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I Have Come To A Realization - To Some It Maybe A Sad One For Me It's Not

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

After reading blog post here at Spark People I mad a realization about my own life. To some it maybe a sad one , but for me I'm okay with it and I am very content with my life.

What did I realize well the only way to put it I have NO LIFE to speak of emoticon . My days consist of going to work going to the gym back home and I spend way to much time here at Spark People. Some may find that a sad life - but you know what I never feel lonely or alone ( and I do think the 2 are different feeling lonely and being alone)

Friends not really any more my best friend moved back to her home state some years ago then 2 that I would hang out with passed away 3 years ago my other good friend she doesn't drive anymore due to illnesses doesn't have a phone or computer - with my car I don't trust to make the round trip to see her & her sister we write some times but she has limited eye sight. I don't hang with anyone I work with never mix business & pleasure bad medicine. Friends from church moved away.

So I spend so much time here at SP on teams that I am involved with. Strange isn't it? But I'm okay with it. I'm happy with my life and myself. Like I have stated before I am comfortable in my own skin for the very first time in many decades Life is good! So, yes I do not have a typical life but its okay with me as I chose to have my life this way. I'm so not into the drama that to many people can bring into ones life.

A little off topic now ( I tend to ramble) Casual travelers 5% is in full swing finishing up the first week here So thankful that the challenge started as I am back in the gym working regularly.

Spring Melt off Challenge is kicking in gear I'm trying to get myself organized for this one as well This round with Team Amethyst I was asked to be the extra team leader there as well .

New roles on both teams and I am hoping not to get confused on what is happening on each team Some times I'm a little bit of an AIR HEAD very comical at times if I do say so myself I amuse myself at times emoticon Wishing me luck to just stay on top of things and wishing a very active 2 challenges for me with lots of gym time. emoticon
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SCHNOOTIE 3/2/2013 10:53AM

    LOVED this blog post. We live in a new age, where luckily the internet has opened up a whole new world. We can connect to many more people who have the same ideas or goals and feelings as ourselves. I think that your life sounds great. You live much like myself. I enjoy every minute of it. I may seem like a social butterfly, but I have one great friend in the States and on great friend in Germany. Ta-da! My parents and sister are back in Germany, so I don't have a lot of contact. Just internet and phone. Getting involved in the Teams here has given me more friends and I am always surprised at the goodness of the people I meet here. They are much the same as me. They have real feelings, that are often misunderstood in the real world, and they have a lot of love and support to give. It is harder to see that in the people I actually meet on my job every day, but I always try to envision they go home and once the facade has fallen, they are just like the rest of us. Makes it much easier to understand them :) I hug you.

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_LINDA 3/1/2013 11:57PM

    Very interesting -this is a mirror of my life as well. I haven't had a friend to speak of since elementary school and was quite the loner. Sparkpeople has allowed me to meet many wonderful people and I spend all my online time here.
So nice to have crossed paths with you!
Good luck with your challenges!

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KANOE10 3/1/2013 8:56AM

    You are happy with your life. Good for you staying focused and healthy. Going to the gym is huge after you work! Getting support from Spark keeps you focused. Good luck on your challenges.

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TUBLADY 2/28/2013 7:38PM

    The most important sentence you wrote you are content. you are not lonely.
You are not isolated. You are very much involved with Spark. And I think that is wonderful. I wish I had more time for Spark. But I still work and have way too much running around some days.
If all you did was lay around and feel alone and depressed, that would be having no life.
When I was morbidly obese, at 335, I could hardly move. I couldn't walk. Hardly fit behind the steering wheel. Where would I go anyway. I hated the way I looked, the way I felt. That was not living., I had no life to speak of. . Of course now it's different. Today I am normal. I have rejoined the living and am forever grateful . Grateful to have Spark too. To correspond and inter- act with so many people all around the world.
As long as you are happy, it doesn't matter how you spend your time.
My best to you.
Keep on Sparking.
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LIVINGFREE19 2/28/2013 7:21PM

    Sounds like my life totally! i am happy with it this way, and it sounds like you are ok with it too.

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DSJB9999 2/28/2013 4:07PM

    Don't be too hard on yourself. I too am fairly happy with my life too!

Gym, work, children, hubbie. I am getting a grip on my eating too at last and hope to continue forever.

I don't have enough time to spark and only follow a couple of teams regularly but try to keep in touch with my spark friends (people I care about) like yourself, maybe only on a superficial level though but you are still special to me.

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DAN072254 2/28/2013 12:14PM

    If you are happy that is all that matters emoticon emoticon

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MLH148 2/28/2013 7:13AM

    Great job. Sitcom people on TV with their wonderful social circles are so not the norm. My husband and I had to drop something off at someone's house - can we just stop over? Of course, because they don't have what is perceived as " normal" social lives -- when, good or bad, WE are the norm these days.
Good luck with your teams- I appreciate how much work it is.

