Getting Real about Fear
Thursday, March 07, 2013
We all fear the unknown. We fear the known, like we fear getting too close to a hot oven. We fear the bad, because we don't want to be hurt (what it all comes down to). Yet oddly, we fear the good too... because improvements must always come at the price of change.
Change can be terrifying. Particularly when we have no crystal ball promising everything is going to be sunshine and happiness from here on out... or that the people we love are still going to love us (or we'll still feel the same way about them). We have fears of rejection, abandonment, ridicule and humiliation. Fear of expectations. Of exposure.
We fear losing weight, because changes trigger every single one of our fears.
Many people think being thin is what it's going to take to make them happy. But in reality, being happy is what its going to take to become thin and stay that way.
Becoming happy requires moving beyond our ego and choosing Life over our fears, because happiness is always an in-the-moment emotion.
Memories might make us nostalgic for happier times, but happiness itself is felt in immediate response to what is happening in the moment.
While we're busy fretting about other things, or daydreaming about our fantasy lives, we are missing Life itself. Negative thinking. Over-analyzing. Contemplating. Worrying. Planning. Whenever we're not attending to our immediate reality and squeezing every drop of life out of it while the precious moment lasts... we are denying ourselves the very things we most long for:
A sense of connection. Belonging. Loving and being loved.
The experience of being truly alive.
Because isn't that what happiness really is? The joyful awareness of one's aliveness??
We let our fears rob us of our lives. Or we don't.