Saturday, March 09, 2013
Good Morning; it is very early here but needless to say I could not sleep much.
DS did not come home but they went back to their apt instead. GF was ashamed to come to our home. One was in the bedroom and the other was in the LR texting to each other. Does this generation even talk to each other.
I made a decision for myself. I am back on my program. This kind of stress will just consume me if I do not think of myself first. DH is going back to WW today. My DH was a big help with the crisis. GF told DS that after baby comes she is going back to California and leave him with the baby. Now that translates into me raising the baby. How did this become my problem? What I told my son that GF needs to continue the counseling and be involved. If she and her counselor decides after a year that this is the right path then ok, but she is only saying things like this b/c of what she did.
She is crying for help. She needs professional help. DH says when she delivers he is going to plan to be out of town b/c he does not want to be in the expected fire fight. I think this shows his colors quite well. I still have hope that GF will get the help she desperately needs. The baby - I just pray that she has earplugs and comes out happy. We will see! DH and I have planned a big vacation this summer and we need it for our marriage which has been bumpy lately. I do not mind helping out, but I did not plan to raise a newborn at this stage of our lives. We have decided to pay for DS's April rent since GF spent it. He is going to try to sell on craig's list the cosmetics and other stuff. He is just heart broken. He did stay with her b/c of the baby. I think this is part of the problem - she wants a ring and he is not sure of the relationship. He wants his daughter- not necessarily the GF. I know what she did does not help her case.