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Wednesday, February 27, 2013



Today is day 8 of my "on track" streak! (Previous streaks; 290 days, 13 days, and 53 days.)

I just read an article on People Online and I'm so furious! The article was written by a "celebrity trainer", judging the bodies of former Disney TV stars. Here is the link....and if People is smart, they will take the article down, because judging by the comments others have left, I'm not the only one who is angry about this article;

www.people.com/people/ar
ticle/0,,20677422,00.html


All of these beautiful young women being treated like cattle, being rated for their bodies and not their talent (or lack thereof.) Being judged by how they look and for how thin or not thin they are! Its so disgusting and so WRONG.



I'm not even a fan of Christina Aguilera, but what was said about her in this article just totally ticked me off....

"While I applaud her for embracing her body, I can't help but be a little skeptical. While she's definitely not grossly overweight, she doesn't look comfortable in her own skin like she did once upon a time. When Christina was in prime shape, she commanded attention and exuded confidence. What do you think? "

What do I think? I think its none of your business or mine to judge Christina Aguilera or anyone else for their body. Body shaming is NOT right! With articles like this being put out there, no wonder so many people are suffering from eating disorders and low self esteem!

We are more than just our bodies, you know. We are more than a dress size or a number on a scale. We are our hopes and our dreams. We are the love we give and receive. We are our talents and strengths. We are also our failures and weaknesses. But no one has the right to judge us for these things or for how we look! With articles like this, is it any surprise that Demi Lovato suffered from eating disorders?



My Spark friends all probably know that I really advocate loving yourself no matter what your weight is! Its okay to say "I want to lose weight" but its so important to love yourself NOW, not ten pounds from now. Lose the weight to be HEALTHY, but not so that you will love yourself more. Because if you don't love yourself now, you will never really love yourself, not even when you finally reach whatever size you are dreaming off.



Please, love yourself and your body no matter what size you are. Love yourself enough to treat your body with respect by feeding it healthy food and giving it exercise. You are worth it!










By the way, this is National Eating Disorders Awareness Week. Way to go with such a great article, People Magazine! (Sarcasm)

UPDATE: (Feb 28)
The writer of the People Online blog, Harley Pasternak, has added a message to People Online, here it is;

To those of you whom I offended in today's blog, I apologize. It was absolutely not my intention to do so.

In no way, shape or form do I think that a woman's value is determined by her weight. I was not commenting on these women's worth. Above all, I am an advocate for health. Health through diet, lifestyle, physical activity, and overall wellness. I am not an expert on self-worth or psychological well-being, i am an expert on nutrition and fitness, and in this blog, that is what I discuss weekly. Skinny does not equal healthy, and fat does not equal unhealthy, and neither can determine who you are as a person.
I understand the objection that many of you had that i commented on women that have never been clients of mine, and I can't help but agree with you. I should not have commented on people i don't know information about first hand.

As we all know, as a nation, we're out of shape, and my job is to help people be the healthiest versions o f themse lves through diet and exercise. But we're also a nation fighting eating disorders and body image issues, and I should be more sensitive to both issues.

Please accept my apologies.

In health,

HarleyPasternak
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CATNCAG 10/14/2013 3:09PM

    WOW - Way to go Pixie! I am impressed with his apology aren't u?
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SUPERSYLPH 7/27/2013 10:53AM

    Great blog and great apology! I wasn't expecting a real apology! Yay!

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MAD_WRITER_TAL 6/11/2013 9:40AM

    glad I read this today. Its amazing how thoughtless someone can be on the internet--I mean, its horrible. I was never a big Disney person and still flip past the channel as fast as I can, but honestly, you just shouldn't bring something like that up. its like the friend who blabs what they really think about you behind your back to everybody else--not cool.

You had good, intelligent rebuttal, and it was refreshing to read a thought-out indignant response to the thoughtless people post.

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MARYGOLD5 3/11/2013 11:48AM

    Thank you for a wonderful blog. I agree that we are much more than a number on a scale or how other people perceive us based on our body size or shape. Loving ourselves is more important. emoticon

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TORIAMAE 3/8/2013 4:57PM

    Thanks so much for drawing attention to this! Body shaming has got to go!

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WOLFKITTY 3/8/2013 9:44AM

    :)

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MONTREAL12 3/7/2013 2:50PM

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EFFRAYECHILDE 3/5/2013 9:27AM

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L1ZB3TH354 3/5/2013 1:48AM

    Awesome blog Pixie!

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JELLYBELLY221 3/4/2013 10:37AM

    I strongly agree with aiming for health and not letting a number on a scale or the size of your clothes define who you are.

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BLESSEDBEING 3/4/2013 12:19AM

    emoticon about-face & public apology by that author! Thanks for the update on that. And kudos to all who blasted the original article!

emoticon for many of those inspiring graphics you shared along with your passionate words. I often make the same points, and feel just as passionately about the need to love ourselves *as we are* and to make positive changes out of that love, because we deserve to be healthy, energetic and full of joy and freedom.

Fantastic blog, Sparky! Blessed Be, Amanda emoticon

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SUETINGE 3/2/2013 1:00PM

    Great blog!

