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Moving from DENIAL to DECISION - Tales from 100# Down

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Monday, March 11, 2013

Today I want to share with you a problem so many face when the destination is FAR from the starting point! As those of you that have been reading my entries know I refer to this journey as a one-way trip to "Health & Fitness". Today I want to talk a bit about getting your car out of the garage in "Obesity" and getting well down the highway on your journey.

As I have said before everyone wants to be fit and healthy. Now I have friends that would say all the time "I'm perfectly happy the way I am." I think most of us truly desire to be healthy and fit but use that phrase to convince ourselves that we aren't UNHAPPY and to get others "off our back".

I look back and see that many people tried to help me move out of the garage. Family members, friends, doctors, nurses, co-workers and even strangers. The problem I had "then" was that I saw their comments as "judgement" that I was "broken" and "unacceptable" the way I was. Now there were a few people that probably used the guise of being helpful to just be mean but I think you know the difference and most genuinely wanted my better health.

All of those people had great intentions but not a one of them could get in that little car and drive for me. They could fill that car with gas (offer to buy me healthy foods), hand me a map (countless diet books), get my engine tuned up (paid for me to see an obesity doctor), offer a prize for reaching the finish line (money, trips, etc) and even stand and cheer me on but "I" had to get in the car and make the trip. So what was the problem?

1) The journey was too long.

2) I didn't like diet food and didn't want to give up my treat foods.

3) My treat foods were my comfort and reward.

4) I never exercised and felt like a fool doing so in front of others.

5) I kept playing the Annie game - "tomorrow, tomorrow".

6) I didn't ask for specific help.

7) I didn't see my weight as the true health problem it was going to become.

8) I saw myself only as the image in my head (which was the woman I once was at 21) not as the reality in the full-length mirror I tried to avoid.

9) I was in total denial about the true quantity of food I was consuming.

There you have it - a laundry list of why I was stuck in the garage!

So what happened? How did I get out of the garage? It began with bad health. I'm not talking the flu or a case of GERD, I'm talking post-operative complications due to my obesity that led to kidney failure critical hypotension and near death. As I lay in ICU I knew that if I survived I would have to make a change. Once I recovered (long process - 3 surgeries over 15 months followed by a year of rehab) I was finally ready to do something. I had signed up for Sparkpeople a year before (someone on the internet suggested it and I knew it was something I SHOULD do) but it had been dormant. I peeked back in and started poking around reading others' stories. It gave me hope. I actually lost about 20 pounds just giving a little effort.

When one is over 350 even making small changes will lead to some early success. Take note of this! But then that early, easy weight loss was off and looking for some new ideas I stumbled across BLC. These 12 week rounds of team based support and challenge were JUST the ticket! They provided what I needed to keep my little car on the road headed in the right direction.

I had finally moved from denial to decision. I DECIDED I would do this. I DECIDED I wanted better health and MOST importantly, I DECIDED I would do the necessary exercise and food modification to make progress. It had to be a conscious, lifestyle changing DECISION.

Once you have truly made the decision to do the WORK to achieve the goal the battle is half won. Note, this does not mean you engage in temporary deprivation to an achieved end and return to your previous life (and weight sadly) it means you decide to change the COURSE of your life to get you to that desired destination.

This will mean making changes FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. This is why I encourage you to pick a few things to change at first and get those conquered then move onto other areas. It allows you to feel success and not have to make ALL the changes at once.

So if you are still stuck in the garage think about what I've shared. See if you can't back out and shut the door behind you. You don't have to make the whole trip in one day but you have to go in reverse to get moving!

Put down the brownie. Close the bag of chips. You have a journey to make. Trust me, it's not that scary and once you get going... you will like the view!

PRESS ON!


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WHITEANGEL4 5/30/2013 10:11AM

    Enjoyed your blog. Have a great journey

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CAMENDEZ13 3/28/2013 2:14PM

    Loved this. :) It is exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you! I'm trying hard to give it ONE more shot!... -Cheryl

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EFFRAYECHILDE 3/20/2013 10:17AM

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DEBIGENE 3/19/2013 8:10PM

    I so agree, commitment is a key. And if you don't change your mind you won't make permanent changes.

Carry on my friend carry on. We are all in this together !!! BRAVO !!!

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FISHER011 3/19/2013 4:48PM

    Thank you! Great blog!

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MANILUS 3/14/2013 2:25PM

    An inspiring story and wonderful advice, thanks for sharing!

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GLUECIPHER 3/14/2013 12:58PM

    thanks for sharing

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FIRECOM 3/14/2013 11:49AM

    Hmmm. I could replace my name for yours on this blog and the context would apply to me. Health problems was the key to me making the DECISION to get right with the world, so to speak.

Thanks for writing my story as well as yours.

