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Wednesday, March 06, 2013

In case some of my SparkFriends think I'm going through a crisis of sorts, what with the sudden increase in blogging - let me assure you everything is fine. This is part of a weekly assignment where we are blogging on the theme of habits .

Or the lack of them. Or the forming of them.

I picked rewarding myself as the habit I intended to work on.

There's just one problem with this. I am the most self-critical human being in existence. I am merciless. I indulge in the worst kind of introspection, like a glutton for self-flagellation.

How can I ever practice the habit of rewarding myself when there is never anything worth rewading in my own eyes?

Others can heap praise over me for this or that, compliment me, reward me - but until I find myself worthy of it, it all means very little.

Perception is a funny thing. Perhaps that would have been a better habit to choose to work on.

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NUOVAELLE 3/8/2013 3:26AM

    How about fighting an old bad habit? Perfectionism, for example, which causes all the lack of self-praise and the continuous, harsh self-criticism? I can join you in that one, if you want!
Sometimes I look at my children's drawings of mom. Through their eyes, I'm the most perfect human being on earth! I suggest you do it, too. And hurry up, before they reach their teens and they get to hate us ten times a day!!
I hope I made you smile!

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MICKEYH 3/7/2013 12:16AM

    Yes, please, work on your perception. I believe on self love. Hopefully very soon you will able to see yourself worthy of everything that you do your yourself and family.

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LTURSS 3/6/2013 9:46PM

    I'm right there with you! No matter what improvement we make, it's so easy to see what we still need to improve upon rather than how far we've come. Take some time to look at the differences you see in yourself so far & maybe write down some things that are great about yourself each day!

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CAROLJ35 3/6/2013 9:30PM

    You're not alone! I think many of us are self-critical.
We should join you in looking for the good in us rather finding fault with what we do and say.

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    I am right there with you, Minna. Tough stuff...

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LYNNWILK2 3/6/2013 7:03PM

    that right there should be the focus of your first habit... changing your perception of yourself. You can do it through your blogs. Start by practicing positive affirmations, say them over and over again, until you start to feel the "crack" in merciless self-criticism ... Carry a small pile of note cards with these affirmations on them. You can find a lot of them on Sparks.
Just a suggestion or redirection... you would be able to work on two things at once and improve your total outlook on your life.

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CAROLINAKIWI 3/6/2013 4:45PM

    Take a few minutes and write down everything you did good today. It doesn't have to be anything big - even if you just smiled at someone. Now, take a look at that list and realize that those are things worth rewarding because you took the time to do them. You are really a great person whether you realize it or not.

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    emoticon It's hard being a perfectionist. emoticon

emoticon here's some new shoes.... emoticon

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