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What Can I Improve Upon.....

Wednesday, March 06, 2013

Oh so many things...One thing I really have to improve is letting go of things that are beyond my control. At the forefront, of course, is letting go of my so called siblings. They have told me that I am no longer considered part of the family. I did nothing to them. This is a choice they made not me and I have to remember to keep toxic people like this out of my life.

As I think over the years, they actually separated me out years ago. I wasn't even invited to my brother's wedding. I guess their hatred of my parents is also aimed at me.

I have to let go of it once and for all and focus on all the positives things I have in my life. My wonderful husband of almost 24 years, my children, my special boy JC, my critters and all my wonderful friends in the real and virtual world!
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  • 4CYNDI
    So true. Letting go of toxic is hard but necessary. I know you are a good and loveable person. Their pettiness hurts them the most. Have fun with your family and let it go. I had to do the same with my brother for different reasons. It was hard to do, but I love my life now and would hate to continue being drawn into the drama that is his life.
    1812 days ago
    Family is so wish everyone would just get a long...and you wonder what you did or how you can fix it...but you really can only fix you and how you process and deal with the negative.

    Life is too short to worry about things that you can't control...that's one thing I've been facing lately. You have to find happiness for yourself and no one else.

    1813 days ago
    It is hard to let go, you know I share your same problem with family. I still struggle with it. All it takes is something on a TV show about good family or a talk show about family problems and I break down. It is so frustrating, when you want to be a good family member and the rest of them are rotten people and do not care! I keep asking WHY? We are better off without them in our lives and we can deal with it! Just keep up that attitude and hold dear all that you have in your immediate family and special friends and cuddly critters in your life!! emoticon emoticon
    1813 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/7/2013 2:07:55 AM
    1813 days ago
    It hurts so deep to be hurt by family, but you can't control them you can only do what you can do, and sometimes you have to step back and protect yourself, and hopefully someday they will wake up and see their mistakes. It is their loss.
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    1813 days ago
  • JUSTME29
    You have made great strides towards this already. I know it's still painful, but good for you finding some kind of acceptance of their choice.
    1813 days ago
  • TERESA159
    Exactly! It's their loss, not yours. Treat them respect but don't allow them to make you their victim. You deserve the best Nina!
    (I have a toxic sib too so I know what it's like, no fun. And heartbreaking.)

    1813 days ago
    It sounds like you have come to a major decision about what to do about your family issues... sometimes it is best just to back off and let them have thier issues on thier own... I am glad that you can see the blessings you do have in your life and can major on the postive and turn your back on all the negativity... trust you will have a great day today
    1814 days ago
    Yes, I agree, stay as cool and calm as you can be, while reaching out when appropriate. It's truly their loss and someday they may wake up to that when they see you have a taste of what the really good life looks like. This world needs a little more lovin' -- especially with the relatives we really cannot separate from our lives totally. May we all continue to rise and take the higher road. Hug, hug -- Evelyn
    1814 days ago
    It's tough to do but sounds like a necessity. Just because you have the same DNA doesn't make you friends. I think you are smart to focus on the positive people in your life. emoticon
    1814 days ago
    Letting go of things can be hard, but sometimes it's what we need to do. It sounds like your life would be so much more relaxing without the family drama that you've been going through lately.

    Best of luck to you!
    1814 days ago
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