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Yellow Brick Road...to Happiness?!!


Tuesday, March 05, 2013

So...from much distress comes much insight. I think this one might be a game changer...I'm hoping so. After my big disappointment on Saturday, I pouted my way through the day and ended up binge-eating in the evening...boo! Sunday, I decided to "get out" and take some time by myself to try to lift my spirits and think about things and find some answers. When I am seeking answers, I gravitate toward books...so much knowledge...the answer has to be there, right?

So, I went to Half Price Books as I had a few gift cards I could spend there. I knew what I was looking for. I needed the answer to one question...How to Be Happy. I try to be a happy person and a positive person. I feel that it is harder for me to "be happy" than for many people and I don't know why. Well, I found this book at Half-Price titled "Happy for No Reason" by Marci Shimoff. She authored the Chicken Soup for the Women's Soul book and several others. She's done a ton of research on happiness and interviewed 100 Happy for No Reason people. And I think I understand some things better now.

The principle behind Happy for No Reason is learning to "be happy" regardless of your circumstances. That sounds GREAT to me. That is exactly what I am looking for. I am tired of having my "bucket tipped over" by things that happen or by the actions or words of others. I want to be more resilient and steady in my emotions. I love that this book talks about how most people are trying to be happy by stringing together pleasurable experiences...like putting beads on a string...but when something bad happens, it "ruins" the necklace...ruins the happiness. Yep, that has been me and what has been happening to me. They explain about being happy within...like the happiness being the "string"...not the beads. Aha! I get that!

Then, it goes on to explain that we have the ability to be happy...no matter what. It is within us. And that we have a "happiness set point." They have a questionnaire that you can go through to determine your happiness set point. I took it and am pretty low...but the good news is that you can raise your happiness set point and they have suggestions of things to work on in order to accomplish that. It works. Today, I was happy all day...for no reason...not because of what was happening around me. As things happened that were annoying or disturbing, I would say to myself, "I am happy...no matter that _____" It worked.

On the way home, it occurred to me that it is kind of like the principle behind the Wizard of Oz. The Lion is wanting Courage...Tin Man wants a Heart...Scarecrow wants a Brain...but what they really needed to do was realize that they already had these things...within them...they possessed them...they just had to go ahead and BE them. I already have happiness...I just have to own it...recognize it...BE it. I don't have to chase it...I HAVE it. I've been chasing after something I already had!

I am wondering if my eating has just been me trying to be happy. I was trying to use food to raise my spirits and be happy. But if I can go ahead and BE happy...then I don't have to chase it...then I shouldn't find myself eating to raise my spirits. This really could be a very big key for me.

I'm continuing to read through this book. I'm only about 1/4 of the way through so far. But I really "get" it. And it's really making sense to me and giving me an aha to this question of "how" to be happy. Really? Just "be" it...huh. Wow. Okay, I think I can do that!

My knees have taken a few days to get over my run on Friday. They went into major sore and stiff mode. Today, they were almost back to normal. I'm going to resume C25K tomorrow or Thursday. Yay!

Hope you all had a great Tuesday! We are expecting a bunch of snow tonight...I guess it's snowing pretty heavily right now. Isn't it March? Hmmm. Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon emoticon emoticon

P.S. The new granddaughter has not arrived yet. DD is a few days past her due date and getting a little discouraged (so, of course, I've had to share some of my new-found happiness wisdom with her.) Hopefully, she will make her appearance soon!
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DS9KIE 3/11/2013 10:54AM

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DLDMIL 3/8/2013 12:18AM

    I will also be thinking about this well written blog. I also struggle with the issue of being happy. I need to find it within me to be happy. Thank you so much for posting this.

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KONRAD695 3/7/2013 1:57PM

    Sounds like the book has some great ideas. Please keep up posted of new ideas. Spark On!!

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ILIKETOZUMBA 3/7/2013 12:00AM

    Sounds like a great book! I'm so glad you're finding it useful...and feeling happy! :)

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JSPIN74 3/6/2013 9:22PM

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DUXGRL1 3/6/2013 6:32PM

    What a great insight. That sounds like a great book...maybe I should read that, too. I still am not completely sure why I eat.

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GRANDMAMAOF3 3/6/2013 3:13PM

    Thanks for sharing; I needed that! Have a warm and wonderful day! emoticon

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LOPEYP 3/6/2013 12:05PM

    I am glad that you are not accepting and looking for answers. You are not a quitter!! emoticon

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LOSINIT52 3/6/2013 11:29AM

    Just what I needed to read today. I was getting in a funk following a call to my elderly mother. She always has known what buttons to push.
Back to your blog though. I know that I have it in me to be happy and I just need to brush off the things that drag me down. I find happiness builds like a snowball or maybe a better visualization would be grows like a plant we nurture.
I am feeling happier already. I think I will take these thoughts out for a walk. Thank you.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/6/2013 10:43AM

    I also am believer in choosing to be happy regardless of our situation. I first learned of it from church and it does work.

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KKKAREN 3/6/2013 9:08AM

    Happy reading!!

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ROSEWCI 3/6/2013 5:51AM

    Such an awakening! You've got it! It's like I seek JOY in everything...& I see it everywhere!!! It's all in the perception Cathy...for me, I see JOY in the smallest of things on a daily basis! It helps me stay in the moment & enJOY life!

Get out & find your JOY/HAPPINESS Cathy! It's waiting for you! emoticon emoticon

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SUNSET09 3/6/2013 5:30AM

  I've realized that happiness is a state of mind and no one can make yu happy but you! Also, you can't always be happy however, we can change the things we can and accept the things we can't change. Good for you in wanting to be happy and going after it! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ANATASHIKI 3/6/2013 3:10AM

    ha ha , thanks! I'll read it too! we're so going to Emerald City! emoticon

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SHARON10002 3/5/2013 10:15PM

    So glad you found something to help you out of your rut, and over your hurdle! Sounds like a good book. Loved the analogy to the Wizard of Oz, even though the Wicked Witch of the West still scares me to this day! emoticon


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MIZCATHI 3/5/2013 9:40PM

    Beautifully written. Authentic. I get it and I am going to read that book.

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SEAWAVE 3/5/2013 9:38PM

    Isn't it wonderful when we find something that really resonates with us and helps us understand where we are and how to get to where we want to be? So happy that you found the book. I believe that we first have to choose to be happy, because we can't control what happens to us. We can, however, control how we react to it and let's face it, being unhappy never solved anything!

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LAFEMMEDELALUNE 3/5/2013 9:34PM

    Brilliant and fascinating. I will be mulling this over for sure! :)

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