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Saturday, March 09, 2013

Good Morning; it is very early here but needless to say I could not sleep much.
DS did not come home but they went back to their apt instead. GF was ashamed to come to our home. One was in the bedroom and the other was in the LR texting to each other. Does this generation even talk to each other. emoticon I made a decision for myself. I am back on my program. This kind of stress will just consume me if I do not think of myself first. DH is going back to WW today. My DH was a big help with the crisis. GF told DS that after baby comes she is going back to California and leave him with the baby. Now that translates into me raising the baby. How did this become my problem? What I told my son that GF needs to continue the counseling and be involved. If she and her counselor decides after a year that this is the right path then ok, but she is only saying things like this b/c of what she did.
She is crying for help. She needs professional help. DH says when she delivers he is going to plan to be out of town b/c he does not want to be in the expected fire fight. I think this shows his colors quite well. I still have hope that GF will get the help she desperately needs. The baby - I just pray that she has earplugs and comes out happy. We will see! DH and I have planned a big vacation this summer and we need it for our marriage which has been bumpy lately. I do not mind helping out, but I did not plan to raise a newborn at this stage of our lives. We have decided to pay for DS's April rent since GF spent it. He is going to try to sell on craig's list the cosmetics and other stuff. He is just heart broken. He did stay with her b/c of the baby. I think this is part of the problem - she wants a ring and he is not sure of the relationship. He wants his daughter- not necessarily the GF. I know what she did does not help her case. emoticon emoticon
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MERRYMARY42 3/9/2013 8:37PM

    so glad you are getting back on your program, eating right and exercise, may not solve everything, but it sure does get rid of a lot of stress, perhaps it would be best is gf does leave and go back to California, but I would imagine when she shes that baby, she will change her mind, just stay strong, helping is one thing, but, having to raise another baby would be too hard, although I know it is done daily. Take Care Nancy and take care of yourself. emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 3/9/2013 9:37AM

    HUGS and prayers. Taht's about all I can say. The poor yet-unborn child is the one in the cross-fire! That's so sad. Hoping that the counseling starts to kick in quickly. Both your GF and DD AND that poor child need for it to kick in!

good for you for taking care of yourself. That's just critical with such stress going on in your life.



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JUDITHANNIE 3/9/2013 8:11AM

    Oh boy what a mess, sending hugs and prayers to you all

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LIVELAUFLUV 3/9/2013 7:40AM

    I'm so sorry you are going through this. We went through a similar situation almost 3 years ago and have the most beautiful precious granddaughter as a result. She doesn't live with us, but we have her quite often. Her parents split custody, but she spends most of her time with Dad. The mom's family is involved, kind of. Her maternal grandmother and great grandparents do all they can. DGD (dear granddaughter) is with hubby and I while our son works on Tuesday, Thursday and every other Friday (he works until 9pm, so I get her at 4pm) She spends Tuesday, and Thursday with her mommy (during the day) and spends two nights a week with her. It's sad for me, because dgd adores her mommy. Babies having babies.

I hope the baby mama will see her daughter and fall in love with her. If she doesn't it's better for the little one to be surrounded with those who love her.

Make sure you take care of YOU! It's a tough road, but those grandkids are an awesome part of our lives. My relationship with dh changed when dgd came along, she is the love of my life, and I think sometimes dh can be jealous. I have to keep that in mind.

Good luck and keep us posted. Send me an e-mail if you want to and we can talk some more. Know that you are not alone, there are many of us who have gone through similar situations.

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