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No Body Shaming!


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Wednesday, February 27, 2013



Today is day 8 of my "on track" streak! (Previous streaks; 290 days, 13 days, and 53 days.)

I just read an article on People Online and I'm so furious! The article was written by a "celebrity trainer", judging the bodies of former Disney TV stars. Here is the link....and if People is smart, they will take the article down, because judging by the comments others have left, I'm not the only one who is angry about this article;

www.people.com/people/ar
ticle/0,,20677422,00.html


All of these beautiful young women being treated like cattle, being rated for their bodies and not their talent (or lack thereof.) Being judged by how they look and for how thin or not thin they are! Its so disgusting and so WRONG.



I'm not even a fan of Christina Aguilera, but what was said about her in this article just totally ticked me off....

"While I applaud her for embracing her body, I can't help but be a little skeptical. While she's definitely not grossly overweight, she doesn't look comfortable in her own skin like she did once upon a time. When Christina was in prime shape, she commanded attention and exuded confidence. What do you think? "

What do I think? I think its none of your business or mine to judge Christina Aguilera or anyone else for their body. Body shaming is NOT right! With articles like this being put out there, no wonder so many people are suffering from eating disorders and low self esteem!

We are more than just our bodies, you know. We are more than a dress size or a number on a scale. We are our hopes and our dreams. We are the love we give and receive. We are our talents and strengths. We are also our failures and weaknesses. But no one has the right to judge us for these things or for how we look! With articles like this, is it any surprise that Demi Lovato suffered from eating disorders?



My Spark friends all probably know that I really advocate loving yourself no matter what your weight is! Its okay to say "I want to lose weight" but its so important to love yourself NOW, not ten pounds from now. Lose the weight to be HEALTHY, but not so that you will love yourself more. Because if you don't love yourself now, you will never really love yourself, not even when you finally reach whatever size you are dreaming off.



Please, love yourself and your body no matter what size you are. Love yourself enough to treat your body with respect by feeding it healthy food and giving it exercise. You are worth it!










By the way, this is National Eating Disorders Awareness Week. Way to go with such a great article, People Magazine! (Sarcasm)

UPDATE: (Feb 28)
The writer of the People Online blog, Harley Pasternak, has added a message to People Online, here it is;

To those of you whom I offended in today's blog, I apologize. It was absolutely not my intention to do so.

In no way, shape or form do I think that a woman's value is determined by her weight. I was not commenting on these women's worth. Above all, I am an advocate for health. Health through diet, lifestyle, physical activity, and overall wellness. I am not an expert on self-worth or psychological well-being, i am an expert on nutrition and fitness, and in this blog, that is what I discuss weekly. Skinny does not equal healthy, and fat does not equal unhealthy, and neither can determine who you are as a person.
I understand the objection that many of you had that i commented on women that have never been clients of mine, and I can't help but agree with you. I should not have commented on people i don't know information about first hand.

As we all know, as a nation, we're out of shape, and my job is to help people be the healthiest versions o f themse lves through diet and exercise. But we're also a nation fighting eating disorders and body image issues, and I should be more sensitive to both issues.

Please accept my apologies.

In health,

HarleyPasternak
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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
KARRENLYNN 2/28/2013 9:50AM

    I agree with you. Great response Pixie.


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KANDOLAKER 2/28/2013 9:47AM

    Awesome blog and so very true. Thanks for standing up for the truth!!

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NEWCHINELO 2/28/2013 9:44AM

    Thanks for enlightening me once more!

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KACEYSW 2/28/2013 9:43AM

    Aggravated Ignorance exists in all areas of life. It is a sad fact and you are absolutely correct to call People out on that issue. Good for you for bringing it to the center of attention.

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AKATHLEEN54 2/28/2013 9:42AM

    Great blog Pixie. I am glad to see that the writer at least realized his mistake and apologized. I totally think that is why girls/women these days have such a poor body image. There is too much public influence on your appearance. Young girls see all of those "air-brushed" perfect images of their "idols" in magazines and "made-up" stars on TV and they think that is what everyone is suppose to look like. That's no even close to being real. Being real is being healthy (maybe even with a few extra pounds on) and being happy and being the you that YOU want to be!! emoticon

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CC3833 2/28/2013 9:35AM

    You are totally right! I wrote a blog about negative talk as well. It just doesn't work! I hope that if enough of us sparkers write blogs about this is will make a difference! Go US and our bodies!!!!

