"It's only when we give to ourselves as passionately as we give of ourselves that we create the life we want and deserve." — Suze Orman
All roads keep leading me in this direction of late.
I listened to another great IOWL podcast this morning in which Renee Stephens talks about putting on our own oxygen masks first. She talks about the benefits of putting myself first so I have more to give, more energy, and I'm better for everyone around me. She then asks a great question: where am I on my own priority list? How worthy do I feel? Do I deserve to have fun? Do I deserve to take time for me?
As I write these questions, I know the answer is yes, but I also know that I have been living as if the answer is no. I've been putting myself at the bottom of my priority list, overeating, not getting enough sleep, not taking time to have any fun or see friends, etc. Well, I'm ready for all of that to change. It's March 1, and though we may still have cold days ahead, today I've been given the gift of a mild, sunny day, and it feels like spring! I feel hopeful with this happy weather that my life is going to feel more sunny as well. It's high time to see friends, do things I enjoy, and get back to living!
Link to the IOWL podcasts: podcasts.personallifemed
I also read a chapter in a wonderful book I just started called Raising Happiness, by Christine Carter, PhD, of UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center. She begins the book stating that children of parents who take great care of themselves and their marriage are happier, smarter, and more well-adjusted children. In other words, the happier the parents, the happier the children. Now I know this objectively, but it's great to read it in a book full of scientific research. And it's great to have this research to justify taking time for me. In this chapter, she talks about the fact that she regularly makes time to exercise, see friends, take painting classes, etc. She is a working mother and has limited time to see her two children, but she still makes me-time a priority and it makes her a better parent.
Link to the book: www.amazon.com/Raising-H
Link to the Greater Good website/free newsletter: greatergood.berkeley.edu
Lastly, Geneen Roth posted this great point on her Facebook page yesterday, getting back to the notion of taking care of ourselves when it comes to eating well:
"Most of us who have challenges around food are convinced we love food. We love eating. But when you love something, you pay attention to it. When you love something, you take time with it. Notice, today, how it is with you and food. Do you actually pay attention to the food in your mouth for longer than the first second of the first bite? Do you follow the taste all the way through, notice how it changes? Do you allow yourself to actually HAVE the food or are you busy rushing, standing up, talking on the phone, at your computer, doing errands that you miss it--and want more. If you keep missing it, you keep wanting more, as anyone would. Give yourself the gift of having what you have. On every level... "
I love this quote, especially the last lines about giving ourselves the gift of having what we have, on every level. Because I know that part of taking care of myself is about being present, while eating, working, playing with my daughter, existing.