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Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Today is day 8 of my "on track" streak! (Previous streaks; 290 days, 13 days, and 53 days.)

I just read an article on People Online and I'm so furious! The article was written by a "celebrity trainer", judging the bodies of former Disney TV stars. Here is the link....and if People is smart, they will take the article down, because judging by the comments others have left, I'm not the only one who is angry about this article;


All of these beautiful young women being treated like cattle, being rated for their bodies and not their talent (or lack thereof.) Being judged by how they look and for how thin or not thin they are! Its so disgusting and so WRONG.

I'm not even a fan of Christina Aguilera, but what was said about her in this article just totally ticked me off....

"While I applaud her for embracing her body, I can't help but be a little skeptical. While she's definitely not grossly overweight, she doesn't look comfortable in her own skin like she did once upon a time. When Christina was in prime shape, she commanded attention and exuded confidence. What do you think? "

What do I think? I think its none of your business or mine to judge Christina Aguilera or anyone else for their body. Body shaming is NOT right! With articles like this being put out there, no wonder so many people are suffering from eating disorders and low self esteem!

We are more than just our bodies, you know. We are more than a dress size or a number on a scale. We are our hopes and our dreams. We are the love we give and receive. We are our talents and strengths. We are also our failures and weaknesses. But no one has the right to judge us for these things or for how we look! With articles like this, is it any surprise that Demi Lovato suffered from eating disorders?

My Spark friends all probably know that I really advocate loving yourself no matter what your weight is! Its okay to say "I want to lose weight" but its so important to love yourself NOW, not ten pounds from now. Lose the weight to be HEALTHY, but not so that you will love yourself more. Because if you don't love yourself now, you will never really love yourself, not even when you finally reach whatever size you are dreaming off.

Please, love yourself and your body no matter what size you are. Love yourself enough to treat your body with respect by feeding it healthy food and giving it exercise. You are worth it!

By the way, this is National Eating Disorders Awareness Week. Way to go with such a great article, People Magazine! (Sarcasm)

UPDATE: (Feb 28)
The writer of the People Online blog, Harley Pasternak, has added a message to People Online, here it is;

To those of you whom I offended in today's blog, I apologize. It was absolutely not my intention to do so.

In no way, shape or form do I think that a woman's value is determined by her weight. I was not commenting on these women's worth. Above all, I am an advocate for health. Health through diet, lifestyle, physical activity, and overall wellness. I am not an expert on self-worth or psychological well-being, i am an expert on nutrition and fitness, and in this blog, that is what I discuss weekly. Skinny does not equal healthy, and fat does not equal unhealthy, and neither can determine who you are as a person.
I understand the objection that many of you had that i commented on women that have never been clients of mine, and I can't help but agree with you. I should not have commented on people i don't know information about first hand.

As we all know, as a nation, we're out of shape, and my job is to help people be the healthiest versions o f themse lves through diet and exercise. But we're also a nation fighting eating disorders and body image issues, and I should be more sensitive to both issues.

Please accept my apologies.

In health,

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    Another awesome, thought provoking blog.

    Who are these people that think that they can sit there in judgement on someone because they don't meet the standard that that particular person has decided is the optimal one. Do they even meet their own standard? Not usually! What a horrible negative existence they must live to even be able to write such articles. How shallow to base their entire image of someone's worth by looking at their weight of all things. All I can think is that they must be pretty insecure people.

    Shame on us, and our culture for accepting such insanity. We ought to rise up and say that We Are Not Going To Take It Any More!!!!!!!
    1692 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    Awesome Blog!! I'm in complete agreement with you. Stuff like that has no place in our Society. I have a very hard time trying to love my body. We need articles that teaches us how to love and care for bodies.
    Love the Pictures too. God Blessings to You and Everyone. Have a Super Great Day. Take Care. Hugs!!!!
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    Comment edited on: 2/28/2013 4:12:05 AM
    1692 days ago
    Thank you for this!
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  • 123456789100
    Good for you! Wonderful blog!
    1692 days ago
    Good blog!
    1692 days ago
    You are absolutely right...we should love ourselves at any size because that is who we are. And we need to want to take care of ourselves.
    That being said, the one thing the article DID get right was Lindsay Lohan...I was surprised that she was only 26...I guess that's another consequence of being on a self destruct spiral...it ages you fast.

