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Feeling the flow

Thursday, February 28, 2013

So one of the changes I had hoped to make in the new year was to see if I could apply the process of being successful to keeping my house in better order. It hadn't been going so good, though, and I was wondering where to get motivation and direction. I've tried FlyLady a few times but it didn't seem to help. Why couldn't there be something more like spark coach? Where was the roadmap?

There's a family wedding coming up this June and family will be coming to town and my husband graduates from law school (can you say non traditional student?) and I was thinking of stuff that would have to happen to have people over. All these things would need to happen anyway, I realized. So why let it stress me out?

I originally started my lifestyle change to get back to my comfortable weight, just past the obesity cutoff for my height. But as I got to thinking about it, I began to believe it was possible to achieve a normal BMI. And this same shift finally happened for my homemaking. I just have to believe it is possible. I'm not trying to life an X wing fighter out of a swamp, I'm just becoming a person who finds it worthwhile to keep her house up. I feel like believing really can make it so.

Yesterday I started to feel some results in this area. For church, we do visiting teaching, where we go to people's houses and chat with them, see how they are doing, and have a short lesson from the church magazine. In the past, the week I got visit taught there was drama. I procrastinated and then berated myself for procrastinating, and hoped there would be some kind of last minute cancellation. And the last minute press to get things presentable was fueled by anger at myself. But this time, I knew it usually takes about two hours to tidy the living room, and I didn't worry about it. I didn't yell at the kids or feel angry at myself, I just calmly and collectedly picked up what I needed to and moved what I needed to. And all the time I was amazed at how I was doing exactly the same thing, but my attitude was so different.

So we'll see how this goes. Even my willingness to use the word homemaking is different for me. I used to have this philosophical high horse about how making a home is more than being spotless clean. It was one of my Mom's rants. Well, where did that get me? It's not that I have to adopt that it is, I'm just letting go of the resentment about feeling judged.
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    It is like anything else, you set a few minutes and spend a little time and before you know it there is a big change that we just do not know where it came from.

    I have been trying to do things like, do dishes before Taiji practice. Why this sequence, well I like taiji practice, I am less enthusiastice about dishes. If dishes come first then it is likely I will get them done so I can do my Taiji.

    Many things in life are about learning how to sequence things into the correct order and correct time.

    take care and let the Chi Flow

    1666 days ago
    Well, as you already know, I'm trying to do the same thing. I've tried Flylady a few times, but she didn't help me much; just not disciplined enough, I guess. What I'm doing is working, though, so maybe I'll start making more progress. I can't do time-based goals, though, I have to do completion goals. Stuff like "clean this shelf today" or "do the dishes until I can see the counter." If I do time-based goals, I knock off when the clock goes off and end up not getting much done.
    1666 days ago
    Awesome. Great change in thought.
    1666 days ago
    First off, I love that you used the "lift an x-wing fighter out of the swamp" thing! Yoda would say, "do or do not; there is no try" and if you said "I don't believe it" when he lifted the fighter, he'd say "that is why you fail!" Secondly, it is truly all attitude! That rant your mother tried to bequeath to you shaped some of your beliefs. Now you are shaping your own beliefs with changed attitude. Spark ON!
    1666 days ago
  • NEEDBU66
    I do the 15 minute goal. Every day (Sunday can slide) I spend at least 15 minutes doing something around the house. If I do it, I put an X on the calendar. The idea is that I don't break the chain. (all those x's look like a chain). I find 15 minutes is attainable, and as a result the house looks pretty good.
    1667 days ago
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