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"We are blessed to be butterflies"

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

EDIT: I didn't realize until yesterday that the link I originally put here goes to what FlyLady calls her "Morning Musing." That means that it changes daily and the article that I originally referenced didn't appear after the day I posted this blog!

Here is a different link to the same basic essay:


I'm leaving the original (changeable) link just where it was. Here's the remainder of my original blog.


While reading my FlyLady mail this morning the title of this "Morning Musing" of hers caught my eye. I initially thought of SHERYLDS, who's got an ongoing butterfly theme this month. But after I read it (not for the first time, you can be sure) I thought about how relevant her thoughts are to everyones' struggles here.


Here's how it starts:

"Dear Friends,

"My heart goes out to you! I know how you have been put down because of your imagination, creativity and sidetrackedness. We don’t fit the mold our family wants us to fit. God knows how hard we have tried to be what they wanted us to be. Everybody just wants to be loved. The problem is they don’t know how to love us and that is not their fault.

"Our imagination and creativity is our gift. That gift, most of the time gets us sidetracked and at that point we are criticized for not finishing what we started. We flit from flower to flower making the world a beautiful place like the butterflies we watch in the yard."

She goes on to say:

"Let me start by saying, “I am not your mother demanding that you go clean your room!” Now here is the tough part. If you have heard your mother’s voice when you have read my messages then we are going to work hard to remove that voice from your head. You are an adult and this is your home. I am not your mother, I am your dear friend whom you have asked to help you. I am not critical of the way you keep your home, because I am just like you. I have lived in clutter and CHAOS too and I understand how the clutter becomes a cocoon to isolate you from your imagination and creativity.

"We have been made to feel guilty because of our gift of imagination. Well I am here to tell you that our imagination if a powerful tool to help us out of our cocoon. If we can think it; we can do it. We can take our idea and turn it into whatever it is that we choose. We just need someone to teach us how to make this happen without the world falling apart around us."

So, what really struch me about this particular essay? The cocoon.

How many of us have found ourselves slacking off and backing off from our positive habits the closer we get to our health and weight loss goals? I read about it almost every day here. Even though with one part of our minds we abhor our extra weight and poor health, with another part we see it as a sort of insulation against the rest of the world. If we actually succeed in reaching our goals we can no longer hide behind the idea that "So-and-so was mean to me because I'm fat". We can no longer underachieve because we just can't physically compete at something.

FlyLady has a whole book about "body clutter" - the clutter that you find between your ears, the voices that tell you that you're not good enough, not pretty enough, not polished enough. The most powerful piece of her message to us is not about housekeeping, it's about FLYing:


Breaking things down into doable steps. Establishing good habits. Accepting that the way you do things is OK. Having fun in order to get it done. Telling the nagging voices from the past to shut up and take a hike! FLYING!
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    She is just so awesome, thanks for the share!
    1767 days ago
    I think I'm going back to FLYlady. I need her! HUGS
    1798 days ago
    This is really cool and interesting! Thanks for sharing!! I might just have to check out FlyLady! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1803 days ago
    All this time I have heard/read about FlyLady and I never knew what FLY stood for! Now that I know, I really think I need to get into this.
    1804 days ago
    My desk is always a mess. I dream of one day having a neat surface to work on. I thought moving would give me a blank slate to make this happen. Yet my desk has become cluttered again with receipts that I have to put in a prominent place because I might have to return something. My notes are gathered in a pile in a desk corner. Books that I need are in another. A pile of important papers from our house purchase are stacked on a nearby bookshelf because it seems safer - at least I know where they are.

    While my office space is still a disaster, I've made decent progress on keeping the rest of the house in order. My kitchen is organized in a way that makes sense to me, so I don't spend a whole lot of time stressing about where things are. DH has a bad habit of tossing clothes on a nightstand, so I bought a clothes rack that he can toss shirts or sweat pants that aren't quite ready for the wash.

    Celebrating small victories keeps the sanity. I like the imagery of moving from one thing to the next as a butterfly.
    1804 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/12/2013 10:05:11 AM
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