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Time's up on the Pity Party.

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

I talked about my motherís timed pity parties in a blog awhile ago. Basically you got 2 minutes on the microwave time to have your pity party and then you had to suck it up and do something about the problem. Iím certain my mom understood that some things take longer than 2-5 minutes (I got 5 minutes once when I caught my prom date with a cheerleader). But Iím certain the timer never went for 4 DAYS - let alone for the last month.

Iíve been wallowing in my misery. Yeah, really great way to get over/through it Ė cover yourself! emoticon I don't know why all this came to me this am, maybe because enough is enough. Well, no matter the fact is time to BEEP!

There isn't anything I can do about the money situation. It is what it is. I just have to hope things can hold while I save. Nothing more to do, so move on.

Boy child is home with the hubby and on restriction. We had another long talk last night and all I can do is try to find a way to get through to him. I love him and am not giving up. I know he wants to "do good" (his words). We'll get there, I just have to be more creative than other parents. I can do that.

Foodtopia is CLOSED! Good grief - my diet has been insane. No wonder I feel like crap - you are what you eat! My tummy is going on restriction!

I have a daily exercise sheet and I have to do it. No more excuses. Yeah, I'm tried and feel crappy. I'm eating junk and sitting on my arse! Gee Kitty, doesn't take a brain surgeon to figure this one out. And no more excused about being a weather wimp. Yes, I get sore faster in the cold. So I do 1 or 2 miles instead of 3 or 4. Not 4 or nothing! Good grief.

I know I've said this over and over and over this winter but I'm getting back up. There are problems I can solve and I need to solve those and get them out of my way. There are problems I need to work on and I kind of know what to do so I just need to get on it. And there are problems that I'm just stuck with, well no sense spinning my wheels - I need to find a coping method and just deal.

Hmm - walking? running? dancing like a fool? Yep, those should do. Can't solve anything if I'm not moving forward.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MERRY_XMAS 3/2/2013 5:49AM

    One of my common pieces of advice is "not to worry about the problems you cannot solve".

Your diet is a problem of your own and only you can make it go away emoticon

You have done an amazing job so far, it's nice to read that you getting back to your old "new" self!


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SOULFISH80 3/1/2013 1:30PM

    I like this attitude. I've had year long pity parties before, and I can safely say, that gets you nowhere fast! You sound like a real problem solver, with great focus. Money, bleh!!! Never enough, but who says we have to cry in the rainy times of life. I think it takes less energy to just rant, kick, then smile and move on. And I'm with ridmycacoon, let that freak flag go wild......that is moving forward in the best possible way!! Luvins and hugs.

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SOULFISH80 3/1/2013 12:46AM

    I like this attitude. I've had year long pity parties before, and I can safely say, that gets you nowhere fast! You sound like a real problem solver, with great focus. Money, bleh!!! Never enough, but who says we have to cry in the rainy times of life. I think it takes less energy to just rant, kick, then smile and move on. And I'm with ridmycacoon, let that freak flag go wild......that is moving forward in the best possible way!! Luvins and hugs.

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2BDYNAMIC 2/28/2013 9:07PM

    Definitely a new spin on pity parties! ............. emoticon ........... If I catch myself getting in a funky mood, I may just have to set the timer!! emoticon
and emoticon for sharing!

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EVER-HOPEFUL 2/28/2013 8:57AM

    emoticon sorry my head is too mucky to answer how i should,will get back when i feel better int the mean time emoticon

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CELESTE_B 2/28/2013 5:52AM

    emoticon I so understand the money part of life....and things you can't control. And yup, you sometimes just need to have a good pity party and sometimes it really does take longer than 2 minutes. Sometimes, it needs a great kickboxing workout....or just a great outdoors kind of walk...but the best think you did was write it down so it doesn't just swim in your head with no where to go.

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GMO_JEN 2/28/2013 12:52AM

    Its hard to put a timer on pity, but your mom had something there! Maybe a good wallow followed by action can help. I'm still in the bkah's, but making myself move forward no matter what. And, 1mile in cold weather is huge. You can do it :)

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CASEYQC 2/28/2013 12:14AM

    Wow you sound like me except I am still in my funk but I am working on getting out of it.
I relate with the money problems, I think that is what put me into this to start with.
I don't have any young ones home anymore but the adult ones give me alot of stress. i worry about them all the time.
My eating has been so bad, and like you said, no wonder I feel the way I do. I have been feeding my body nothing but junk.

