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Don is home!

Sunday, March 03, 2013

Hey everyone,

I brought Don home from the hospital today...he managed to get to our ringette teams end of season party for a wee bit. He is really weak though.

It is way harder having Don home than I imagined. He is always sitting with his head in his hands, Josh and Miss are scared. Tonight Josh was watching the Canucks game with Don...Don sat up and put his head in his hands, Josh asked him if he was OK, and he just nodded...after a while, Josh asked again, and he didn't do anything, Josh asked a 3rd time...nothing...Josh started crying, Don didn't notice. He came down to me. I'm not sure how to handle this.

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BE-THE-CHANGE 3/4/2013 9:19PM

    This will be hard on you - trying to give Don what he needs, and the kidlets what they need, and still taking care of you. But later you will be so happy that you were able to have Don at home.
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JUNEBUG160 3/4/2013 6:24PM

    Any help available from hospice?..counselling or someone for him to talk to? Probably a good idea for the kids to have time to vent also...once a day or once a week , letting them know it's ok to be whatever they feel because of this process, to talk openly about their feeling ( anger, fear). I watch this going on at work and I try to give loved ones time to say whatever they need to get out ( anger is common and commonly covered in fear and guilt at the person dying). It's ok to feel these emotions, let them out or they will fester and you have enough to deal with right now. No judgement, no guilt, feel what you feel , saying it out loud gets it out of your body so you don't carry it around with you. Mental hugs your way.

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TIGGER622 3/4/2013 9:23AM

    Wood said it perfectly, take care of yourself - that is so key. This will be an adjustment for everyone, maybe you can get Don to open up about how he is feeling and get him to hear how scared the kiddos are, he needs to know... HUGS honey! Hang in there! Glad he can be home with you all HUGS HUGS HUGS!

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CMERUN29 3/4/2013 9:22AM

    No good advice but I'm sending lots of hugs and prayers for you all.

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GAYEMC 3/3/2013 5:34PM

    Oh Trish, I do know how hard this is for you but I wouldn't know how to deal with the kidlets. Ours were adults when John got ill. I am so happy you were able to bring him home. I couldn't do that with my DH and it still bothers me. Please take extra care of your self right now. Hugs my sweet!

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MHOULE 3/3/2013 1:19PM

    If you have an EFAP / EAP (Employee & Family Assistance Program), they may have some emotional supports for you and the kids as you navigate through this painful time. I would encourage you to as either Don's or your HR department if you have access to one, as it's free. And, most importantly, you may get some help on how to talk to the kids about this and how to work through your own pain.

As always, sending you love. xoxox

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KASHMIR 3/3/2013 12:43PM

    Hugs for each and every one of you. Listen to Wood!!!

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    No words-Wood had beautiful and perfect ones though. It's what I've always told you, Take care of yourself,too. Big hugs with many, many tears for you.

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WOODHEAT 3/3/2013 7:53AM

    There is probably no tougher job in the world than being the caregiver for somebody you love! It can completely sap your energy and spirit if you allow it to. Trish, first and foremost, you must take care of yourself so that you are still able to take care of Don and the kidlets. Find some escape with the kids if you can: go for walks, go to a movie, play games and talk. Your kids aren't dumb. They have some understanding of the gravity of the situation and like you they're scared. It's okay for them to know that you too are scared. Let the tears flow. Be generous with hugs. Find strength in friends, family and faith.

Again, take care of yourself so that you can help take care of them! Hugs my friend.



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CASSIOEPIA 3/3/2013 7:49AM


He is likely more comfortable at home sweetie, God bless you for giving him that gift.

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SEABREEZE65 3/3/2013 6:06AM

    Trish ... sending you loving vibrations.
Handling all of this..... no one knows for sure how....
Continuing to think of you and your family.

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COOPSM 3/3/2013 5:36AM

    Trish----can only imagine how you are feeling!!! But glad that Don is home!!! HUGS honey and just do your best!!!!! LOVE YA!!!

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MO-TIVATE-MI 3/3/2013 4:07AM

    emoticon will be thinking about you all.

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RICHOJOHNSON 3/3/2013 4:05AM

    Trishy I have nothing to say or offer except my love and care.

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ARNETTELEE 3/3/2013 3:55AM

  Things will be okay....have faith.

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