8 months postpartum and NO weightloss....

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Well here I am. Not any weight lost...infact I've gained 4 lbs! Feeling very defeated, and miserable. I know there are more important things to life than just the outward appearance...I just feel crappy, out of shape, lethargic and at times hopeless. I feel caught in that "cycle" and pit...of no way out. Does this make sense? I'm sorry if this is pessimistic, and self-loathing.
It's just SUCH a struggle. I'm still exclusively nursing my daughter, which I'm so thankful for...and she is worth it! Just hoping that this weightloss will kick in soon.

My husband and I DO want to try for another baby once my daughter is around 18 months, so in less than a year I'm hoping to be pregnant with our 3rd (and last) baby!! There's NO way that I will want another baby if I can't lost this weight. Not due to self image, but regarding a healthy pregnancy. As with my 1st baby I had a lot of complications(and I wasnt really overweight), (long story).

Today is just a bad day. Looking for encouragement. Everywhere I turn it seems like its a competition between women, in who can lose the baby weight the fastest. Thats NOT my goal...but it IS to be healthy, and happy, and to be able to enjoy my kids and family without always shying away from the camera, and old friends if you know what I mean?
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    First of all, we all have days when we feel like that. I mostly pretended like I didn't care that I was the heaviest I've ever been after baby#3 was born...but it did bother me more than you can imagine.

    Then New Years rolled around (my baby just under 7 months at that point) and I decided to make a resolution that I planned on keeping. I decided to burn an extra 250 calories a day through exercise. I wasn't going to promise myself weight loss because so many times that's failed. My only goal was to get more active.

    Less than a week into the New year my friends and I began a 12 week challenge...a competition with each other to see who could lose the most weight (calculated by % of weight lost). I found that motivated me and I kept to it.

    If you want, add me as a Sparkfriend because I'd very much so want to help you through this. I know what it's like to be in your shoes and it's hard and I know I wouldn't be where I am today without my support network (friends and family).

    You CAN do it. I believe in you!
    1850 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/28/2013 9:23:54 AM
  • NH_MOM
    I found that I never really lost the weight until I stopped nursing. I wasn't one of the lucky ones who loses tons of weight w/nursing. A few thing to maybe try would be to drink plenty of water - even more important if you're nursing. Also, you only need 300-500 extra calories. Maybe you aren't eating more than you need to. My daughter is almost a year old and I still have 10 lbs to lose. She's not a napper so I have a hard time fitting exercise in. I've been able to do extra cardio this week and still nothing. I'm pretty sure for me it's my eating. I'm having the hardest time staying w/in range. I have lost 8 lbs since the beginning of January so it's slowly coming off. You'll have down days or days when you think you can finally do that exercise you want & the baby decides otherwise. Very frustrating, but keep your chin up and hang in there. It went on in 10 months so give it that long to come off.
    1851 days ago
  • AGOY14
    I feel the exact same way! Right down to the self loathing. I keep telling myself that I did it twice before with this wieght loss stuff and I can do it again. Then I wake up, look in the mirror and want to curl up in to bed and cry...I can't with a 3month old, two yr old and eleven yr old, so I just watch my f'iance leave every day to go to work feeling like he will be happy to see a pretty face instead of my miserable chubby face. The feelings of being over wieght and what it does to you mentally self asteem wise are horrible aand I can not wait to look back in victory on this moment and take a deep breath. My man actually said something smart to me (yes a man -smart, lol) He told me to put on my blinders and stop doing what I was doing (I was looking at my two friends that were all ready skinny that just had babys only months before and now look even sninnier!) To use my blinders I have made a decision to stop going on to facebook at all..Its deppressing me! I tried not looking at the pics too tempting...Hopefully this is just what we need to feel, this crappy feeling is what is making us take the little steps that we are right now. Your on here so We just have to turn our little steps to bigger ones.. emoticon
    1851 days ago
    emoticon Have you been able to work with your doctor to identify any concerns? I nursed too and usually that helps with weight loss. I'm glad both you and your baby are healthy. emoticon Things will get better.
    1851 days ago
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