I think I can see the end of the tunnel and see light up ahead. Thanks for posting this and showing me that I am not the only one who is feeling this way.

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JUMPINJULIE 2/27/2013 10:17PM

    You can do it. Timed pity parties sound good to me.

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MJREIMERS 2/27/2013 8:29PM

    I think a timed pity party is a great idea! I may have to do this in front of my family! As for the rest of the stuff you are dealing with....Hang in there!!! You are a strong person and you can "do this." Easy no, but you've got this! emoticon

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RIDMYCOCOON 2/27/2013 7:25PM

    I AM ALL ABOUT DANCING LIKE A FOOL!! Crank it up and let your freak flag fly! emoticon

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CATHYGETSFIT 2/27/2013 7:15PM

    emoticon Take it one day and one problem at a time and you'll get through it.

I've heard of others talk about the two minute pity party before. Your pity party is over with, now it's time to get back on track! emoticon

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TAMELA_B 2/27/2013 5:49PM

    I have been on my butt this week too, so I will follow your good example. Moving forward, starting NOW!


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LESLIELENORE 2/27/2013 5:02PM

    You are amazing, awesome, and wonderful!

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LIVINGFREE19 2/27/2013 4:52PM

    2 minutes for a pity party is not long at all! LOL! I know I have way over extended myself many times.

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HOPEFULHIPPO 2/27/2013 4:21PM

    sweetie, you and I are in the same boat. Excuses excuses.
Boy child....wouldn't be a teen near 15 would he? LOL
Money, girl my hubby just lost his job. I know about $$

I guess what I'm trying to say is, when you think things are tough look are so not alone hun. Its tough out there and we will all get through this. You can use my shoulder to lean on if ya'd like! :p

Now, about our food and exercise. I need to quit drinking my calories so goodbye coffee/creamer.

Let's get outside and run shall we?

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AURORAMILLET 2/27/2013 3:04PM


you can do it

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CHALLENGEME4 2/27/2013 2:55PM

    Timed pity party I lie that though 2 mins don't seem long enough maybe 5 mins an issue
You have the right idea you just need to get moving. when I am in the house and late at night the problems always seem much more stressful and hard to figure out But in the sunlight and away from the situation emoticon always makes me feel like I can handle them and come up with better solutions/ideas

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KJELLYBEAN15 2/27/2013 2:39PM

    You're right. You cant fix everything but it's great you can work on those that you can. I would love to see your exercise schedule. I have been trying to come up with one but not very creative. I think your mom had a great idea with the timed pity party. I might have to try that one at home. My girls would think I have lost it. But it sure would lessen some of these headaches that I get at home. You have done an amazing job. Look at where you are right now. Sure it might not be where you were hoping it would be but it's a lot further than it would be had you not changed your life. And sure you ventured down some detours but thats all they were - at least they weren't dead ends. Sending you a great big hug.

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1CRAZYDOG 2/27/2013 1:10PM

    You know, it really is so hard with challenges to help our kids "get it" . . . and it's challenging even under ideal circumstances! Hang in there. You ARE determined and that will carry you forward. HUGS and prayers.

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ANATASHIKI 2/27/2013 1:05PM

    that's the spirit! do what you can and accept what you can't change. lol , foodtopia , huh? emoticon

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 2/27/2013 12:15PM

    You can do it!!! :) I'm proud of you sis! I know you've been going through a rough patch but you never give up! :)

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TROOPER1961 2/27/2013 11:44AM

    Glad to see you are *back on track!!* emoticon

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HHB4181 2/27/2013 11:16AM

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BLUENOSE63 2/27/2013 10:52AM

  Love the idea of the two minute pity party! Defintely going to use that with the kids as well!

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HAPPYMENOW58 2/27/2013 10:43AM

    You are on the right track...and you can do it!!!! I love your timed pity party idea...Will try it!!!!!! emoticon

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