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Not the Fun One?

Saturday, March 09, 2013

I think I'm too serious. I mean, I know I'm too serious, but I overheard a conversation at work to confirm it. A co-worker said she was going out for drinks with Brenda. Brenda? Really? Yes...Brenda x. Oh, the fun one...(not me)

This got me thinking about a few things. First, it's good to be aware of how others perceive you. I work with a few clueless people. If they truly don't care, they should. Some topics should always be off limits in the workplace, just sayin'!

Second, once you find out, what are you going to do about it? Considering the source in this case, probably not too much. The guy that said it is immature and always joking.

What peeves me most is that it bothers me. I struggle being artificial around people. Honestly, I have a hard time giving a whit about people I don't give a whit about. And that is probably why I wouldn't be recognized as the fun one.

Overall, I'm okay with that. At work, I wish to be respected and sought after for my skills. I don't know many leaders whose primary attribute is fun. If you've ever done a personality test, you can probably guess which quadrant you'd find me in. Lol!

All that said, I do think I have an opportunity here. So, I will try to be more approachable at work. It's a balancing act...some are better at it than others.

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  • FREES1
    it is a tough line on which to balance... you do want people to feel comfortable with you and yet not too comfortable, let them see you are a real person and can relax without being lax..
    I had difficulties approaching my recently retired boss- she had a good sense of humor, and we knew she could unwind with us and be a fun one and yet she seemed to me sufficiently still that I never felt comfortable going to talk to her..

    1777 days ago
  • TWALKER0475
    I think you've kept things in perspective pretty well. Sounds like these people just have different priorities than you.
    1777 days ago
    ouch those words overheard sometimes can be very hurtful. .... but like you said , consider the source and work is not supposed to be fun.... but at least you thought about it and took time to evaluate it and that's ok for sure.

    1777 days ago
  • TANYA602
    I've found that what's most important in my life is the way I live it away from work - with my family and friends. I'm sorry that you had to overhear this, but it sounds like you've turned it into a good time for self-reflection and personal growth. In our virtual world, I've sure enjoyed knowing you!
    1778 days ago
    why do you care? just be yourself , do your job , don't be mean to people and it will be ok. I'm not even sure that being " fun" is a desirable thing , you always get to make other people feel good while nobody cares about how you feel
    1778 days ago
    I can totally relate. Thanks for sharing your journey with us. I would say that the most important person for you to impress is BRENDA! When you look in the mirror, you can be proud of who you see. That's what is important to me. emoticon
    1779 days ago
  • DEBBY4576
    It is what it is. I remember kids being teased and made fun of in High school because they were smart and did their homework. Yeah, I was one of them. Well, let's take being respected for our intellect over being considered the Fun person at work. I like you already.
    1779 days ago
    I am pretty sure it is okay to be serious at work. You aren't there to entertain, after all, you do have a job to do. I love that you completely dismissed the source of the comment (someone who is immature and always joking around). That said, I think it is notable that you evaluated the comment and decided that maybe there was something you could work on - being more approachable at work. That should simply mean smiling more and being even tempered no matter what is going on. You are obviously someone who is always striving to be the best you can be. You have your priorities straight. I hope you continue to walk your own path.
    1779 days ago
    I think you are dead on about it being a balancing act. Before I retired I taught at risk teens. It was a real balancing act letting them know you cared and maintaining personal boundaries of respect.
    1779 days ago
    I think what is most important is you being happy. For me being happy includes the need to laugh and have fun, but my "fun" for many people would be quite boring. Remember to smile and laugh and do the things you enjoy. Hopefully your co-workers will respect you for who you are.
    1779 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    I am in the same boat.. The people I work with are gossipy, clueless, immature and uneducated..
    I am the oldest, so they act like I am not even there, barely even answer me.. I have tried bring in treats, making jokes, helping them extra with their jobs, but I gave up trying to impress them and just go do my job and make an effort to pay at least ten compliments a day. My motive is not to buy them, but to make them smile or have a better day.. After that, I just go about my business..
    1779 days ago
    dont worry about what they think! emoticon
    1779 days ago
    Not easy. Have a good weekend. emoticon emoticon
    1779 days ago
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