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The good, the bad, the ugly.

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

I would like to think that I am normal in that I struggle daily with negative self-talk. I think a lot more people deal with this than will admit...but that is just my opinion. I have a case in point so read on.

I confess that I am not the most positive person in the world but I have been working on it. I mean, actively working on saying positive things and hoping that it will spur a positive outcome (kinda like positive thinking, but out loud). Sometimes I say the opposite of what pops into my head and thereby stun people with my positivity (oh, if they only knew the dark thoughts I have). It is a major work in progress.

So, Sunday I was feeling really bitchy and PMS'ing (which didn't help - sorry if you are a guy and reading this but hey, it is a fact of female life, so deal with it). I was at work and crabby and really (already) dreading the following work night because I was scheduled to work with a new girl on the busiest night of the week (normally) and well, I was kinda feeling sorry for myself. I was actually getting all worked up and I was mad that my boss paired me with this girl who can only work one section of the lab when I will be stuck working all the other 4 sections plus answer her questions and keep up with workload/maintenance/quality control and watch over my shoulder to make sure she doesn't mess up. GRRRRR. I was so stressed. I actually thought about calling in sick (which I NEVER do) just so I wouldn't have to deal with it. That is how negative I was feeling. I knew it was stupid, I knew I was being a big baby and that I should just get over myself.....that is when I turned it around. I really credit SparkPeople for helping me in this transition.

I started telling myself that this is an opportunity to shine. That my boss would not put me in this position unless she had confidence in my ability and how valued I should feel. Then I took it a step further and decided that this new girl could benefit from my expertise and how I should mentor her share my awesomeness. I almost convinced myself to be excited for this opportunity.

Here is how my night went....I showed up, it was not busy at all and the new girl and I got along fabulously. We worked, we chatted, I got to shine a bit and then the night was over. Boy did I feel dumb for all the worry and negative self talk. I should just choose to be positive and banish all that negativity. Bullya!

Have you turned a negative into a positive? Has Spark People helped you change your way of thinking? Let me know in the comments. Thanks for reading!!!!!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
GRETCHENG74 3/24/2013 5:04PM

    I know exactly what you are talking about. I have a tendency to have negative self talk at times. What a blessing your evening turned out so completely different!! emoticon

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RONDLEW 3/14/2013 10:52PM

    Good for you. Attitude is everything. A good reminder about how negativity is wasted energy. Thank you for sharing!

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CHALLENGER15 3/14/2013 4:13PM

    Good for you! I've been working on "prepare for the worst, hope for the best, and be happy with somewhere in between"!

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ASOBFALLS 3/14/2013 11:34AM

Perhaps a discussion thread on "Daily Positive Self Talk"?

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GAILANN48 3/13/2013 12:16PM

    emoticon What a wonderful story - almost one of those fairy tales with the nugget of valuable lesson! Thank you for sharing not only the outcome, but the lead up.

As for the negative self talk, I've come to view mine as, "trying to prepare for what COULD go wrong while I work toward more positive outcomes." :)

I think each of us deals with the issues that have kept us from being happier and healthier, and we deal with those things in some kind of order. Some folks start with the easiest, some start with the hardest. Wherever you are in that list, I think you're right that THIS one is a huge issue for many of us. It takes courage and it takes persistence...and I'm speaking from someone who, like you, is trying to improve those self talk messages.

Thank you again - great to "meet" you!

emoticon :) Gail

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BRENDA_G50 3/13/2013 10:27AM

    emoticon for changing a negative into a positive. I too sometimes talk negative to myself. I saw a cartoon on FB that said: "Of course I talk to myself...Sometimes I need an expert opinion." I thought that was funny and it made me forget all about what had upset me in the first place.

You did a great job turning things around and making a friend in the process. emoticon

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NYHARDHAT_1 3/13/2013 7:03AM

    And you had yourself all worked up for nothing. You were right. As a supervisor, your boss would not of given you the task of training if she did not value you and your ability to handle all of it.

Most times our negative thoughts create our own outcome too. Seeing the glass 1/2 full is way better than seeing it as 1/2 empty. Learning a new behavior is a hard one and letting go of the old one is even harder. You did a wonderful job and should pat yourself on the back. It will get easier with practice. Keep up the good work.

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