon on your fitness minutes. emoticon You are showing many of us that emoticon ! emoticon

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1STATEOFDENIAL 3/15/2013 12:19AM

    I'm sorry to hear you lost such a caring friend. It's always difficult to lose someone we care about and admire. Still, I'm sure she appreciated you giving some time and energy to celebrate her memory.

Congrats on the fitness milestone!

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SLIMMERJESSE 3/14/2013 6:51PM

    You are truly amazing; such a wonderful spirit and persistence to find ways to exercise. Sorry for the loss of your
friend. We are lucky to have had
special people like that in our lives.

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LOLAINSC 3/14/2013 5:26PM

    So sorry you lost such a beautiful friend. She sounds like my friend Mildred who was called to grace heaven a few years ago--so much compassion warmth, and grace tied up with so much brilliance and talent, so that some irreplaceable light is forever extinguished in the world with her passing.

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BETHGILLIGAN 3/14/2013 4:22PM

    What a nice tribute to your friend. It sounds like she touched a lot of people!! Congrats on the fitness minutes!! You should be very proud! emoticon

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