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NICOLED40 2/28/2013 9:33AM

    Great blog! This is something that I, along with many others, struggle with daily. Glad you called out the entertainment industry on this for perpetuating these myths!

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GIRLINMOTION 2/28/2013 9:30AM

    Right on!

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LEIAWINS 2/28/2013 9:28AM

    thanks for sharing this truth!!!!!! You're so right!!!!

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WEEPINGANGEL74 2/28/2013 9:23AM

    Skimmed the article. ... he praises his clients, disses those who aren't. High class guy.....not!

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MSCARCHICK 2/28/2013 9:09AM

    Thank you for this wonderful reminder!

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SIMPLYABUNDANT 2/28/2013 9:00AM

    Great blog, Pixie!

Hollywood and all the celebrity-worship in our culture is sad. The priorities are so out of whack. Not only does it contribute to unrealistic, negative body images, but they put the same kind of negative twist on age. In order to stay employable in the entertainment industry, people (esp. women) feel they must be stick thin and have any number of cosmetic procedures done to acquire or keep a certain look. And yet those same magazines often make fun of celebrities who have had cosmetic surgery, esp. if the result is less than appealing. It's a whole no-win world, and the worst part of it is that, because of the influence of the media, it has crept past Hollywood and into the heartland of our country. The whole focus becomes on the externals ~ how someone looks and how many things they can buy with the money they have.

We have a long way to go in terms of self-acceptance and redefining beauty so that it embraces all shapes, sizes, races, culture, and ages. True beauty is always an outward reflection of the beauty in one's spirit. Keep on keeping this message front and center!
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HLOCHRIDGE 2/28/2013 8:58AM

    Thank you so much for this post! You are so right!

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DJSHIP46 2/28/2013 8:49AM

    Thanks beautiful lady!!!

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INGMARIE 2/28/2013 8:25AM

    Ah, yes , "nail on the head" and all that, you are right .
Seems this guy is a bit judgemental and intolerant of people who do not work out at his place?
anyway , we need to accept others and love them and ourselves and not worry too much
about what "the trend' is.
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KIMBERLYA77 2/28/2013 8:22AM

    This is so beautiful I love how you laid out the facts and the posters were wonderful.

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NIKKIJ55 2/28/2013 8:18AM

    So true. Thanks for sharing

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KATHIC2 2/28/2013 8:18AM

  Love your values!

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MIMIDOT 2/28/2013 8:15AM

    Right on! Great blog! Thanks for sharing.

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MINDY502 2/28/2013 8:10AM

    Great blog you sure hit the nail on the head. While I havent read the article you posted about it is everywhere every single day in your face as you stand in line at the checkout at the grocery store. I think there are far better things in this world that demand our attention besides what so and so's body looks like or what the world concieves as beautiful! I always love reading your blogs and while I struggle with loving myself where I am at sometimes and you always have a message that tells me otherwise and you are right if I cant love myself now I will never be satisfied. You are beautiful inside and out and thanks for sharing! Keep on sparking!

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BROOKLYN_BORN 2/28/2013 8:10AM

    Right on! I'm so happy you included the last image. Too often I've heard negative nasty comments from heavier women about those who weigh less. For example, "men don't like bony women." That was a post right here on SP. We have to respect each other with ALL our different body types.

Edit: I just actually read the article. While I still object vehemently to judging women on their bodies, the author is commenting on how "fit" they are, what they eat, how they work out etc. I expected one of those "rate a woman from 1 to 10" garbage articles. People.com isn't the best place for healthy lifestyle advice, no matter how it's presented.

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IDICEM 2/28/2013 8:03AM

  Great post! Good luck on your "on track" streak.

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MOMMY445 2/28/2013 7:59AM

    what a great blog,Pixie! have a wonderful day!