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SHRINKINGSHERI 2/28/2013 6:25AM

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POPSY190 2/27/2013 11:52PM

    Another only child, parents dead, here who thinks being alone can be wonderful. You can be awfully isolated in a crowd! And I love SP and have found some like-minded souls here. We are lucky in our local (subruban) library - it has a cafe in it, is home to a learning centre and service centre for the City Council. If you want company there is always someone there you know and who knows you. Or you can read, work on a computer and be left alone. Ideal! I think your life is more normal and in many ways "better" than that of those who are not happy unless in some group situation and equate being alone to being bored and unhappy as they have no inner resources. For me it's the emoticon .

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SHIRLEYX 2/27/2013 10:57PM

    It sounds like you are at peace with yourself and that is what matters. I'm very glad to have you as a Spark friend.

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MICKEYH 2/27/2013 8:45PM

    I can easily relate to you on this blog. To some it maybe a sad situation but not for me. I feel so much so. I am ok with it. And sometime I prefer by myself. I'm born as only one child and I really never leaned like having sister or brother. So I feel very comfortable by myself. I can entertain myself very well and I never felt lonely. One of your SP friend mention on her post that " I feel like I just don't have the time or energy to foster 'real life' friendships"
Some time I feel like her and I can relate to that too. I guess I am born loner. And I am happy.
But if you feel like having some company, I'll be glad to drive down to the gold cost to come see you. Lol)) (*^^*)

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TERESA159 2/27/2013 8:20PM

    Sounds like a normal life to me! You sound extremely involved, so what if it's online.
I only have a few friends here where I live and no one close by that I really think of as a good friend, closest one is 60 miles away. So, yeah, Spark and Facebook keep me in touch with many friends all over the world. Plus, I have my hubby and he's fun and let's me drag him to pretty much anything I want to do. And I totally agree on the work and home life boundary!
So stop saying you have NO LIFE, cuz you do. And if you want some new friends where you live, you just need to go out and find them.


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AWESOMECAROL55 2/27/2013 8:10PM

    My best friends are here on Spark people....I wouldn't trade that for anything! Thanks for sharing!

Carol

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BUSYMOM911 2/27/2013 7:55PM

    I definitely know the difference between being alone and being lonely. I am surrounded by people (kids), but am lonely. I wish I had a best friend to do things with. I really miss my mom. She was my best friend. My sister works all day, and lives a little too far away. People at church are acquaintances, and I don't work outside the home.
But like you, I enjoy Spark. I know I am where I am supposed to be.
I amglad that you found some great groups to be a part of.
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SLIMMINJENN 2/27/2013 7:45PM

    sounds like a normal life to me...i work and participate on here....i have given upn really every finding true friends...

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NGREGOR 2/27/2013 7:17PM

  LJR, I suspect your situation is much more normal than some of the life styles The Media depicts on tv. Mine was the same for 26+ yrs. Now that my kids are grown & husband passed away and I retired, friends and family would be no less than 140+ miles away. I never socialized with work friends until after we no longer worked together, but I don't see them more than once in 4-6 wks. Before I retired I started stopping at a local McD and met others who were long retired. It was interesting to again be the "baby" of the group. I see some combination of them a couple of times a week. Sometimes, though, I don't go out the door or turn on the tv for a couple of days and that is fine with me.

But if you do want some socialization try a local fast food establishment or coffee shop that is open beyond morning only hours or go on a Sat morning. Take a book or something to do and sooner or later you will connect to someone who is a "regular" and conversation will begin.
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MAMAJAHMAI 2/27/2013 7:11PM

    This is Life!!! A healthy, beautiful, purposeful life :) Glad to be sharing it with you!! ((Hugs)) I know you can handle the new responsibilities- cheering you on my friend emoticon

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AMYTRIPP 2/27/2013 6:51PM

    Good luck on staying on top of things!

My life is very much the same as yours. Work and then home to the family. I don't go out of my way to hang out with anyone, really, but that's the way I like it. My best friend is someone I know online (who I've met once in 'real life'). I like spending time with my husband, sons, and granddaughter as well as my mom and sisters. I'm happy with that. Sometimes I feel like I just don't have the time or energy to foster 'real life' friendships.

My last really good friend that I hung out with had gastric bypass and then turned into someone I don't feel I know anymore (and don't much want to know). The last time I took a day off from work to spend with her, I ended up feeling pretty low after because of the way she suddenly seemed to talk down to me and make fun of me. I don't get that many days off work, so it really irked me that I wasted one!!

So, yeah, I understand completely. And I'm with you on this! emoticon

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NANCYPAT1 2/27/2013 6:49PM

    What a wonderful post. I love it when someone posts something that positive - Thank you.

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