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DEE797 3/2/2013 10:05AM

    Terrific blog!

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BANNERMAN 3/2/2013 3:13AM

  Thanks for speaking up.

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BECCABOO127 3/1/2013 10:19PM

    Right on!

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ABETTERBETTY 3/1/2013 8:43PM

    Great blog!

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LISA_FRAME 3/1/2013 7:58PM

  great post

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DESCHROMA 3/1/2013 7:16PM

    Rock on! Totally agree and thrilled to see others spreading this message. :D

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MITCHARVEY 3/1/2013 9:38AM

    I totally agree with you. I work in the recreation center and a large university and i have so many students that struggle with body image. We decided to do a Love your Body Campaign to try to encourage people to have a better self image. Here is a link to one of our videos if you are interested:
http://www.youtube.c
om/watch?v=GBVyACxCRks

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BUSMOM27 3/1/2013 8:33AM

    I love all the pictures/encouraging phrases.

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LEANMEAN2 3/1/2013 6:56AM

    I love the pictures. Thanks.

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CHRISTINASP 3/1/2013 3:41AM

    "Love yourself enough to treat your body with respect by feeding it healthy food and giving it exercise. You are worth it!"
Thank you for saying that. I am putting it on my page as a reminder!

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PCASEY7 2/28/2013 11:05PM

    Sounds like People listened to you, good work!

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JERICHO1991 2/28/2013 10:47PM

    I will love myself. Thanks.

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MISSLISA1973 2/28/2013 9:58PM

    Super-great blog, Pixie. So glad he saw the error of his ways!

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ANTBEF 2/28/2013 9:25PM

  Great blog and great comments !!!

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JAMER123 2/28/2013 9:22PM

    People Magazine as well as other writings love to focus on the "skinny" body. As most of us know when you are over weight, you are most often looked down upon. Until society changes their attitude on body size, it is our responsibility to love ourselves & others. This doesn't help anyone to focus on health, just waist size and weight!!

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KLEMIE 2/28/2013 8:53PM

    Thanks for this blog. It took me a lonnng time, but I finally like me. I am buying clothes that are flattering now, instead of big and baggie. My husband always told me that the baggie clothes made me look bigger, but I didn't believe him. I just needed to feel good about myself, REGARDLESS of my size.

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BARB5970 2/28/2013 8:53PM

    Love this blog. Especially the motivational photos included. I feel as strongly as you do about the way women view themselves. When I was a young girl, my own mother told me "men don't like fat girls, you'll never find a husband". When someone who supposedly loves you and should want the best for you tells you something like that, it gets burned into your soul. I've hated how my body looks for so many years. Have been told "you have such a pretty face, if you only lost weight...." I wish people knew how much those comments hurt and how much it effected my whole life. Luckily, my mother was wrong. I found a wonderful husband and he loves me no matter what size I am. As a matter a fact, I've noticed most people I meet seem to really like me, and there's no judgement from them. I am the one who judges most harshly. I really need to learn to be kinder to myself. This blog was a great reminder. Thanks for sharing.

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LPARKER75 2/28/2013 8:50PM

    Yeah, why is it that women are always targeted for articles like this? When do you ever see an article written about men and their bodies and how they look related to their popularity or anything in that relm? It sucks that women are expected to be hour-glass figures in order to be worthy of any sort of praise. And I'm tired of men who say that women aren't treated any differently then men, bull crud!

It's hard to feel worthy of love when your boyfriend has posters of models posted up in his tool boxes and if you find it offensive then he shames you as a jealous person. I wonder how men would feel if women used sexy men to sell make-up or jewelry and gave away speedo men calendars and had pin up men in their jewelry boxes. It's ridiculous when 40 year old men act like teenage boys.

No wonder it's so difficult to feel love for myself or to feel as if I deserve love from anyone else... this is the society I grew up in and live in every day. This is why this issue is one that plagues women, one that men cannot relate to because they rarely experience it themselves.



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LYNETTEMOM 2/28/2013 8:48PM

    very thought-provoking

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SHOAPIE 2/28/2013 8:16PM

    Thanks

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    Thank you for the blog. It brought home some negative times I had in the past by being judged by my appearance. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JANAMP09 2/28/2013 8:02PM

    Thanks

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SHANNONY84 2/28/2013 7:56PM

    I love this blog! I hate how woman are portrayed in tv, media, movies, internet, and magazines... Not all woman are small. And it makes me sick to think of the images these designers are trying to push... The opinions others place... And the lack of respect behind it all!

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BONIFIANT 2/28/2013 7:46PM

    Absolutely loved the graphic of the elderly woman seeing herself as a beautiful dancing princess. Great glog

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JUNEAU2010 2/28/2013 7:02PM

    The article dealt with the superficiality of looks in a painful way and I am not sure the apology is sufficient, but, I also can spend my energy on other things (for me). However, if my very young niece were to see this, I am sure I would have a much stronger response!

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LESLIESENIOR 2/28/2013 6:21PM

    Bravo. Thank you for this.
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