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Loving Yourself: Two Exercises to End a Negative Thought

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

“If we understood the power of our thoughts,
We would guard them more closely.
If we understood the awesome power of our words,
We would prefer silence to almost anything negative.
In our thoughts and words we create
Our own weaknesses and our own strengths.
Our limitations and joys begin in our hearts.
We can always replace negative with positive.”
~ Bettie Eadie from 'Embraced By the Light”

In yesterday’s blog, we decided that we must Declare An End to our negative thoughts. I have found a couple of simple techniques to help us to do that. We’re going to choose one. We are going to apply it to a negative thought we have caught ourselves thinking most often in the last week’s exercise of being present and aware of our feelings.

Negative Thought Worksheet

***Make some time in the next 24 hours to examine this thought worksheet with a friend, a family member, or someone you trust.***

Write your answers to the following questions:

The negative thought I want to change is:

What feelings go along with this thought?

Now, put your thought to the 3 Question Test:

Question 1: Is this really true?

Question 2: Is this thought moving me forward to holding me back?

Question 3: What other things could I say to myself (positive thoughts) that would be closer to the truth and helpful?

This second technique requires your being present and aware in every moment so that you recognize the thought and then can immediately respond to that thought with a simple phrase - “I Reject It.” This exercise is a simpler version of the one above because you deal with it in the moment rather than discussing it with another.


How to Do the “I Reject It” Exercise:

As soon as you say or think something negative about yourself, as quickly as you can, tell yourself "I REJECT IT" and say something positive instead.

So for example...

If you've been thinking or saying to yourself like "Why is my life so messed up?," as soon as that thought creeps up on you, immediately say:


Then immediately say something positive to replace the negative like, "My life is improving, and I am so blessed."


Saying "I reject it" defends you from accepting that negative thought or belief - but you must reject it in the moment and with conviction!

Always remember that your thoughts and the things you say about yourself affect you and control what you believe, and how you behave. These two exercises help to give you a defense against your negative thoughts and beliefs, to change them, to put an end to them. The more you exercise and practice these techniques the more you will see the negative things you believe about yourself will begin to change. Good luck with this exercise!

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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
CELIAMINER 3/20/2013 3:16AM

    Love this! It's one thing to tell someone to banish negative thoughts or turn a negative into a positive. It's way more productive to provide tools and techniques for the task. Thanks!

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JESSICABOOTY 3/15/2013 10:57AM

    Your words say so much. I need to hear more positive words in my life. I've found that if I am alone (in the house, in the car) I can catch negative thoughts and shout out "No" or "Stop It" and that helps a lot. Imagine what the person in the next car must think. emoticon

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MOTLORAC 3/14/2013 9:03PM

    Wonderful information, thanks for putting it here.

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HAWTGRANNY2014 3/14/2013 7:35PM

    awesome blog. Makes you think.
"hands across spark people...season of hope."

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DOLLYHOLLY 3/14/2013 5:49PM

    I like Marianne Williamson. I remember reading her first book, "A Return to Love" where she talks about a course in miracles, and that Love drives out all fear :)

emoticon for bringing up her mindful quote in this blog!

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KIMCOLLINGS 3/14/2013 5:43PM

    Terrific info. I'm going to try both.

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JANEMARIE77 3/14/2013 1:53PM

    worth a try thank you

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BARBARAROSE54 3/14/2013 11:18AM

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SAMI199 3/14/2013 8:59AM

    I will be doing this worksheet today-thanks!

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GOANNA2 3/14/2013 5:47AM

    Thank you for another great blog and I will try
these exercises. emoticon

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BARHAAS 3/14/2013 3:25AM

    Great blog again Sharon! Thank you so much for helping to keep us on constructive paths!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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_BABE_ 3/14/2013 2:27AM

    It's going to be work but they say you can carve out new grooves in your brain. emoticon

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MICKEYH 3/13/2013 11:15PM

    Thank you so much for this exercise. I will take your advice and if I have my negative thought came up, I will speak out roundly " I Reject It" and think something positive. This is great things to do it as I believe "cause and effect."

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PINKNFITCARLA 3/13/2013 10:46PM

    Love these exercises and will definitely be giving them a try!

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DUXGRL1 3/13/2013 10:18PM

    I am going to try these!

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COCK-ROBIN 3/13/2013 9:57PM

    This is great! And informative for me. Thank you.

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COMPUCATHY 3/13/2013 9:32PM

    Yep, casting out the negativity is a real life builder! I think practicing the "I reject it" and letting go methods are key to a happier life! Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 3/13/2013 8:29PM

    Excellent exercises and information about how to nip negativity in the bud! When you utter the rejection out loud (obviously when it's appropriate!) it is soooooo powerful. It creates a positive force within you. Literally gives a voice to the positive aura you are initiating by rejecting a negative idea!


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ROSES17 3/13/2013 7:24PM

    Great blog!!! I really enjoy your blogs. Thanks much!!!

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L*I*T*A* 3/13/2013 7:22PM

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    Excellent blog. I am going to give the worksheet a try.

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NANCYPAT1 3/13/2013 6:16PM

    GREAT words and I truly appreciate and loved it. THANKS FOR THIS.

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KACEYSW 3/13/2013 6:08PM

    Great information! Thank you for sharing it. I need that set of tools!

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LYNNWILK2 3/13/2013 6:02PM

    loving this series more and more! I am doing the work along with the blogs, haven't quite caught up, there appears to be more work to be done than I anticipated, lol. But it's good healthy thought provoking life changing work.
Thank you for your courage and for your series.

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