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Cutting My Self Some Slack

Friday, March 01, 2013

Sometimes it seems someone flipped a switch and I am productive, pushing, working hard to get things done.

But most of the time, I don't want to do anything. I'm happy as a clam doing nothing, letting the everyday things which should be done pile up. Sometimes I can overcome the "I don't want to"s. Like last night I didn't want to get ready and go to the classes at the gym.

But the other side of me didn't want to miss the last night the pool would be open, so I forced myself to get it together and only missed 5 minutes of class.

The "Get it done, NOW" voice doesn't come around very often, thank goodness. So I don't get too frustrated because I have a feeling I wouldn't get much accomplished if it didn't put its foot down once in a while.

Like right now, I need to get the newsletter typed, uploaded to the web site, the notice e-mail sent, then to the printer and post office with those that don't have modern tech recipients. I DON'T WANT TO. But that pushy side is going to take over and make me get this job done.

I cut myself some slack on these kind of days by "clearing my calendar," by putting nothing else on my to do list.

Sometimes I get involved in a big project which I WANT to do. Thankfully I have learned some skills which help me keep other areas of my life going so I have time to work on THE PROJECT. I know how to be super organized. I know the habits I need to be sure are still in place if I am going to
1. read a novel without stopping
2. paint a few pictures
3. become more fit
4. plan meals and shopping list for the trip to the farmer's market tomorrow
5. take a class that runs all day, every day for a week

You get the picture. And PUSHY ME really gets riled up or excited when I start more than one project at a time because that means that different areas of the house will be in the middle of a different project, all at the same time. PushMePullYou is probably having a fit right now because I AM in the middle of the newsletter, trying on and packing up the clothes that are way too big (on the 5th large garbage bag today), starting seeds, getting income tax filed.) But just for today, she will have to disappear because I am ONLY going to get the newsletter finished after my walk.

How do you handle letting yourself say no when you KNOW you've reached the saturation point?
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JOYOUS1917 3/4/2013 8:36PM

    I know I am "Johnny come lately" but I am really jazzed by your blogs.

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BUDDHA33 3/1/2013 8:38PM

    You are many wonderful things done for yourself and for others, Brave-one. Thanks for being a great example for us!

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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 3/1/2013 6:24PM

    I have had some success in getting rid of some habits that I did not enjoy. Going out to drink with colleagues when I hate to socialize? It's over! Spending time schmoozing with people? No more.
I do like to read, write, and work out. And as long as I have enough time to do those things everything else can just fall away and I will be content enough. At least for the time being.

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SIMONEKP 3/1/2013 5:09PM

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LESLIELENORE 3/1/2013 4:44PM

    I give myself permission to let a few things slide occasionally. They will still get done... just not today.

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POPSY190 3/1/2013 3:04PM

    This could be me!! When it all gets piled up I ask myself: Which will matter tomorrow, in 10 days, next month, in a year? It sorts out the urgent for me and I deal with that. Works wonders for housework!! My answer to that is usually that it's better to do it once, at some vague future date, than several times immediately! But I have a newsletter to compose and send out and you are ahead of me there! Once done, I'll be pleasing myself for the rest of the day!! emoticon

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CHRISTINASP 3/1/2013 12:27PM

    I don't understand what 'the saturation point' means. Saturation of what by what?

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BRERRABBIT1 3/1/2013 11:56AM

    Hi BRAVELUTE,
:) I write myself a "Priorities" list. Then I go through a step system of 1. Sit (or flop), 2. Routine (or maintenance) work, 3. Exercise, 4. Priority (or project advancement) work. This helps me when I'm feeling lazy or unwell. I give each step 5 to 10 minutes max.

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**You! Out of the gene pool.**



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IAM_HIS 3/1/2013 10:20AM

    You blog was a big help to me. I am overwhelmed right now with my family members and their unreasonable demands on me. Your blog helped me, thank you.

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LAURAAT 3/1/2013 9:44AM

    For me, I'm a big list maker. So when I start to get overwhelmed, I make a list. Then I sit back, and look at it, and decide what must be done, and what can wait. Then, I take a deep breathe. I try to organize things so that things get done in an order that makes sense, and don't allow myself to get overwhelmed by my cut-down list.

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CBRINKLEY401 3/1/2013 8:51AM

    Like a computer that slows down to a crawl when you have too many windows open and too many programs running at the same time, I tend to shut down when I think of all the different things I NEED to get done, and I end up getting nothing done. When that happens, what works best is to put my blinders on and just focus on ONE thing. Closing those other tabs that are open on the "computer" in my brain and dealing with one thing at a time helps me to actually accomplish something. And getting ONE thing finished motivates me to tackle something else afterwards.



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CYND59 3/1/2013 8:29AM

    Not too sure...Let me know when you find out. LOL!

I just say - Life is too short to worry about the small stuff. I try to take time to enjoy me!

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