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Being Human

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Top Ten Rules for Being Human

Rule One - You will receive a body. Whether you love it or hate it, it's yours for life, so accept it. What counts is what's inside.

Rule Two - You will be presented with lessons. Life is a constant learning experience, which every day provides opportunities for you to learn more. These lessons are specific to you, and learning them 'is the key to discovering and fulfilling the meaning and relevance of your own life'.

Rule Three - There are no mistakes, only lessons. Your development towards wisdom is a process of experimentation, trial and error, so it's inevitable things will not always go to plan or turn out how you'd want. Compassion is the remedy for harsh judgment - of ourselves and others. Forgiveness is not only divine - it's also 'the act of erasing an emotional debt'. Behaving ethically, with integrity, and with humour - especially the ability to laugh at yourself and your own mishaps - are central to the perspective that 'mistakes' are simply lessons we must learn.

Rule Four - The lesson is repeated until learned. Lessons repeat until learned. What manifest as problems and challenges, irritations and frustrations are more lessons - they will repeat until you see them as such and learn from them. Your own awareness and your ability to change are requisites of executing this rule. Also fundamental is the acceptance that you are not a victim of fate or circumstance - 'causality' must be acknowledged; that is to say: things happen to you because of how you are and what you do. To blame anyone or anything else for your misfortunes is an escape and a denial; you yourself are responsible for you, and what happens to you. Patience is required - change doesn't happen overnight, so give change time to happen.

Rule Five - Learning does not end. While you are alive there are always lessons to be learned. Surrender to the 'rhythm of life', don't struggle against it. Commit to the process of constant learning and change - be humble enough to always acknowledge your own weaknesses, and be flexible enough to adapt from what you may be accustomed to, because rigidity will deny you the freedom of new possibilities.

Rule Six - "There" is no better than "here". The other side of the hill may be greener than your own, but being there is not the key to endless happiness. Be grateful for and enjoy what you have, and where you are on your journey. Appreciate the abundance of what's good in your life, rather than measure and amass things that do not actually lead to happiness. Living in the present helps you attain peace.

Rule Seven - Others are only mirrors of you. You love or hate something about another person according to what love or hate about yourself. Be tolerant; accept others as they are, and strive for clarity of self-awareness; strive to truly understand and have an objective perception of your own self, your thoughts and feelings. Negative experiences are opportunities to heal the wounds that you carry. Support others, and by doing so you support yourself. Where you are unable to support others it is a sign that you are not adequately attending to your own needs.

Rule Eight - What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. Take responsibility for yourself. Learn to let go when you cannot change things. Don't get angry about things - bitter memories clutter your mind. Courage resides in all of us - use it when you need to do what's right for you. We all possess a strong natural power and adventurous spirit, which you should draw on to embrace what lies ahead.

Rule Nine - Your answers lie inside of you. Trust your instincts and your innermost feelings, whether you hear them as a little voice or a flash of inspiration. Listen to feelings as well as sounds. Look, listen, and trust. Draw on your natural inspiration.

Rule Ten - You will forget all this at birth. We are all born with all of these capabilities - our early experiences lead us into a physical world, away from our spiritual selves, so that we become doubtful, cynical and lacking belief and confidence. The ten Rules are not commandments, they are universal truths that apply to us all. When you lose your way, call upon them. Have faith in the strength of your spirit. Aspire to be wise - wisdom the ultimate path of your life, and it knows no limits other than those you impose on yourself.

- Cherie Carter-Scott. Scott is an author, life coach, and motivational speaker offers consulting and coaching on all aspects of change management.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
BLINDEDPANDA 3/13/2013 12:10PM

    Love this! Thanks!

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PAULA3420 3/6/2013 2:45PM

    This was a great read and I always like positive thoughts for living. emoticon

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BLUEJEAN99 3/6/2013 12:05AM

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WILLEYDEBORAH 3/2/2013 10:41AM

    Thank you so much for sharing. emoticon emoticon

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MIAJOEB 3/1/2013 12:38PM

    =) thank you for sending me the blog... Great job.

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PUPPYWHISPERS 2/28/2013 12:38PM

    This is fantastic! Thank you so much for sharing it!

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JANE1216 2/28/2013 11:32AM

    emoticon Thanks for sharing --- there are some excellent ideas and thoughts in there!

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WENDYDANCER 2/28/2013 10:25AM

    Thanks for sharing!

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WHEREIS170 2/28/2013 8:51AM

    Thank you for sharing.

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SUNSHINE99999 2/28/2013 12:36AM

  very nice indeed.

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NEWTINK 2/27/2013 11:23PM

    Very nice blog .. thank you for sharing it emoticon

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SSDOWNS 2/27/2013 7:32PM

    Thank you for writeing this.
I needed this.

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LIZARDG7 2/27/2013 6:45PM

    Thanks for sharing.


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KRYS210 2/27/2013 5:59PM

    emoticon for sharing! It has a great message!

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    Good insight. Thanks for sharing.

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SPARK-PPL-GIRL 2/27/2013 5:00PM

    I feel that this post is particularly meaningful when we view it through our creator's lens. My hope is that whoever reads through this does not view it as an attack or an argument against the original post, but a different way to view the same/similar concepts.

Rule 1: God made us with his own image in mind. Despite what we view as our imperfections, we should strive to have life and live it to it's fullest through the guidance of Jesus, our family, and friends.

Rule 2: God will place trials and tribulations in our path. These are meant to be lessons. With each lesson, we shed more of our imperfect self and we learn to take on our new self which was who God created us to be.

