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Meet Whiney !

Thursday, March 14, 2013

Whiney is my negative voice.
I did not know consciously that we were two in this body. Until I joined this workout/healthy habits group that pointed it out. They asked me to listen to this negative voice, to write down what she was telling me.
And I listened.
And I met Whiney. And I learned to know her.
Whiney is not the bad gal. She's just a child. She loves fun, pleasurable things. She can have tantrum and badmouth me until I'm tired and I give up and give her her ways. But she can also hug me and be honeysweet to get her ways without struggle. She's manipulative and lies a lot. I don't know when it happened, but Whiney somehow took charge of taking care of us. In her childish way. Imagine your household being in charge of an uneducated 6-years old.
My coach told me one thing that opened my eyes : take ownership of your health and weight.
Indeed I am 46, not a 6-year old. I AM in charge. Not Whiney.
First I asked Whiney to shut up and go away. She was offended and started mocking. Everyday was a struggle.
Then I realized it was not really fair... Whiney is a part of me, she has nowhere else to go. So I started to treat Whiney like a 6-years old eager to help in its own way.
This morning I asked her to stay quiet while I was doing my workout. She could participate as long as she's keep her mouth nailed shut. I could feel after 10 mins that she didn't want to admit it but she had fun. We were both laughing and feeling like rockstars when we were done. Never saw her laugh before. Our body felt awesome, rejuvenated.
Then I did my FLYing (household blessings) to give Whiney a clean home. She does not help but she enjoys the results, so she does not complain. But when I said we'd vacuum today she started whining again :
- but I want to play now, I want to go on internet and tell the world all the great things I DID today !!!
- uh ? YOU did ? ahem... well you can do that after we vacuum...
- it will take foreeeeeeeeeever !
- only 20 mins we don't have to detail clean today, the middle will do...
- but after that you'll want to mooooooooooooop !!!!
- did I say I would mop ? Let's vacuum and see later if we mop or not. One thing at a time. For now I WANT to vacuum. Then you can play till lunch.
- but vacuuming is such a chore !!!
- is it ? Did you remember yesterday how fun it was to playout (fun workout, it was dancing) with the coach ? Let's try with to dance with the vacuum !
- ...
- Come on, it will be fun ! Let's sing our version of FlyLady's song !
"When my sink is shining and I am not whining I am FLYYYYYYYYYYing,
Look my bed is done and I've my Sketchers on and I am daaaaaaaaaaancing !"
Even Whiney had to laugh and sing along. She was enjoying being a 6-years old again.
She had to admit that she was happier now I was taking care of us.
Let's live happily ever after LOL


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
TINY67 3/16/2013 1:34PM


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MARUKI52 3/16/2013 10:22AM

    This is so spot on for me. I need to paste this somewhere I can read it every day. What insight you have!

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BLUEANGELLK 3/16/2013 8:38AM

    It's great that you have learned to embrace your inner child rather than shaming her or tearing her down!!!

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BARHAAS 3/16/2013 2:36AM

    Fantastic Blog Elle! (or should I say Whiney? LOL) That was such a great way of depicting that inner "devilish" child in all of us! Thank you!

I shall try to have more conversations with myself that are as constructive. Perhaps, then, I will actually get to the mopping, too! emoticon emoticon emoticon

Thank you and CONGRATULATIONS on Blog of the Week!

emoticon emoticon emoticon You rock!!!

Comment edited on: 3/27/2013 12:26:02 AM

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FLEMIDG 3/15/2013 11:28PM

    What a great blog. You deserved to win Blog of the Week! Keep on having fun with your workouts. You're doing great.

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DARYLBN 3/15/2013 10:51PM

    Loved this blog. emoticon emoticon

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JENAE954 3/15/2013 10:08PM

  Great blog.

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SPARKLISE 3/15/2013 9:55PM

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CANDOIT54 3/15/2013 8:45PM

    emoticon blog of the week. It was great.

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    I know I had to accept my inner child I had just never gave her a name yet emoticon Great Blog emoticon emoticon emoticon Faith

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GINA180847 3/15/2013 5:11PM

    Wellllllllll, Whiney has a cousin that spends some time at my house. She gets kind of bad tempered when she does not get what she wants. I like how you incorporate her in your life and she tames it down.

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LYNMEINDERS 3/15/2013 3:55PM

    Brilliant blog...thats so awesome

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SPEEDY143 3/15/2013 3:31PM

    emoticon I live with her twin emoticon and will treat her differently from now on thanks to YOU!!!! emoticon

emoticon Linda

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CMFARRELL36 3/15/2013 2:37PM

Have you posted a copy to FlyLady and her crew yet? I'm sure they'll love it, especially that you are "working with" your inner brat and making such a success of it!

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SHAMROCKY2K 3/15/2013 1:39PM

    emoticon Congrats on being the blog of the week!! THAT was excellent!

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MYGOLDENBOYS3 3/15/2013 1:09PM

    Have to say...I really liked this Blog. I recognize Ms. Whiney...hmmm.
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LYNNWILK2 3/15/2013 1:04PM

    BLOG OF THE WEEK!!!!! Congratulations

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LYNNWILK2 3/14/2013 9:25AM

    oh, how incredible this blog is..
You are a great caretaker of that inner child in you... to treat "her" with respect is treating yourself with respect and loving yourself. Recognizing that you have this voice that,when allowed a voice, can actually be taught to enjoy those things we all whine about having to do.
Congratulations YOU!

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BRENDA_G50 3/14/2013 9:16AM

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PINKEUROGIRL 3/14/2013 8:21AM

    Hilarious! You keep up the good work!

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