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NEWTINK 3/13/2013 8:38PM

    I am so happy for you and that you made that decision to make a trip of a lifetime emoticon

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MARYJEANSL 3/13/2013 8:19PM

  Totally spot on. Very well said!

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SHARIKAYE 3/13/2013 8:10PM

    Awesome blog! Loved reading every word! I look forward to each one of your blogs because I know I am going to get some nugget of truth that I need. I am so glad that the people who are succeeding on SparkPeople are willing to share. It makes the journey for the those of us just pulling away from the garage that much easier. Thank you.

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PCASEY7 3/13/2013 1:21PM

    I loved the blog, you're a natural writer! Congrats on the DECISION, I know it's not easy but as you say it's half the battle as no one can force you. Good luck on your journey or car ride!

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KELLYSPRETTY 3/13/2013 12:25PM

  Thank you! You are inspiring and also realistic! I really appreciate that.

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GRAMPIAN 3/13/2013 11:55AM

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MOANMIZ 3/13/2013 11:52AM

  I find it funny that my wake up call was GERD. I am still dealing with it. I do agree that it is a decision and I am glad that your helping so many people with your posts.

If only I knew how to do either tune up. Lol.


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PENOWOK 3/13/2013 9:13AM

    Thanks for sharing your story! You have had quite a time of it, but you are doing great now!!

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CICELY360 3/13/2013 1:08AM

  good blog

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CYPATAYLOR2 3/12/2013 8:59PM

  Awesome blog. Thank you for sharing. You are very inspiring writer!!!!!

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TERMITEMOM 3/12/2013 7:46PM

    Fantastic blog! Thank you, you are so inspiring.

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KRISSYDUNN 3/12/2013 5:53PM

    You have a true gift for writing and inspiring. Thank you for a most excellent post! emoticon

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PATRICIAANN46 3/12/2013 5:34PM

  You are absolutely right!!!!! It has to come from within.......... emoticon

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SISSIE21 3/12/2013 3:58PM

    I love your blogs! It is like listening to my own inner thoughts. I so recognize your journey, and totally get the challenge it was and is. You are amazing!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experience and wisdom. It helps so much to someone like me who is part of the way on her path, but still has quite a way to go. I guess you could say I've backed out of the garage and am driving down the street but still need to get to my destination!
Your blogs give me courage and a feeling that I can make it and I am grateful to you for that. emoticon

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LJCANNON 3/12/2013 3:29PM

    emoticon The Car Analogy is RIGHT ON!!! AWESOME Work!!

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PHOENIX1949 3/12/2013 3:18PM

    "Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious
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Loved the car analogy. Need to get in gear and get moving.

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CONNIEKANDOIT 3/12/2013 1:19PM

    DECIDE is the word that continues to play in my head. It is the word I reach for to encourage myself. Thank you for the great blog.

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CHRISBEM 3/12/2013 12:44PM

    this rings a bell - one of the toughest obstacles I have faced is that I don't like a lot of healthier foods. It's tough trying to lose weight and having to eat stuff I hate.

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SJKENT1 3/12/2013 11:59AM

    Love the title... Denial to Decision. And you are so right, only you can make that choice.

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CJYOUCANDOIT 3/12/2013 11:56AM

    Excellent Blog!! Thank you for sharing your ideas in such an easy, identifiable way for all of us to understand. Great inspiration for people like me who have trouble driving the right roads.

I wish you the best on your journey. Thank you for inspiring mine.

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BONIFIANT 3/12/2013 11:53AM

    I have a cousin I want to introduce to SparkPeople. Think I will share this blog and the story of Indygirl with her. Thanks for blazing the trail for the rest of us.

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TKLBRIDGET 3/12/2013 11:30AM

    Loved it! Wonderful inspiring blog. You go girl!
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GINGERHAWK 3/12/2013 11:16AM

    Your story is so wonderfully inspiring. It's amazing how far you've come on your journey - thanks for sharing your story in an honest and relatable way!

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LIVELYGIRL2 3/12/2013 10:59AM

  Very moving, and helpful, to see what's involved.

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ROCKYCPA 3/12/2013 10:55AM

    Great blog - thanks for sharing!

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GRIZ1GIRL 3/12/2013 10:41AM

    Nothing succeeds like success! THANKS!

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SIMONEKP 3/12/2013 10:18AM

    Truer words have never been spoken. I think everyone has to get to the point where they are truly committed to making changes, not just wishing and wanting change. I join Spark in 2011 at the recommendation of a friend but truthfully, I wasn't ready and eventually quit using it. Between October 2011 and December 2012, I spent time changing the kinds of food I ate and cooked and really learning more about nutrition. Beginning in January 2013, I made the full commitment to really changing my life. People like you are an inspiration to folks like me who have a long way to go still.

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    What an inspiration you are! Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

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ANDREAG89 3/12/2013 9:58AM

    OUTSTANDING!!! Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!

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