    Keep Sparkling...You Inspire Us...thanks

    1692 days ago
  • SLACHETKA103145
    Thanks for the thought-provoking while inspiring Blog!!!!

    I grew up when Barbie was introduced and have hated the what she has done to and what she is to young girls ever sense!

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    1692 days ago
    Wow Pixie, that is a great blog. Well said......and I agree
    1692 days ago
    Thanks for this blog. It is an ongoing fight with my brain to love myself. I win some days. emoticon
    1692 days ago
    Great blog, great inspiration.
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    Outrageous. Simply outrageous. I hate that people's bodies, particularly women's (but men's too) are apparently a perfectly legit topic for gossipmongers or whoever else to critique and write about as if they have an intimate understanding of that person's health through looking at a few photos of them (or even being their trainer, since it sounds like this Harley person is an idiot of a "trainer" based on some of the comments under the article"). Every single one of those women has a perfectly lovely body and as you say, it's none of our damn business anyway.
    1692 days ago
    I think we need to stop bullying of any kind!
    1692 days ago
    I agree with you. No one has right to talk about the person's body. Thank you for sharing.

    1692 days ago
    Great blog and I sooo agree!
    1692 days ago
    I so agree with you. Love the pic's to
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    emoticon emoticon emoticon I battled an eating disorder for years and I am grateful to you for bringing this to our attention and reminding everyone about National Eating Disorder Awareness Week. emoticon
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  • ZIGGY122
    emoticon I totally agree with you emoticon
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  • GLORYB83
    Excellent blog Pixie, really well written.
    I looked at that link and agree . . . what a shallow way to look at women! We are not cattle to be judged, we are humans and we come in all shapes and sizes!
    I am not sitting, waiting to be my ideal weight . . . I love myself NOW!
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    1692 days ago
    You rock Pixie. It's so true - the objectification of women and unrealistic standards have caused all kinds of issues for me and other women for their entire lives. You are so right that we need to love ourselves now, no matter what. From there, good health will come.

    Of course, I need to love myself by taking better care of myself too...day one again tomorrow. Sigh.
    1692 days ago
    It's refreshing to read your view on this - thanks for encouraging us to love our bodies. I find it hard, but I'm starting by being very grateful for mine and all that it does.
    1692 days ago
    Great blog, Pixie!!! I couldn't agree with your more.
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    In our shallow culture, so much emphasis is placed on physical beauty... AND there is not much emphasis on honor, virtue, integrity, charity, kindness, courage, etc
    Sad indeed, our young people are learning such "messed up" values!!
    We need a revolution where qualities of mankind are praised and commended..!!
    Walk through a nursing home and visit the elderly... You will see wrinkled faces and hands...bodies in wheelchairs (as your blog, Pixie), humped shoulders, and many indviduals with confused minds--- BUT if these people live with integrity and virtue, they are tremendous individuals of dignity!
    Personally, I pity the "Hollywood starlets" --and -those obsessed with perfect bodies.
    They have so much to learn. . . Thanks, Pixie, for your passion and wisdom!
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  • PHOENIX1949
    emoticon I especially love the lady in the wheelchair with the ballerina shadow.
    1692 days ago
    That is a very infuriating article. What gives them the right to talk about somebody else's weight.
    1692 days ago
    Well Done Pixie. I'm off to read the article. emoticon
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  • DONNA5281
    I just read the article, I would love to go rip their heads off. They shouldn't be talking about peoples weight, etc.

    Your blog is emoticon .

    I'm with you all the way!
    1693 days ago
    Great post as always I am in agreement with you body shaming is wrong in fact I have found it has the opposite affect There are those who think if they put shame on you you will go ahead and lose weight. I've been there and you know what I did I put on an extra 20 pounds just to show them. My showing them only hurt me which I did not realize after many years of looking back

    I wish more people would realize negative criticism never helps.
    1693 days ago
    So true. I am so tired of people criticizing each other because we are different. It's amazing how many insecure adults there are in this world that can only feel better about themselves when they criticize others that aren't like them. And it's sad because teenagers and children see how adults act and they are acting the same way towards their peers.

