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Goals Smacked me Upside the Head Today!

Friday, March 01, 2013

Got smacked me up-side the head today with a novel idea today: Goals.

Oh, I've had them. Sometimes specific, sometimes attainable. But the real kicker was in re-reading 'The Spark' and realizing that I don't know where I'm going in the long run. Ya I want to lose weight but who do I really want to be?

I'm like the raft drifting downstream with no idea where I really am or where I'm headed. My only goal in life was to be a great mom and wife (I didn't want to be like my own mom). So as an over-achiever, I have poured every ounce of myself into those two things at the cost of really not being myself or getting to know what I really wanted out of life. As a career, my choice was secretary because it was safe and I'm good at it. (But I hate it). I have been so determined to prove to my family that I am a capable and strong woman. I have never made goals that would be risky or outside of my comfort zone. I didn't want to fail and be ridiculed or told "I told you so".

So, as I progress through this Spark Journey, I AM GOING to make specific PERSONAL goals. The first one being: to find out what I really like and what my real interests are! Now, I have to admit, I am so proud of my three sons. They have been fantastic goals to pour into. I know I have poured everything into my marriage to the point of empty, so that goal has been a little unbalanced.

But this month is a goal-setting life-balancing month.

Instead of being that woman all alone and adrift, I am learning from my SparkFriends, my supportive Coffee-Girlfriends, and my Daily Devotions. I'm gaining wisdom, balance and true joy in being who God has made me to be.

And maybe my biggest dream is to look like one of these girls. emoticon
I had it once. I can do it again.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SWAZY33 3/5/2013 9:23AM

    It's funny when I lookied at the picture with the two girls...the first thing I noticed wasn't the great was the pure joy in their, I think it would be a great world if we can all have that kind of blissful joy in our lives (and YES of course being able to wear cute bikini's would be a bonus emoticon )

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KADULAC 3/4/2013 5:51PM

    emoticon emoticon I know how you feel. Right now my goals are to get me to the next hike, but DH cannot even walk right now so there really doesn't seem to be much point to that. I need to set some new goals also.

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SPARKFRAN514 3/4/2013 4:07PM

    emoticon emoticon Finish up each day and be done with it you have done what you could

. You never know how strong you are until strong is the only choice
The only difference between try and triumph is a little umph!

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WENDYSPARKS 3/2/2013 7:26AM


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PATTYKLAVER 3/2/2013 7:17AM

    I seem to go through the same thing. Sometimes I have clear goals, sometimes I just feel like I am going through life with no direction. Guess I need to re-read the Spark too.

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D-ABBY 3/1/2013 4:34PM

    Setting goals is important. Making sure they are attainable is vital. I have to take care that the goals I set are coupled with flexibility, so I can be happy with whatever progress I make and not discouraged and thrown off completely if I don't get to the exact mark I want in the exact time frame I set for being there. That is why I am focusing on making progress, not reaching perfection. I can progress toward perfection day by day and be excited in the progress. But shooting for perfection will leave me wanting when I don't achieve it perfectly, often knocking me backwards despite the progress achieved. Go for the goal, but be wise in the goal setting. HUGS!
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MAMISHELI53 3/1/2013 3:36PM

    The best thing we can do is find our identity in Him Who made us in the first place.
Blessings on the journey to knowing who you are, and a healthy lifestyle to boot!

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