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Tough decision today (FIL)

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

My FIL is in the final stages of Alzheimer's and been in a nursing home for over a year and a half. He went in the hospital a couple of weeks ago for throwing up some blood and blood in the stool. They thought that he had a small bleeding ulcer that was aggravated by a stomach bug going around. Got some fluids in him and he got better and went back to the home.

Yesterday he went back in with more bleeding and today they did a CAT scan and the results were bad. He has a hole in his stomach and the contents are filling his abdomen. They could so surgery but not sure if he would make it and it would be a huge cut down his abdomen.

DH talked it over with his brother and they both agreed surgery would not improve his quality of life so they made the decision to let nature take its course. I know that is what my FIL would have wanted but it was a tough decision.

So the doctor said that it would not be long then. Now the DH is trying to get ahold of his sister and his aunt to let them know.

It was a tough tough decision but I think it was the right one. We are for quality of life, not quantity.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
VHALKYRIE 2/28/2013 9:08PM

    The decision was made with love, even if a heart wrenching one. Strength to you and your family during this difficult time. emoticon

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CLOVER0924 2/28/2013 12:57PM

    So sorry - my thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.

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SHELL_G 2/28/2013 9:29AM

    Will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers... emoticon

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-LINDA_S 2/28/2013 8:52AM

    It sounds very much like the situation with my daughter's FIL. They took the same course and do not regret it, although it was hard while it was happening. I'll be thinking of you and your family...


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RUNNER4LIFE08 2/28/2013 8:41AM


We had to make a decision like that in November. It was hard on the whole family but we knew that Michael (my FIL) would not want to live like that. He was on a ventilator and when we finally took him off, it only took 20 minutes. That was the hardest day of my life so far watching his life slip away. But it was for the best.... he was really sick and was not going to improve.

So big HUGS and lots of prayers coming your way. It is going to be very difficult for you, your husband, and his family. Thinking about all of you!

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JT_GMOTU 2/27/2013 10:55PM

    Thinking of you and your family at this dificult time...
Lots of hugs coming your way...


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VERONICAVW_140 2/27/2013 9:12PM

    emoticon I cant even begin to imagine how difficult this situation must be for y'all. My heart goes out to your family. I will keep you all in my prayers.

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SPSPSP1 2/27/2013 8:35PM

    I'm so sorry for the pain you're all going through. Hang in there.

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