    I realize that there is some concern when it comes to public health and obesity, but embarrassing or criticizing someone is not going to solve anything. We don't call out people with learning disabilities in classrooms and ridicule them and laugh at them hoping that will "fix the problem", do we? Parents would be outraged. So why is it any different when it comes to obesity?
    1693 days ago
    I love your blog and this reminds of why I love you so! You so often lift us up. I know that I'm chubby but I'm beginning to love myself for who I am. My husband and family and relatives and friends and even people that don't even really know me, love me and I feel so thankful for that. When I was at my heaviest of 232# of a 5'1" body frame, I appeared to be cheerful and loving and so happy always. Even when I was crying inside. But most of the time I still loved myself and do all the more now, just because I'm taking care of my body more and I know that we have to love ourselves first to love others. I try to look on others for who they are and not by their body size. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Just like that song from the 70's I think. "Everything is beautiful, in it's own way......" I love it then and will always. I'll look up that article and will probably not be happy too. emoticon
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    I believe that more of us are realizing that self-body image and self-worth are very important. The media is becoming better at this than say 10 yrs ago as more people embrace the truth of it, but they still have a long way to go. I'm inspired as I see more young people joining groups that celebrate our differences and our unique value. That gives me hope for the future. Let's keep it going!
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    1693 days ago
    Good for you Pixie. I believe you are telling it like it is. Others who are so inclined should have no fear and follow suite. There is more than enough self esteem issues and anorexia without people piling on. emoticon
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    Love the picture of the lady in the wheelchair and the little ballerinas.
    Agree with your message and also enjoyed the other photos.
    1693 days ago
    Good for you. It's bad enough we judge ourselves so unfairly, but society as a whole judges us as well. We have been taught early on what we are "supposed" to look like and the consequences of not living up to that standard. Thank you for sharing another great topic.
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    Great blog! Great insight and inspiration for all of us! emoticon
    1693 days ago
    What a great post, and I totally agree, although the person I judge the most is myself, not others.
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    Comment edited on: 2/27/2013 4:12:33 PM
    I LOVE the pictures in this one! Thank you, Pixie, for inspiring us with your words! You are amazing!!!
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    1693 days ago
    Thanks Pixie for this blog.
    I agree with all you said.
    For a large part of my life I was judged for my body size.
    It does leave scars.
    I don't want others to have these scars and memories....
    every person is unique and a child of God. We all
    should be appreciated.
    ....And loved.
    1693 days ago
    i think articles like that is what is wrong with society today.
    A woman can go all day thinking she is beautiful and then turn on the tv and see a skinny little thing like those girls and people calling them not fit.
    In the real world we dont have millions of dollars for the things they have to stay a size 0
    not one of those girls in those photos are a healthy realistic size.
    I bet not even one of them is over 130lbs and
    MOST people I know weigh a lot more than that and its junk like this that makes them feel less than they should.
    i do not like tv or garbage like this.
    nowdays people think Marilyn Monroe was fat. look at her. she is a *normal* size.
    most people i know are even heavier than she was. and according to my weight chart I should be at 120lbs I WILL NEVER be that thin. I never want to be. Im 5'6 I would be a skeleton. I would rather look like Marilyn Monroe and be realistic.
    Besides you are right. Only God can judge us and loving who you are. that is what is important. Media needs to find something better to do, like eat a doughnut, then they wouldnt be so grumpy
    1693 days ago
    You truly are motivating. It's funny how God always sends me the messages I need from friends along the way. Thank you for posting this - I needed it today!
    1693 days ago
    Pixie, this one was simply amazing!! Couldn't agree more..one of my nieces has been in and out of the hospital for the last 9 months dealing with anorexia. It's a horrible disease and articles like this help to perpetuate it. People should be ashamed!
    Love your pictures, they are awesome!!! Thank you so much for sharing!
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    1693 days ago
    I'm in agreement with you. I get mad when people judge others because of their body size. I know I didn't need to hear it. I hated myself enough already. And they don't need to hear it either. They need love.
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