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JENNIEQKA 2/28/2013 7:48AM

    Awesome blog! And an awesome point! We deserve to love ourselves fully and only one person can judge us - the Creator! emoticon emoticon

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IACTA_ALEA_EST 2/28/2013 7:38AM

    Today might as well be the day to start or continue loving ourselves.

Happy sparking!!!!

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ONEKIDSMOM 2/28/2013 7:25AM

    Complete agreement from this Sparker! Well said, and thanks for saying it, and even better, thanks to all who make blogs like this "featured".

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JSALERNO 2/28/2013 7:15AM

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WISDOM73 2/28/2013 7:12AM

    Dear Pixie, thank you for the beautiful pictures on your blog. I especially am fond of the one with the old woman. Women are bombarded with many outward expectations about how they should look and behave. Self-Love is the most important thing in life. It determines everything else. Thank you for reminding me to love myself now! Have a wonderful day. emoticon

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PENOWOK 2/28/2013 7:11AM

    I agree with you...I didn't peek at the article yet, but I have seen pictures of Ms. Aguilera and she doesn't look as confident. She's had plenty of bad stuff happen to her along the way... It's sad that we so over-expose these people and when they change one tiny thing the whole world has to know. On the flip side, when I look at SP postings and new photos, it is evident when people are happier with themselves and you are a case in point. Your picture changed dramatically!! You are a great example! BTW-I love the picture of the woman in the wheelchair and one of the two little girls!

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JANEMARIE77 2/28/2013 7:09AM

    sticks and stones and I'm sure all those things said where things that went through those women heads all on there own they are women after all
I try and work with this quote give it a try
It's not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life, it's what you whisper to yourself that has the most power.
Robert Y Kiyosaki
Yes it not right but we only take things in if its something that we don't like about ourselves work to be done?

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OFGREENGABLES 2/28/2013 7:08AM

    thanks for sharing!

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THEIS58 2/28/2013 6:49AM

    Wow.

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GRUMBLEGIRL 2/28/2013 6:40AM

    Say it sister!! You always find the best images.

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OLIVIANIGHT 2/28/2013 6:25AM

    Although it's a terrible article, at least it proves that there ARE people out there who don't buy into the whole rating people according to their size thing. Love some of the comments.

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STARDUST2K4 2/28/2013 5:49AM

    Great blog! The theme of the article is unfortunately not unique. There is an unrealistic standard of beauty that no woman can ever attain, and even if by some chance she does, there will be something else to criticize her for.
I remember thinking I was fat when I was 5. I know for a fact that mass media had something to do with that. This is an awesome reminder that this 'system' consisting of advertising and mass communication will always be out there messing with our heads.

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SWTLDY 2/28/2013 5:47AM

    Wow, what a wonderful blog. You are so right. You have to love yourself first!! no matter what you look like on the outside, you have to love YOU!! Then, as you put it, lose weight to be healthy. emoticon

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TRYINGHARD54 2/28/2013 5:46AM

    if these woman are stupid enough to take it then what do you do? id never allow myslef to be put down like that.....soooooooooo sad......its just plain stupid!!
and it makse me angry also.. can you tell ? lol

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LOLABLACK69 2/28/2013 5:27AM

    Wow, this is definitely the new level of body shaming I've seen.
I've read the article, and I couldn't believe that someone actually posted that (never mind the freak who wrote it). I think it's just because of people like that that I've felt ashamed of myself, and sad, and had low, lower ant lowest self-esteem my whole life. It's come to that, that I'm now sick of myself when I have about 10 kilograms more than I should and I feel like I'm huge and ugly, and I don't believe my boyfriend when he tells me that I'm beautiful. I just can't! No wonder, with people and opinions like that.

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You nailed it. What a great blog.

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GENEVIE5 2/28/2013 5:21AM

    Great Blog! Makes you stop & think!

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DAPPLE3 2/28/2013 5:18AM

    So very true! I always say....You con't love someone else completely without loving your self first!

Thanks for reminding us us of our true value and worth!
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SPARKL3 2/28/2013 5:03AM

    Excellent, excellent blog!

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LRSILVER 2/28/2013 4:43AM

    Great blog. Keep it up. So true. emoticon

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