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What I Like About Maintaining #4

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

"What would I like to wear?"

I get to stand in my closet and ask myself this question every day. Depending upon mood. Depending upon what's appropriate, of course. But: there are a lot of choices. A lot.

I don't have to ask, "Will this fit?" Yes, it will.

I don't have to ask, "Will this make me look fat?" No, it won't.

My clothing choices aren't constrained by what I need to wear, by the couple of things that will "work". Sort of. Without every making me feel good. Without ever making me feel like what I'm wearing today is expressing who I am today.

OK then, it's absolutely true that I can no longer stand in front of my fridge and ask myself, "What would I like to eat""

I do have to ask myself, "What do I need to eat? For fuel? For nutrition?" Or to have prechosen what I'm eating so that I don't have to ask.

But some reasonable restriction of food choices is what makes it possible for me to choose whatever I want to wear. To express who I am today. By my clothing choices, sure. But fun as style may be, by so much more. By my body, by my movement, by my confidence: the whole package.

Fair exchange? Yes, yes and yes!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
ILIKETOZUMBA 3/17/2013 9:25PM

    YES that is one of my favorite things too!! I love love love being able to wear whatever I want. Not just out of my closet, but if I need to buy a dress for an event or some new pants or something, I *know* I won't have to travel to 10 different stores to find a pair that fits AND actually looks halfway decent on me; I can go anywhere and find tons of stuff that fits well and looks not just halfway decent, but GOOD. It's wonderfully freeing!

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TANYA602 3/17/2013 12:20PM

    I am reading your blogs backwards, just read your bio, and I have to say I love what you say and what you stand for. You floor me! I am going to Google Beck's book today. This blog speaks to me! As I read it to DH he even laughed and made the connections. Congratulations on getting to this point!

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SUSANNAH31 3/17/2013 11:25AM

    I love how you link standing at both doors - to the closet and to the refrigerator.
I am going to try and keep that in mind every time I'm at that refrigerator door.
I would much rather be feeling great about what i am wearing.

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LRSILVER 3/17/2013 7:13AM

    I am new to maintaining and knowing everything fits is fun

Comment edited on: 3/17/2013 7:13:28 AM

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CARRAND 3/16/2013 8:08PM

    I've gained since I reached my goal weight of 150, but my clothes still fit. I've got to stop the creeping weight gain now!

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KANOE10 3/16/2013 9:28AM

    How fun to choose what you want to wear and not worry about being fat!

Nice blog. emoticon

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_BACK2BASICS_ 3/15/2013 7:46PM

    I had a similar "Aha" moment today while shopping in Marshalls. I thought to myself, I am no longer this size, and I remember when I used to wonder if a 14W would fit and how I would look in it. Not a concern anymore! emoticon emoticon

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BROOKLYN_BORN 3/15/2013 5:09PM

    Absolutely, a fair exchange! Very well stated.

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CHERYLN 3/15/2013 9:19AM

    What a great way of getting your point across! Congratulations for your accomplishment. I look forward to that feeling one day as well.

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GREENKATS 3/15/2013 8:17AM

    Great post! Really enjoyed it. emoticon

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FREELADY 3/14/2013 10:53PM

    You are an artist with words.

You paint such a vivid, gripping picture. This is what I truly want. There's no lasting satisfaction in that frig futility anyway. Thank you for helping me see it.

I can't wait!

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ID_VANDAL 3/14/2013 5:44PM

    Very well said. I have a closet full of clothes that look good but they don't fit.

I want to be where you are!! Thanks for sharing the good feelings - something we can all relate to. Frankly I want to get to the state of "Will this fit?" No - it's too big"

Sometime in the next 365 days it will happen!



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NANCY- 3/14/2013 8:59AM

    You provide me with much intellectual nourishment.
I need to look at the questions I ask myself.
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KLONG8 3/14/2013 12:46AM

    I have to get caught up on this series. I iike it!

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LJCANNON 3/14/2013 12:09AM

    emoticon It is a GREAT Reminder of Where We've Been, Where We Are Going & WHY We Are Working So Hard!! Those moments in front of the Closet really DO remind me of how it USED to be!!

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PHOENIX1949 3/13/2013 11:34PM

    Been so long I almost forgot the feeling of choosing from a closet full of flattering clothes. Thank you for the reminder.

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TRAVELGRRL 3/13/2013 9:10PM

    I hated the days when I worked and had a pile of clothes on my bed that had been tried on and discarded....and when I got home, the "good enough" outfit replaced by sweat pants!

What any eyeopening comparison -- giving up the freedom of the fridge for the freedom of the closet. Like you, I'm going to choose the closet!

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BOOKAPHILE 3/13/2013 8:05PM

    Yes, indeed. I'm still weeding things out of my closet that are getting too big. I can't wait for absolutely everything to fit well. You encourage me.

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ONEKIDSMOM 3/13/2013 7:25PM

    Yes, it is nice to have choices, isn't it? emoticon At the closet, and YES, at the fridge door: healthy foods abound inside that box these days... and we can savor every rational bite!

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NITTINNANA 3/13/2013 2:57PM

    Ooh, you make me look forward to maintenance even more!

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COFFEE_123456 3/13/2013 2:46PM

    That's totally the closet freedom I love! Feels like I get to reclaim so much of my brain power by NOT spending time working out the fit-doesn't-fit debate. Great blog!

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UZA77777 3/13/2013 1:07PM

    What a great motivator you are!!! I am still a very far way from my ultimate weight goals, but even just this far into my journey I am beginning to take an interest in my appearance again, for the first time in years (except for those special occasions that I had to think about it). Excellent series :)

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    This is an amazing blog series you are doing. I am picturing myself doing just what you're describing, and it is so motivating! Thank you! emoticon

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KALIGIRL 3/13/2013 12:10PM

    Here's to fair!

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MANDELOVICH 3/13/2013 11:20AM

    Lovely! I miss, miss, miss being able to pick anything from my closet. I have been recycling the same two pairs of pants for weeks now because my other, beautiful clothes are all too tight! Cannot wait to get back there!

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CRYSTALJEM 3/13/2013 11:13AM

    Excellent point. I loved choosing clothes when I was fit and so did they. :) But once my shape and size changed it became more of a what hides the "flaws" instead Of what made me feel great. I'm glad that I am back to the way it used to be for the most part. Thanks for the reminder and confirmation.

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DALID414 3/13/2013 10:41AM

    I'm still getting used to this one. I've been sticking with the stuff I know fits and haven't ventured too deep into the closet yet (even though I know it mostly all fits now). Mind games I suppose.

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SLENDERELLA61 3/13/2013 10:38AM

    YES, YES, and YES!! It is absolutely a fair trade. Love this blog!! Well stated. I can choose now to wear whatever I want, not just what I can get around my body. It's a great feeling in addition to all those health benefits. Good way to live!!!

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LADYSMITHC 3/13/2013 9:57AM

What a gift to yourself!

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ONMYMEDS 3/13/2013 9:41AM

    A good blog!! Well said.

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DDOORN 3/13/2013 9:13AM

    Yes...I miss having that freedom of choice with clothes...gotta reclaim some territory soon!


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ELMA1913 3/13/2013 8:38AM

    Congratulations! How wonderful to reach your goal, and to be the person you want to be.

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