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How Many Is Too Many? And What To Do?

Sunday, March 03, 2013

I'm talking about SparkTeams and SparkFriends here, not potato chips - so it really is something I could use a few extra brain cells to help with. I know that your first thought is that this a decision that only I can make; and, of course, that is true. But perhaps some different perspectives will help me work this through.

A month or so ago, I cut back on both my SparkTeams and SparkFriends because I was spending too much time on the computer. But now this spectre has again reared its head. So where do I go from here, and does this problem ever come to an end?

I have only been rarely commenting on blogs or SparkPages. Many days, I hardly even get a chance to back through 24 hours of Friend Feeds and hit "like" a few times. Yet I hate to unfriend someone just because we've had limited interaction when I'm the one not interacting as I'd like.

And then my teams. I feel like I can only be present and participating in 4-6 teams. I'm really committed to Mid-Mo Let's Go! Team. We've grown in both numbers and activity since the first of the year. After I dropped a couple of teams, I got to thinking that maybe that's not the best route. After all, that removes my points from that team. So then I've dropped some of the team goals so there'd be less tracking for me. But that also adversely affects the team stats. So how do other Sparkers manage some 20, 30, 40 teams or more?

I'm trying to do quite a bit more physical activity. So now I'm new to a 5K team that I've figured will only be a 5-week commitment. But then I'll want to start working toward a 10K, and maybe even a half marathon. Is it right to keep joining teams and dropping them? And even though I decided it's too soon to consider myself transitioning to maintenance, I expect to be by summer. So there's another team that needs serious consideration.

All this has puzzled me for awhile. But then I got increasingly baffled, and I'm almost to the point of throwing my hands up in dismay. Is there any help out there from my friends and teammates?
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    The most important thing to remember is that this is your journey, and you have to do what will make you successful. If you feel spread too thin and therefore unable to focus on your own needs, how is that going to help you reach your goals? It won't end up benefiting anyone (yourself or your SP teams/friends) if you wind up giving up because you're overwhelmed. It's wonderful that you are so considerate of others, but I think many of us have ended up in bad shape physically because we've put ourselves last too many times. Do what is best for yourself, and that will leave you in a better position to be a good friend/team member to others when the time is right. Good luck to you! emoticon
    1841 days ago
    You are so considerate! I dropped out of all of my teams a good while back without one moments thought. And yet anyone who was part of the team didn't seem offended. I think if you are feeling overwhelmed then most people would understand if you backed out of their team. It is all about priorities and what is pertinent to you at this point in time. Goals and priorities change. No one can fault you for that. And as for the friends, if you don't have time to correspond with them then I doubt they will have hurt feelings over losing your friendship as there wasn't too much interaction going on anyway. You could email and let them know your situation and that the drop is nothing personal.
    1841 days ago
    im too that point too, i have too many teams, but its all things i like :( whats a sparker to do? my sticking point right now is the blc that i joined - far from motivating me, im not able to be online much and to see myself falling behind on all the tracking and challenge stuff just de-motivates me. i cant keep up and i just fade away.....i need to delete it and move on. maybe blc and challenges itsnt for everybody. sorry lemons!
    1841 days ago
    I know. I had to delegate on my teams. I was spending the majority of my day on spark. So getting more team leaders, everybody doing a small task, just frees up everyone.

    As far as number of teams, I have many that really are very inactive. But sometimes I pop in with a question or to check the resources available. So I just keep them.

    Friends.... that is a tough one. I don't always make it to my friend feed. Or when I do, I am looking on the right for the things like the dumbbell, for fitness minutes or weight loss, or an award. A new picture might jump out at me, or someone's plea for help.

    Anyways, I feel ya emoticon

    1841 days ago
    If you feel overwhelmed by having too many friends or teams then you can drop either and no one will be hurt. You really have to do what you feel is best. Don't worry about team stats. They understand that SparkPeople is not a competition.

    Keep writing blogs if you are comfortable about doing them. If you don't feel like you want to some days, don't do them.

    Do what you feel is best for you and enjoy the things you like. emoticon emoticon
    1841 days ago
  • COOP9002
    It's tough but sometimes you simply have to choose the one's that are best for you. We've all struggled with this issue a time or two if we've been on Spark for very long.

    Blessings upon you today.
    1841 days ago
    I would say don't worry about so much. Why do you have to "like" anybody's feed at all? Drop teams as you see fit. Someone else will join tomorrow. We are all here to do what we need to do for ourselves. And I think we're all very understanding of that. This doesn't mean you can't respond to someone when you want to or feel moved by something, but it shouldn't be a cause of stress. I'd guess your spark friends wouldn't want that for you.
    1842 days ago
    I have gone through the same thing. I am only a member of a few teams and actually, got out of one today because I didn't feel I could do it. My friends I support the best I can and if I am struggling to keep up, I will write a blog, like you, to let people know what's going on. I understand about spending too much time online too. Good luck this week. Chelsea emoticon
    1842 days ago
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