Rule 3: I do believe there are such things as mistakes, but we should not beat ourselves up over them or have guilt. If we are truly distraught we should take our concern to God in prayer and he will release us of the guilt of our mistakes. Wisdom does not come from trial and error. It comes from knowing God who is the creator of all things, including wisdom. Compassion and Forgiveness are a big part of of God's plan for us not to experience condemnation for the mistakes we've made. Thank God they exist!

Rule 4: Lessons are certainly repeated until they are learned. God has a funny way of placing people or things in our path over and over again. It's our choice whether to ignore that or to find meaning and say, "Even if I don't want this for myself, I trust that God knows it will be good for me" To learn to love what God loves and knows is the best thing for you is a lesson in itself (this part is where your own awareness and ability to change comes into it). While learning these lessons of life, you need to remember not to blame others for your own mistakes. Patience, love, and kindness are also learned during this time from others around us and from those who have gone before us whose stories are written in the Bible.

Rule 5: Thank God learning does not stop. We are constantly being taught lessons from the moment of birth to our last breath. This is something to be grateful for even if those lessons feel like a struggle because it means we can always improve. Even though as humans we can never reach the level of perfection that God has, the fight to be your best self is never second best. Recognize this and humility will always be at your doorstep.

Rule 6: There" is no better than "here". The key to happiness is not what you have, what you worked to attain, or what you currently want, it's knowing God's true love and peace for you is happiness. We live for today, but we also live for the future. Not the foreseen future of our neighbor's have , but for the unseen; our eternal future in heaven with God where we can reap rewards for being a good and faithful servant of God.

Rule 7: Don't focus on others. Others strengths and weaknesses need not matter, they don't need to be a reflection of yours. Instead keep your eye focused on God. Measure yourself up to God's standards of living because he's your creator and when you fall short ( because you are only human and not God). Give your thoughts, hopes, fears/worries to HIM and he will direct your path. He can use negative experiences and turn them around for the better. So as you attend to your own needs in this way, you can be a stronger support system for others who are also struggling.

Rule 8: You can choose to do whatever you want with your life. God created us with free-will. Use that free-will to your advantage because you have all the tools and resources (Jesus/God (in prayer), the Bible, books, your pastor, family, and friends, etc.) you need to live life to it's fullest. So take responsibility for yourself, and use these tools wisely. What you do with them is up to you. So don't get easily angered, learn to let go sometimes when necessary, and have courage. If you find any of these areas hard to put into practice because they don't come naturally, pray to God to give you these virtues.

Rule 9: Remember the answer DOES NOT lie within our own selves. If it did, we would have figured it out a long time ago without much stress or fatigue. My instincts and inner most feelings always tell me the wrong thing. In the case of a healthy lifestyle change, they beckon me to a small french fry from McDonald's when I pass it in the car and to put off exercise for "just" one more day. Our instincts and inner most feelings often tell us lies. Even the littlest most white lies that end up snowballing. Instead, I will look outward for the answer. I will trust the one who knows me better than I know myself, God. Why? Because He created me and therefore knows everything about me physically and mentally. He knows my limits and my potential. To some this may seem cowardly to "shrug" off responsibility from myself, but I feel to put my trust and faith in the unseen is more courageous than pure self-reliance.

Rule 10: You will forget this all at birth. You will NOT remember how you were created or who created you for what purpose. Rule 10 is so true, when it says, " early experiences lead us into a physical world, away from our spiritual selves, so that we become doubtful, cynical and lacking belief and confidence" That's why I feel my journey in life is to recognize God as my creator and to be shaped into the person he created me to be apart from all that doubt and lack of confidence. Your journey in life can be the same if you realize your brokenness just as I have (really the brokenness of humanity) and accept God's love and guidance while on this earth.

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SONGBIRDCINDY 2/27/2013 3:07PM

    The greatest lesson one can ever learn is to Love God and LOVE ONE ANOTHER... IF WE LOVE ONE ANOTHER... WE ARE LOVING GOD.

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VEGEFARMER 2/27/2013 2:10PM

    Thank you so much for sharing, just love it. :)

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MDMARSHAL1 2/27/2013 2:10PM

    Thanks for sharing. May God order your steps. Keep believing, trusting, and loving.

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JANEMARIE77 2/27/2013 1:48PM

    great stuff thanks for sharing emoticon

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BJPENNY70 2/27/2013 1:41PM

    This is great! Thank you for sharing this. It is all true. Positivity and determination! emoticon

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VELVETLADY1950 2/27/2013 1:29PM

    OMGoodness. emoticon You were right I love this blog. emoticon I shared it in email to friends not on sparkpeople.
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TUBLADY 2/27/2013 12:37PM

    Love it, I will copy and refer to it . Thank you. we all need to be reminded of these lessons throughout our lives.
Be strong, stay positive,.
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AURORAMILLET 2/27/2013 12:22PM

    I love it!!!!

Thank you for sharing!!!


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MANILUS 2/27/2013 10:19AM

    Thank you so much for sharing, this is awesome!

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1CRAZYDOG 2/27/2013 10:17AM

    Fabulous! Lessons in life are constant, aren't they! Here's hoping today is a better day and you're feeling better. Thank you so much for sharing your blog.


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SWANATOPIA 2/27/2013 9:55AM

    Love this!


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GINIEMIE 2/27/2013 9:37AM

    Thanks for sharing these. Good food for thought.


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MOSTMOM1 2/27/2013 9:32AM

    Life is a big lesson. But then again, I always liked school.

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MYUTMOST4HIM 2/27/2013 8:46AM

    I disagree with number 7 but ortherwise pretty accurate

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SPARKMYWAY47 2/27/2013 8:37AM

    I found this yesterday while surfing the net and put the first 4 in my vlog. It was such a good insiteful read that I wanted to share it with all my sparkfriends.

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