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Nice meal yesterday with friends

Sunday, March 03, 2013



We went to a great Mexican place that was in a couple of villages over. The gal made a roasted veggie salsa for us at tableside which was really yummy. The grilled veggies had such nice flavor. And the friends we were with are fun to be with. I indulged a bit with two Negro Modelos. My girlfriend is type 1 diabetic so she can only drink one beer. But our men put away too many margaritas! My DH wanted the party to continue and asked the folks, who are neighbors to come back to our house to continue drinking. We had already been together since 3 in the afternoon and the good news is she likes to get her DH to stop drinking so she wanted to take him home. So they went home. Then trouble happened....my DH continues to drink and always gets weird. I ignore him and go inside and get on the computer. He turns his son's CD(which is good) up really loud and listens to it for like the millionth time. It drives me crazy. Then he came in and told me he was going to leave this week and go to his other son's house in Seattle as he is bored here. I said "Go"!!!! he is driving me crazy anyway. He said he doesn't feel useful and can do projects at his son's house. Some men just don't do well in retirement. He doesn't have any hobbies and doesn't like to read like I do. It will be nice to have him out of here so that I don't have to see if he will be in a good mood or not each day. We all know that we are responsible for our own happiness. I am basically a happy person. I always look for the positive. I have my little hobbies. I get more than my 10,000 steps in a day, I read my kindle, watch my TV shows, play with kitties and dogs. Go to art shows, took a painting class. Anyway, I do well with retirement. I finally have time to do those things. And especially watch TV which is something I never had time to do. So yes, I do watch a bit too much but I am not going to let him make me feel guilty for it. I earned this time.
Gosh, didn't mean to turn this into a rant. Sorry.
But I will be happy to have him gone now for 3 months. He can go off and be with his one son in Seattle and then go off to PA and be with the other son and grandkids. Adios!
And why do people who drink too much have to get you all upset at bedtime???? I couldn't sleep last night obviously! Will be a long day.
One a positive note, the sun is shinning and I will walk the dogs and just breath in the fresh air!
Hope all my sparks buddies have a great day.
Sallie
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  • v GOANNA2
    Hey Sallie, Just bide your time and then you will
    have beautiful solitude. My ex used to laugh with
    scorn when I watched TV and he would say
    "Oh yes, watching Shakespeare again are we?"
    Have a great week. The food looks amazing.
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  • v JANIEWWJD
    Just take a deep breath and continue being positive and happy.
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    1239 days ago
  • v WHITEANGEL4
    There is just too much to life to be unhappySorry to hear that your DH is not content in his retirement.
    1239 days ago
  • v BUTEAFULL
    it seems nagativity/negativity is more contagious than positivity
    I can relate as I have a grump guy too
    1239 days ago
  • v KATRINAKAT23
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  • v PHATPAT18
    Obviously your ban on travel has been lifted. It sounds like you are going to be able to have some time for yourself.
    1239 days ago
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  • v _LINDA
    Glad you had a great dinner out -sounds awesome fresh roasted veggies at your table!!
    That is a shame about your DH, sounds like a trip back to the US for time with his sons is just the thing he needs. But he sure could use something to do in Mexico. I agree with the others -he needs to take up a hobby or volunteer, or maybe even a part time job, anything to get him involved and busy. Some people just can't sit around enjoying the peace and quiet and sunsets..
    So glad you are at least, enjoying your retirement!!
    Have a super Sunday!
    1239 days ago
  • v NISSANGIRL
    The dinner looked beautiful Sallie!!! looks like everyone had a wonderful time! now about Hubby...... I CAN SO RELATE!! Rick is the same way, and it drives me crazy! we r doing a bedroom renovation so we are together 24-7 and now we took a few days off to go to the vacation home and he is under my feet all the time and I need my space! he is perfectly fine staying in (unless I say something) and I have cabin fever! I don't know how people do it living together 24-7 it's hard work! U did the right thing by ignoring him when he turns the music up, maybe u should get some ear plugs? U are lucky that he is going away and u can regroup and have some alone time. Have a Great day In Beautiful Mexico! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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  • v NEW-CAZ
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    Glad you had a good time with your friends. DH needs something to occupy him. A friend's hubby was the same and was actively looking for a hobby but all seemed false and self imposed then he realised he loved copying the recipes done by celebraty chefs on TV for himself, bought all the spices and herbs, downloaded all the meals.
    Now my friend finishes work and a fantastic meal is ready for her!.

    I suspect once your hubby has made himself "useful" he'll be in a better mood.
    1239 days ago
  • v CIRANDELLA
    That roasted pepper salad had me salivating...and it's not yet noon here! OHHHhhhh, does that look delicious! You take such wonderful pictures, Sallie; I always look forward to visiting your SparkPage emoticon

    You do sound like you've found lots of contentment and balance in life and have always struck me as a sunny, optimistic lady. Well, I think everything's going to look different - and rosier, too - once your husband has visited his family and returned. He needs that perspective, and he's probably due for a trip back to the States just to set foot there, it sounds like...plus, he hasn't seen about his knee, so I imagine he might even be using alcohol to dull its pain somewhat. In any case, I really suspect this will prove to be a passing phase... Meanwhile, emoticon
    1239 days ago
  • v MEADSBAY
    I'm sorry your hubby is being such a meany!
    You are so right about how we are all responsible for our own happiness.
    My dh has not handled retirement well, either (getting fat from eating too much!) but he has created a few little ebay businesses and thank goodness our grandbabies live nearby and we see them a lot.
    I'm a little jealous of your chance for a bit of a break from each other. My dh wants me to go everywhere with him but I say no- we need to live some seperate lives- what will we have to talk about??
    1240 days ago
  • v TRAVELGRRL
    My husband is older than me and retired 9 years earlier. I am blessed that he's always found plenty to do. All those years he did all the cleaning, laundry, yardwork, etc. He belongs to a hiking and gardening club.

    Maybe your husband needs some volunteer work, or to get a part-time job??

    1240 days ago
  • v 1CRAZYDOG
    **SIGH** Frustrating! When anything is done to excess it seems to take the person involved in the excess MUCH longer to come to the realization that it's not a good thing then it does for the ones around them (like you) who are affected.

    Glad you have plenty to keep you occupied. That's a saving grace.

    The meal you shared looks awesome! HUGS
    1240 days ago
  • v ROCKMAN6797
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  • v LIS193
    Your meal out with your friend sounds great - love those roasted chiles..
    Oh no! about your DH getting into a mood :( He needs a hobby! Why do men always need to feel useful and "fix" things??? If my DH didn't have the office and his boat he'd drive me nuts too! Like you I am content to do my own thing around the house and out and about.
    Hope you have a good day today!

    1240 days ago
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