Sunday, March 10, 2013
My oldest is going to be 17 in 9 days. He is smart, courteous and all around a good kid (most of the time). He had a big weekend. He worked Friday night, he had the SATs on Saturday morning and then an out of state concert with friends Saturday night. He knew this. He knew this ALL WEEK. He knew he would be getting home late (1am) Saturday night and knew he had to work again Sunday afternoon.
He came home at 1am and opened with "I'm NOT going to work tomorrow!" and my response was "OH YES YOU ARE" then the fight started. It continued to just 10 minutes before he needed to be at work.
I've worked in retail. I've been that manager on the other end of the phone when someone decides they don't want to work today. I've had hard workers waiting for their lunch break that is late because someone else didn't want to show up on time. That won't be MY kid.
I know the easy, peace keeping thing would be to let him call out "sick" and sleep in. It would have saved me the fight, the F' bombs dropping on me. And the anger and slammed doors and my threats of not giving him another dime if he didn't go to work. But then what does that do for him? What would I be contributing to his life if I let him blow off his responsibilities because he doesn't "feel" like working today.
Maybe I'm putting too much weight on a sick day of a 17 year old. But my job as his mom and his only parent is to teach him right from wrong. He gave his word that he would be at work today and I'm holding him to it. Hopefully it sticks with him and it's a life lesson and not just another reason for him to hate his mom
So now I could take the easy way out and because I don't "feel" like working out I can "call out 'sick'" to my workout. But I'm going to put my money where my mouth is and go to the gym now. Especially since I know he actually listened to me and went to work.
Now if he gets there and he's not needed or his boss lets him come home early, that's ok too. At least he was responsible enough to show up. And it's only a 5 hour shift. He'll live.